Cora Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I tend to go through these phases....like sometimes I would like to start dating because I long to find someone who would be compatible and that I could start a relationship with. Then other times I think the whole concept is so silly and ridiculous! Like I almost feel embarrassed for even wanting to date. Seriously, the whole idea of going on dates whether it be out to dinner, a movie, bowling whatever....you are basically doing this and going on these dates to feel these people out and see if they are compatible. It's almost as if you are being interviewed to see if you are relationship material. Of course you are interviewing the other person as well. You may tell yourself you are going out just to have fun, but deep down you know the real reason is you want companionship and you are testing these people to see if they meet your standards. I think it's so stupid because it's almost as if we need companionship. We really don't, and yet there are times I still long for it. Right now I think it's rather silly, but give me a few days and I'll wish I had someone. Damn these feelings! It's a conflict of emotions. Am I just weird or are their others who ever feel this way?
Els Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) I think we don't 'need' companionship, but some of us are wired to really 'want' it, just like how some people are wired to 'want' babies, etc. You can't blame yourself for feeling the need - because if one were to talk about things we truly need, we can't really get past oxygen, food, and water. I think some people here bring the 'independent' thing a bit too far... saying you must be completely fine without companionship to signify that you're a strong, independent person, etc... I call falsity on that. I can guarantee you that I'm happier with a companion than I've been in my life without one, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's just that one shouldn't sacrifice integral things (self-respect, well-being, health, etc) in an all-encompassing search for companionship. Edited November 26, 2009 by Elswyth
AliveAndKicking Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Well if you're wierd then I'm weird too because I TOTALLY relate to what you're saying! The whole "date thing" is so pretentious. I'm newly single and not "dating" right now and not really sure that I want to, later, when I'm ready. The whole damn thing is just so contrived. I'm totally inarticulate today so that's about all I can contrbute right now but yeah- I "get" ya 100%
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