b52s Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 ....this is something I noticed, esp with the past posts here involving this topic. The singles that are supremely focused too much on finding "that one", are the ones that are also unreasonably picky and/or superficial. Just things I've noticed, because when observing through my social circles and the like, we have some women in these groups (and guys). There's this one woman, when she first met this guy in our group, stuck to him like glue. Even to the point of sitting close to him, even putting her arm through his (locking arms) while sitting next to each other. He didn't seem to chummy back, and I know I wouldn't be, because she came off as desperate. It was just too soon to be acting like that. It's kind of funny, because I know a couple of guys that went out with some of these women that had no interest in me....and upon finding out from them when these guys went out with said women....they were already "gushing" about how he was "the one". Scared the dickens out of him, and he didn't go out with her again, actually happened on a couple of occasions. Major turn-off. At some of the Meetups, a friend of mine was telling me he would join a TON of Meetup groups, but never hardly attend them. What I heard, he would RSVP "Yes" for an event....then at the last minute would pull out, because he would see would be attending, decide "Meh, too many ugly chicks" and bail on going. One time, he actually did show up to a Singles Game night at a small lounge, and would kind of sit back (not introduce himself) to see who would show up. I think he finally decided to participate, but then he would try to get girls to join the group event, even though they weren't even a part of it. LOL Yikes You can kind of tell the desperate ones are also the overly picky ones (not saying all, but just a pattern I have noticed in their behaviors). They become desperate when they DO find a one they like. And typically, they completely ignore friendly chat....just to make friends, and be complete snobs towards them. They don't care to "be friendly". Some women, come to these gatherings with a friend or two, discover they don't like what they see, and find some corner booth or table to converse with just themselves. And when someone from the group tries to introduce themselves....they're "short" with them. This is just something I've noticed beyond the "online" realm that I see people talk about on here. Anyhow, Happy Thanksgiving!
Author b52s Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 I don't care what you say! I am in love with her and we are going to get married just as soon as the restraining order expires!!! LOL....good one.
kizik Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I agree that people are too focused on dating, but I have no idea what you're talking about in regards to the meetup stuff. Happy Thanksgiving to you, too!
Lakeside_runner Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 I agree that people are too focused on dating, but I have no idea what you're talking about in regards to the meetup stuff. Happy Thanksgiving to you, too! There's a website called meetup.com and there's a ton of various meetup group on it. I'm in a running group through this website but I'm not doing it for dating purposes. Anyways, I used to be quite desperate. I think as soon as these people find something to focus their energy on, something other than dating, it goes away and they're back to normal.
threebyfate Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 People want what they can't have. So if they want a date or if they're attracted to someone, and can't get it, it becomes an obsessive focus. Distraction or finding something healthy to focus on, is a great way to break obsessive focus.
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