b52s Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I met this woman online...not a dating site, but more of a social networking site. She joined it to meet new people at places like bowling or movie nights She's local to me somewhat. I got to talking to her back and forth and she did reveal a lot about herself. She moved to the area from up north and is now living in the house her dad owns, she plans to buy it from her dad because she'll have money with her new job. (She works for her dad, too) I asked her if she was married or single. She moved to an area where people her age (and mine) are mostly married or taken and I explained most of my friends are married so I hardly hang with them anymore...and anyone that is single is (widowed or World War II aged, lol) I live in a more remote area. She says she's satisfied being single and that she's pretty independent and enjoys being alone (not sure if she's feeding me a line,but I can't see how someone can ENJOY being alone, wierd...I don't enjoy it, lol)...and she gets along with people of all ages. (I do, but I just prefer not to hang out with them) She says she takes her dog to the park, and gets a kick out of the people there. She's in the process of getting to know her new "step" family....and as soon as she starts missing her old friends (from her old, smaller town she's from) ...she'll start going out and socializing. She's also looking for a local theater group to join. I've known single women to move to this area, realize there's really no social outlet, and digging deeper. Men: I don't know if you've met a woman, then during the course of a conversation you start talking about "singlehood", dating, and then asking if she's married or single. And she comes back with things like that. Is she speaking "She's happy being single" in GENERAL.....or is she just interpreted as, "I'm single....but please, I hope I say all this so he doesn't bother asking me out. THough, we had some pretty good emails back and forth, was wondering if you guys had this kind of conversation with a woman before?
D-Jam Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I'd more take it as she's new in town, wants to get settled in and build social capital. I'd also take it as the underlying message of "don't ask me out...I'm not into you" I think you can be happy alone. I was before I met my GF. The happiness is because you might have gotten out of a lot of drama and misery, and thus you find a nice calmness and serene reality in being alone. I've mentioned to you about all the insanity I've faced in my past with dating...when I chose to be alone and happy it made more sense. Why keep going back into more misery when that's what it seems only comes out of dating for the person in particular? I'll bet there was some bad breakup or divorce or something before the move, and thus she's happy to be free and not have any drama/misery on her that might have existed in the past. I also think she's not choosing to be alone...but more choosing to wait for an above average male to change her mind and make her try again in dating.
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