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SoulSearch_CO Established Member

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BTW if you are looking for a "real match" forget internet dating and get out and meet guys in real life!

Dude. That's easy for you to say, near Denver - city chock-full of the most attractive men I've seen in such a condensed area. LOL I'd go there on my days off just to drool if it wasn't such a drive.

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Dude. That's easy for you to say, near Denver - city chock-full of the most attractive men I've seen in such a condensed area. LOL I'd go there on my days off just to drool if it wasn't such a drive.

 

lol...........

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Hmmm.. No, unfortunately I meant that his PICTURE is only mildly attractive... Of course, that's only my personal opinion. I guess maybe my taste in men is a little bit different than most perhaps... But that being said, I'm sure you can see from this thread that not everyone is going to find his looks and personality attractive, so it's not like all the women who click on his profile will be fighting for him or anything. If you're interested, theres nothing wrong with giving it a shot.

 

Uh yeah..

 

I think you have chosen a different way of saying the guy isn't your type. Maybe not.

 

He's not my type either, but I admit he has above average looks.

 

I noticed someone else mentioned he could probably get anyone he wanted. That is 100% not true. I wouldn't date him, and I'm sure a lot of other girls wouldn't either.

 

I guess I was surprised to see a guy like him on a dating site, and found it funny he was one of my ONLY matches. I just would never date someone like that. I'm aware the computer matches people, but I still think it should be doing a better job.

 

TKGIRL, didn't burst my bubble. Never had one. I wasn't gloating at the fact he was my match. Thank you for your tip for meeting men in "real" life. That truly comes in handy. I would have never thought of that. :rolleyes:

 

Ah, so I feel a bit bad for advertising his profile on here. I hope the poor guy never finds out.

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That guy looks familiar. I'd be leery....something fishy about him. I just can't put my finger on it. To each their own, but I don't like him. On another note, yeah, match can suck sometimes! I get a whole lot of matches I just instantly throw out of the window for whatever reason. I used to like match, but don't care for it as much anymore. Probably going to terminate my subscription soon. Internet dating just isn't worth it anymore. I'm slowly realizing that.

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Uh yeah..

 

I think you have chosen a different way of saying the guy isn't your type. Maybe not.

 

He's not my type either, but I admit he has above average looks.

 

I noticed someone else mentioned he could probably get anyone he wanted. That is 100% not true. I wouldn't date him, and I'm sure a lot of other girls wouldn't either.

 

I guess I was surprised to see a guy like him on a dating site, and found it funny he was one of my ONLY matches. I just would never date someone like that. I'm aware the computer matches people, but I still think it should be doing a better job.

 

TKGIRL, didn't burst my bubble. Never had one. I wasn't gloating at the fact he was my match. Thank you for your tip for meeting men in "real" life. That truly comes in handy. I would have never thought of that. :rolleyes:Ah, so I feel a bit bad for advertising his profile on here. I hope the poor guy never finds out.

 

The fact that you were getting so hung up on who a computer was matching you up with... maybe a little reality might be in order? just a thought... :rolleyes:

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Dude. That's easy for you to say, near Denver - city chock-full of the most attractive men I've seen in such a condensed area. LOL I'd go there on my days off just to drool if it wasn't such a drive.

 

I need to get down to Denver more often myself! that day we all had lunch... there was so much eye candy walking by :love: Boulder has got a lot of cuties too... more college age though which is too young for me ;) I think you and dreamer need to make a trip up this way and check them out there too!

SoulSearch_CO Established Member

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I need to get down to Denver more often myself! that day we all had lunch... there was so much eye candy walking by :love: Boulder has got a lot of cuties too... more college age though which is too young for me ;) I think you and dreamer need to make a trip up this way and check them out there too!

I'm a tad old for college guys. :sick: LOL

Els Established Member

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The fact that you were getting so hung up on who a computer was matching you up with... maybe a little reality might be in order? just a thought... :rolleyes:

 

She just made a post in the forums. Same like you did... about hers. :rolleyes:

dreamergrl Established Member

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She just made a post in the forums. Same like you did... about hers. :rolleyes:

 

Not quite the same.

 

I really hope the link to the guys profile gets edited out. Regardless if someone used another person's picture or not, that is someone in that profile, and there is no reason to parade them about on LS.

 

It was a computer generated match. What is the big deal?

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I think some of you are taking this thread way too seriously, or maybe you still don't understand why I wrote it. I'm sorry I did. :)

 

I was using the guys profile as an observation. My main point was I think the matching system sucks, whether that be computer generated or not. I was using the guys profile as an example as to what sort of matches I get. The guy was exact opposite of my type, and it made me stop and think, "this matching thing is way off and crazy". I'm not exactly ignorant, so I don't need a lecture on how the system works. I'm just saying it sucks.

