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Offend? No. A turn-off? Yes.

 

 

Well You can't help what you like!

 

Would you prefer an average looking girl with awesome long hair- or a pretty face with shoulder length hair? I'd go with the pretty face- but I am not a guy...

 

I keep my hair long because I like it. I think that is what is important. You rock what you like.

 

My "thing" is for guys with black hair and blue eyes- but all my long term relationships have been with blondies. I don't think the OP's date would be disappointed with shoulder length hair as long as there isn't a discrepancy with age and weight between now and the former pictures.

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Newbiegrl, I really think there is no reason for you to worry. This isn't the first thread about long hair vs. short hair.

 

You can usually count guys like me who really don't like short hair on one hand. Judging by the answers in previous threads and what I have seen in real life, the vast majority of men really don't care even if you have very short hair.

 

And yours isn't even that short. Just send that guy you are talking to a recent photo and see what happens. There is a very good chance that that he will like your hair the way it is.

 

so, you don't like short. let me ask this. would you not date a girl if you know she had short hair before meeting her? its ok if you wouldn't but just asking. i know one thing im not someone to go change my hair for a guy. if a guy tries to change your hair, to me that is a red flag as he is probably very controlling

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Well You can't help what you like!

 

Would you prefer an average looking girl with awesome long hair- or a pretty face with shoulder length hair? I'd go with the pretty face- but I am not a guy...

 

Shoulder length hair is fine with me.

 

If the one with the pretty face had a pixie cut though, she'd probably not even show up on my radar.

 

I do rate the whole package, so a pretty face with the bad haircut would probably not look better to me than the average girl with the nice hair. I never looked at a woman and thought "She has such a pretty face but her hair is terrible" or "thank God her hair is beautiful because her face is only average".

 

It's a combination of the two (and other factors). It's hard to say, but I guess in a theoretical scenario (and no other exclusion criteria involved), I'd probably pick the average girl with the long hair instead of the one with a pretty face and a pixie cut.

 

 

I keep my hair long because I like it. I think that is what is important. You rock what you like.

 

I am not saying she has to have a hair cut that she herself doesn't like. But since she was asking for opinions, I offered mine.

 

 

I don't think the OP's date would be disappointed with shoulder length hair as long as there isn't a discrepancy with age and weight between now and the former pictures.

 

I agree with you.

 

 

 

so, you don't like short. let me ask this. would you not date a girl if you know she had short hair before meeting her? its ok if you wouldn't but just asking. i know one thing im not someone to go change my hair for a guy. if a guy tries to change your hair, to me that is a red flag as he is probably very controlling

 

:laugh: Fair enough, although I don't think of it as controlling.

 

I have never asked out a woman with very short hair, and I very much doubt that I ever would. It's just not what I like. Thankfully, I was also always lucky enough that no gf ever thought of cutting her hair that short. But if any of them had come home with a pixie cut, I'd have told her that I am not too happy about it. And I'd have asked her to grow it at least a bit longer again as a favour for me.

 

In your case, where I would have already talked to the woman for a while, and where I already like her, I think I'd give it a try. But I'd probably hope she'll eventually grow her hair a bit longer. I really don't see that request as a big deal. All my gf's wanted me to be clean shaven and didn't like the idea of me looking like Bigfoot. So I shaved and they didn't cut their hair.

 

You also have to keep in mind that I wouldn't date Halle Berry; thus my sanity can rightfully be questioned. ;)

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Hair length doesnt bother me as long as the girl doesnt look like a guy.. U know really really short hair..

 

Some girls can pull it off and i wouldnt mind but most girls cant..

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Personally, I prefer long hair. The longer the better as I'm just not attracted to women with short, non-wavy hair.

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i have been talking to a guy online for a few days. during one of our chats, he briefly mentions he likes longer hair on a girl. this is before i showed him a picture of myself. my hair is not exactly long, but not extremely short. so now i'm thinking he will hesitate to meet me/date me because of my hair. is hair really that important to guys? i know it shouldn't matter too much, but every guy has preferences.

 

guys on here, tell me what you think. what length of hair do you like best? how important is it to you? would you not date a girl over her hair?

 

 

At least shoulder lenght :mad: (need to have something to easily grab on and pull in a doggie style situation :laugh::p:love::o)

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At least shoulder lenght :mad: (need to have something to easily grab on and pull in a doggie style situation :laugh::p:love::o)

 

i had a feeling someone might bring that up lol

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I had a guy who told me he preferred long hair and I shouldn't have had mine all cropped off. He still wanted to date me, because hair grows.... although he did moan on a bit that I should grow my hair, which I did because I didn't much like it short anyway. If he refuses to date an otherwise compatible girl because of hair length, he's an idiot.

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i had a feeling someone might bring that up lol

 

 

Let's also not forget that long hair can me more easily messed up during a romp, and it stays messy and sticking in all directions (so it's easier to establish that you've done a good job byt just throwing a cusory look in girl's direction :laugh::love:).

