JoJola Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 ok, all i have made a few posts about this guy I have been dating now for over 5 months.....it has been an up and down thing! At first things were cool, then I quit communicating with him cuase of a few things he did that did not impress me...then he came back at me full force so we got it together again...so in the last month I felt things slipping a bit so I got the courage to ask him if we were just becoming "Booty Call"........now this is the answer i got. First..he got a little angry at that question, then stated...well you can call it anything you want...booty call, dating, hook up, etc...ok then i ask why he pretended to care about me then...at this piont the man sat straight up, crossed his arms and plainly stated ....No I wont answer you, I will think about it...I will think about what we are! I said "no" that is not good enough, well his repsonse was No, I am not answering you..I will not..No! At that point well of course Im a little stunned at why he wont be honest with me and turns it on me....Why cant he jst tell me what he thinks, why does he leave the explanation to me as to what we are and then refuse to answer? I was not intimidating, demanding, or giving an ultimatum; just want an up front answer...and he turns it on me, says he will think about it and no i cant have an answer....so I turned and said ok, I guess I know I have to go now..........then the man came over to me and gave me a bunch of kisses, a hug, and said I will talk to you later, drive safe....now i am kinda of pissed why he would act this way! He seems to be very jealous about me and what i do and hang with..like last sunday when I told him I went to dinner, he immediately repsonded "with who", so I told him my girlfriend with whom he knows...now i guess I should move on, but can anyone give me some insight on what he may be thinking.....
jerseyboy Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 LOL Just grasping at straws here Ill take D) Hes insane Final answer
Trimmer Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Is it possible that you backed him, however gently, into the corner of "the relationship talk" and he wasn't going to commit himself to having the talk off-the-cuff, but wanted to think it through for himself? Why, if he was willing to give the topic some thought without spewing out an answer on the spot, was that not good enough for you? You have probably been thinking about it for a while, so you were ready to talk. Face it: he had been thinking about it for 10 seconds - since you asked the question - and probably had a sense that he was on the edge of a quicksand pool, and thought it wise to consider his response before speaking. Now, if he puts you off and consistently refuses to address it, then you've got a problem, especially if it indicates to you that you two are seeing the relationship differently.
Author JoJola Posted November 25, 2009 Author Posted November 25, 2009 Well, geezz; should I dare contact him.....or wait for him to contact me. At this point I am not sure what to do? I dont want to press the issue but would love for him to know how important to me he is.....im not sure ive expressed that..could it be he does not know where i am coming from and i should tell him or just wait. I am not sure I will still be here if I wait for him.......its just too painful and I dont know what approach to take at this point.
New Again Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 Well, geezz; should I dare contact him.....or wait for him to contact me. At this point I am not sure what to do? I dont want to press the issue but would love for him to know how important to me he is.....im not sure ive expressed that..could it be he does not know where i am coming from and i should tell him or just wait. I am not sure I will still be here if I wait for him.......its just too painful and I dont know what approach to take at this point. If he is even semi-intelligent he will know where you are coming from: you want a relationship, which is why you and he have had all this drama, and why you asked him about your relationship.
Author JoJola Posted November 27, 2009 Author Posted November 27, 2009 Now it has been since Tuesday and we have not had any contact..where does a person go from here? Just walk away when it seems like there is so much left to say...its jst driving me insane because i need to know. How we left things was not right and I myself cant stand it! Do I call, text, or jst leave alone
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