 

The main question of this thread was. "So, how many girls receive matches that seem like complete BULL? Do you ever get matches that truly seem like matches? " Instead I'm told to go find a date in real life as if I'm a dud, and asked repeatably what the problem is and what is wrong with the guy in profile. People critiquing this dude right and left. I didn't think so much emphasis was going to be placed on him or wouldn't have posted it.

 

And again TKGirl, I wasn't getting that worked up over the matches the computer gave me. Like I said , it was just an observation, and I was questioning other girls experiences with receiving matches. Most of the dating sites I've used in the past, I didn't bother to go by my matches. It's just after using E-harmony, and getting ridiculous matches. Now match.com sends me some crazy ones as well. I just felt like saying something about it. It's not really that big of a deal to me personally.

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Not quite the same.

 

I really hope the link to the guys profile gets edited out. Regardless if someone used another person's picture or not, that is someone in that profile, and there is no reason to parade them about on LS.

 

It was a computer generated match. What is the big deal?

 

Thank you for having the link removed. Oh wait, you are not the moderator, but I noticed soon after your post the guys profile link was removed. Now what a coincidence is that. :rolleyes:

 

As I said, some people take things way too seriously. Well I hope this thread does die soon.

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Thank you for having the link removed. Oh wait, you are not the moderator, but I noticed soon after your post the guys profile link was removed. Now what a coincidence is that. :rolleyes:

 

As I said, some people take things way too seriously. Well I hope this thread does die soon.

 

I'm not the only one who stated it wasn't right for this guys profile to be posted on here :rolleyes:

 

I doubt you'd want your profile put on a forum for poking and prodding.

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I'm not the only one who stated it wasn't right for this guys profile to be posted on here :rolleyes:

 

I doubt you'd want your profile put on a forum for poking and prodding.

 

Actually...

 

You were one of the few to bring it directly up, but it's ok at this point

Els Established Member

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Not quite the same.

 

I really hope the link to the guys profile gets edited out. Regardless if someone used another person's picture or not, that is someone in that profile, and there is no reason to parade them about on LS.

 

It was a computer generated match. What is the big deal?

 

Tkgirl mentioned nothing about privacy issues or rules. That's a separate issue altogether.

 

She said the OP was 'hung up on a computer-generated match' and 'needs to get back to real life'. But frankly, I don't think the OP sounds 'hung up' - she didn't say she was dreaming about the guy day and night and was totally over the moon about how it boosted her self-esteem... she just said it was a curious match. Didn't know something needs to be a 'big deal' in order to qualify for a thread here.

 

Also, I can't see how a person who comments about a strange match generated online for her needs a 'dose of reality' any more than someone who clicks on, reads, and responds to the thread. Anyone who is a regular user of an online forum about relationships, IMO, has no right to say that anyone else should be spending time doing things in real life. Pot meet kettle, anyone?

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tkgirl Established Member

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Tkgirl mentioned nothing about privacy issues or rules. That's a separate issue altogether.

 

She said the OP was 'hung up on a computer-generated match' and 'needs to get back to real life'. But frankly, I don't think the OP sounds 'hung up' - she didn't say she was dreaming about the guy day and night and was totally over the moon about how it boosted her self-esteem... she just said it was a curious match. Didn't know something needs to be a 'big deal' in order to qualify for a thread here.

 

Also, I can't see how a person who comments about a strange match generated online for her needs a 'dose of reality' any more than someone who clicks on, reads, and responds to the thread. Anyone who is a regular user of an online forum about relationships, IMO, has no right to say that anyone else should be spending time doing things in real life. Pot meet kettle, anyone?

 

meet pot again... geez!

 

all I was trying to say was that these "matches" are ALL computer generated.. I did match for a while and would barely give any thought to the guys "they" matched me up with... in fact, I would just check the guys that contacted me pretty much and never contacted anyone first... I soon realized the online thing wasn't for me (shocker I know!)

 

I really wasn't trying to sound like a BEoch about it... the first time at least.

 

"communicating" thru a computer... yeah, fun times....

dreamergrl Established Member

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Tkgirl mentioned nothing about privacy issues or rules. That's a separate issue altogether.

 

I don't recall saying she mentioned anything about privacy issues. I was making my own statement.

 

She said the OP was 'hung up on a computer-generated match' and 'needs to get back to real life'. But frankly, I don't think the OP sounds 'hung up' - she didn't say she was dreaming about the guy day and night and was totally over the moon about how it boosted her self-esteem... she just said it was a curious match. Didn't know something needs to be a 'big deal' in order to qualify for a thread here.

 

I think the words were fake, and went on to start a thread where people started judging the profile in question. If the person isn't for her, or she thinks it's fake, just pass it by. Why make an ordeal over it?