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Let's also not forget that long hair can me more easily messed up during a romp, and it stays messy and sticking in all directions (so it's easier to establish that you've done a good job byt just throwing a cusory look in girl's direction :laugh::love:).

 

:laugh: yeah that is true i guess.

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I had a GF who chopped off all her hair and it instantly made me less attracted to her.

 

Shoulder-length is ideal. Too long makes a girl look just like... a girl. Shoulder-length or a couple inches shorter shows confidence and sexiness.

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when i was a young girl, i had very long hair, my mum wouldnt let me cut it.

 

I fantasised about having really short hair, and now I do and I love it.

 

I did grow it again a few years ago to below my shoulders and it was just the biggest pain!

 

The interesting thing i found was that i attracted a completely different type of man depending on if my hair was long or short.

I always attracted more individual type people when i had short hair. Maybe its because i dont look generic with short hair and therefore i attract people who like that kind of individuality.

 

Also, i felt generally less attractive with longer hair, as i wasnt so able to express myself via my self image, so maybe people pick up on that too.

 

If a woman has the right face and head shape, short hair can really bring our their features.

 

Some of my friends say they would love really short hair but cant get away with it, either because of their faces (too round etc) or because their boyfriends wouldnt like it, which i think is a shame. people should be able to look how they want.

 

I personally like the androgenous short hair cuts, like this one...

 

http://www.facebook.com/search/?flt=1&q=girls%20with%20short%20hair&o=69&sid=1283930898.1112168460..1#/photo.php?pid=30424321&op=3&o=all&view=all&subj=5456554106&aid=-1&oid=5456554106&id=1081295632

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when i was a young girl, i had very long hair, my mum wouldnt let me cut it.

 

Hehe, that's weird! I thought mums always liked super neat short hair on their kids. I know my mum made a big fuss about not wanting me to grow my hair out (when I was a kid, she always instructed the stylist to cut it so that it wasn't below the ear! The ear, mind you!!). I didn't really bother doing anything about it while I was in school because schools also have crappy rules about color of hairbands, etc, which is a big bother (too many of my friends have spent thirty minutes arguing with a prefect over whether their hairbands were black or dark green...). As soon as I graduated high school, though, I grew it out immediately. Have never even considered going back since. :)

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Too long makes a girl look just like... a girl. Shoulder-length or a couple inches shorter shows confidence and sexiness.

 

Are you saying you think girls with longer hair are not as confident or sexy? Just curious, as to what you are implying there. I doubt you are saying that, but if so kind of a crazy statement IMO.

 

My hair is quite a few inches below shoulder. My entire life, I've had guys I hardly know at work or wherever tell me to never cut my hair. Or, guys I've dated have always really liked my long hair. I personally think its very sexy to have long hair, and every guy I've known thinks so. Not extremely long, but you know what I mean.

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My hair is way too long, (IMO) its near my waist, and drives me crazy. I've had guys tell me (when I cut my hair off a few years ago into a POB) that it looked silly. But if you like your hair long, short, medium (I'd say yours was mid-long by what you described) that's YOUR preferance. if he likes you, it should be a deal breaker, plus you can always invest in extensions, though long hair is an absolute pain to maintain. Mine is up all the time. haha.

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when i was a young girl, i had very long hair, my mum wouldnt let me cut it.

 

I fantasised about having really short hair, and now I do and I love it.

 

I did grow it again a few years ago to below my shoulders and it was just the biggest pain!

 

The interesting thing i found was that i attracted a completely different type of man depending on if my hair was long or short.

I always attracted more individual type people when i had short hair. Maybe its because i dont look generic with short hair and therefore i attract people who like that kind of individuality.

 

Also, i felt generally less attractive with longer hair, as i wasnt so able to express myself via my self image, so maybe people pick up on that too.

 

If a woman has the right face and head shape, short hair can really bring our their features.

 

Some of my friends say they would love really short hair but cant get away with it, either because of their faces (too round etc) or because their boyfriends wouldnt like it, which i think is a shame. people should be able to look how they want.

 

I personally like the androgenous short hair cuts, like this one...

 

http://www.facebook.com/search/?flt=1&q=girls%20with%20short%20hair&o=69&sid=1283930898.1112168460..1#/photo.php?pid=30424321&op=3&o=all&view=all&subj=5456554106&aid=-1&oid=5456554106&id=1081295632

 

 

Long hair is such a pain! I'd advise anyone not to do it, lol. I didn't like my hair short, I like it long but damn, it's annoying, if I forget to take a hair tie out with me, I go crazy. some girls really suit short hair, i.e. victoria beckham, rihanna, halle berry, sarah harding etc and that blond girl from the pussycat dolls. But you have to have the features to do it-Posh works it because she has very delicate and pixie like features, most girls do suit long hair, but Posh doesn't, she suits short way better.

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when i met my H, i had shoulder-skimming hair, pretty normal.

After we had been together a while I cut it off back to a crop, i was a bit worried about what he would think, he was a bit unsure at first, as it was just so different, but then he realised the benefits, when it was longer he used to roll over in bed and get a mouthfull of my hair which he didnt like, and also it doesnt hang down into his eyes when i'm on top, and its much easier to kiss my neck.

 

I think the nape of the neck is a very beautiful part of the body, and when i did have longer hair i used to wear it up most of the time so my neck was visable.

 

Any hair has to be in good condition. long ratty hair is not attractive.

If I had 'good' hair, i'd be more likely to wear it longer but it just get knotty and flys about the place!

 

i do sometimes see girls with lovely shiney long waves and think 'she's got lovely hair' but its just not for me.

 

also, i'm very short and long hair tends to make me look even shorter!

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As long as the girl's hair is longer then mine =).

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My hair was short, ranging from Jamie Lee Curtis (Fish Called Wanda) to Halle Berry Pixie for 3 years while I was single. I found it kept serious jerks away and I loved how easy it was to style. I ended up missing long bangs till the reverse bob came along. Now its my standard hairstyle.

 

But I never had a shortage of guy prospects. Twice a guy suggested I grew it longer on one date. It was one of the reasons I stopped calling him. Considering a guy's hair could completely fall out and never come back no matter what I might prefer, I don't enjoy men who must have this long hair standard met. You're suppose to be dating the person for who they are and not just what they look like. It let me know it was more about what I looked like and he might end up being one of those guys who is constantly comparing you to other women. YUK!

 

Hey! At least I won't go perma bald - be happy with what makes me feel good about my appearance and I won't torment you about your hairline. :laugh:

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My hair was short, ranging from Jamie Lee Curtis (Fish Called Wanda) to Halle Berry Pixie for 3 years while I was single. I found it kept serious jerks away and I loved how easy it was to style. I ended up missing long bangs till the reverse bob came along. Now its my standard hairstyle.

 

But I never had a shortage of guy prospects. Twice a guy suggested I grew it longer on one date. It was one of the reasons I stopped calling him. Considering a guy's hair could completely fall out and never come back no matter what I might prefer, I don't enjoy men who must have this long hair standard met. You're suppose to be dating the person for who they are and not just what they look like. It let me know it was more about what I looked like and he might end up being one of those guys who is constantly comparing you to other women. YUK!

 

Hey! At least I won't go perma bald - be happy with what makes me feel good about my appearance and I won't torment you about your hairline. :laugh:

 

yeah, thats the real point, if I said a man must have a certain type of hair, i'd be slated for being superficial, yet this thread seems to be saying that its fine for men to require a certain length of hair because they dont see women as feminine enough if they have short hair!

 

Gosh, if a guy had ever asked me to change anything about my appearance i'd have been deeply offended but in the angry and indignant way, not the sappy and upset way!

 

One of my friends really likes long hair on men and asked her BF to grow his, even though he has hair that grows outwards, like a shrub.

he looked ridiculous!

I guess some men also have to suffer their partners 'preferences'

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well i showed him my picture yesterday. he told me i was very cute. i still wonder whether or not he likes my hair. he didn't really say anything about it. probably doesn't like it lol :confused:

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well i showed him my picture yesterday. he told me i was very cute. i still wonder whether or not he likes my hair. he didn't really say anything about it. probably doesn't like it lol :confused:

 

Just in case you forgot that because you are so worried about your hair:

 

If a guy tells you that you are very cute, that's a good thing. Try not to take the replies in this thread so seriously, what matters is if you and that guy get along. And it looks like you are on a good way.

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i have been talking to a guy online for a few days. during one of our chats, he briefly mentions he likes longer hair on a girl. this is before i showed him a picture of myself. my hair is not exactly long, but not extremely short. so now i'm thinking he will hesitate to meet me/date me because of my hair. is hair really that important to guys? i know it shouldn't matter too much, but every guy has preferences.

 

guys on here, tell me what you think. what length of hair do you like best? how important is it to you? would you not date a girl over her hair?

 

I like short heair with some length on it...but not to the point where they look like a dude.....yikes.

 

Then there's women who gain a lot of wait, then they disappoint their husband by chopping it all off as if they were in boot camp having the wife loose every ounce of femininity they have. lol

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well i showed him my picture yesterday. he told me i was very cute. i still wonder whether or not he likes my hair. he didn't really say anything about it. probably doesn't like it lol :confused:
If he's not attracted, he won't date you. So, instead of worrying about it so much, when it might be nothing, why not maintain an open mind and see where this goes?

 

If you want something to worry about, worry about whether he's the right fit for you, rather than worrying about whether you appeal to him or not.

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I like short heair with some length on it...but not to the point where they look like a dude.....yikes.

 

Then there's women who gain a lot of wait, then they disappoint their husband by chopping it all off as if they were in boot camp having the wife loose every ounce of femininity they have. lol

 

Ever met a fat guy with short hair who came off as effeminate? Jay McCarroll and Chris March from Project Runway - both fat with short hair and queenie acting.

 

I have met a few guys like this IRL, so I'm wondering what obesity and hair length really have to do with femininity..............

 

Here you go; your dream wife:

 

http://attuworld.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/long-haired-man-460x690.jpg

 

:laugh:

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