 

Also, I can't see how a person who comments about a strange match generated online for her needs a 'dose of reality' any more than someone who clicks on, reads, and responds to the thread. Anyone who is a regular user of an online forum about relationships, IMO, has no right to say that anyone else should be spending time doing things in real life. Pot meet kettle, anyone?

 

TK simply suggested (due to her experience with match) that dating guys IRL would be a better option. OP then responded with a sarcastic comment.

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I was trying to bite my tongue, but I have to say this. :p

 

Honestly, TKgirl's posts made more sense although a bit extreme, than your completely off topic responses(Dreamer). As I've already stated, and indicated in my FIRST post, I was questioning other girls experiences with online matching. I used the guy as an example, because he was one of the poorest matches IMO, I've ever received. I wanted to know other's experiences. I do not think you understand the point of this thread, so I suggest not responding. Plus its completely getting further off topic which I believe is more against LS guidelines than posting some random dude's profile link.

 

It seems someone is implying I have no right to post this thread and you continue to criticize me over it. Perhaps, I should not have used his profile as an example of a sorry match, but please forgive me. :rolleyes:

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meet pot again... geez!

 

all I was trying to say was that these "matches" are ALL computer generated.. I did match for a while and would barely give any thought to the guys "they" matched me up with... in fact, I would just check the guys that contacted me pretty much and never contacted anyone first... I soon realized the online thing wasn't for me (shocker I know!)

 

I really wasn't trying to sound like a BEoch about it... the first time at least.

 

I never quoted nor mentioned your first post - although even if online dating isn't for you, you should respect that it might work for others instead of throwing in a general statement like that. It'd be like someone making a post about 'This Asian girl that I like is giving me subtle hints but I don't know whether she's being genuine or not', and getting a response saying, 'Why not date Caucasians instead?', y'know.

 

"communicating" thru a computer... yeah, fun times....

 

What exactly are you doing on these forums again? Not communicating, I take it. ;) Or maybe your secretary's typing it for you while you dictate to her?

 

I don't recall saying she mentioned anything about privacy issues. I was making my own statement.

 

Sorry, then. I saw you lump it in under my quoted statement so I assumed it was directed in response to me.

 

I think the words were fake, and went on to start a thread where people started judging the profile in question. If the person isn't for her, or she thinks it's fake, just pass it by. Why make an ordeal over it?

 

... She's making an ordeal over it?

 

Cmon, this can apply to half the threads on this forum - the Dating forum, especially, is quite trivial in this aspect. "Ooh, girl at work making eyes at me but I don't like her" "Well, if you don't like her, just ignore her, why make an ordeal over it?"

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Cmon, this can apply to half the threads on this forum - the Dating forum, especially, is quite trivial in this aspect. "Ooh, girl at work making eyes at me but I don't like her" "Well, if you don't like her, just ignore her, why make an ordeal over it?"

 

Well the guy in the profile didn't even contact her. I see no reason to post his profile on LS like that. That's the part that really irks me. I don't think anyone has a right to post a person's picture without their consent so others can make judgment calls and what not. It's not as if she was considering this guy, talking to this guy, or trying to come to some conclusion.

 

It's like when posters put up a link to a craigs list listing, with a picture and go on and on about how this fatty doesn't stand a chance or what not.

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Well the guy in the profile didn't even contact her. I see no reason to post his profile on LS like that. That's the part that really irks me. I don't think anyone has a right to post a person's picture without their consent so others can make judgment calls and what not. It's not as if she was considering this guy, talking to this guy, or trying to come to some conclusion.

 

So are you tying up the 'privacy policy' thing with your arguments or not? If you are, it's completely unrelated to whether someone's 'making a big deal' or 'hung up over something'. Two separate matters.

 

Since the profile's gone now, what is your case? You still think she's making a big deal over it, or not?

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So are you tying up the 'privacy policy' thing with your arguments or not? If you are, it's completely unrelated to whether someone's 'making a big deal' or 'hung up over something'. Two separate matters.

 

Since the profile's gone now, what is your case? You still think she's making a big deal over it, or not?

 

Let me make myself a little more clear...

 

I think there is a privacy issue in the thread. Well was, until the link got removed.

 

I think she's making a big deal over it because there was no reason to question the person. He's not contacting her. She's not contacting him. There's no communication.

 

I think she violated the person's privacy by making a big deal. There was no reason to question the person's profile.

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So are you tying up the 'privacy policy' thing with your arguments or not? If you are, it's completely unrelated to whether someone's 'making a big deal' or 'hung up over something'. Two separate matters.

 

Since the profile's gone now, what is your case? You still think she's making a big deal over it, or not?

 

As you noticed, she completely ignores my point regarding this thread. I wasn't trying to poke fun at this guy. Its not like I said"what do you all think of this guy?"..

 

If some would go back and READ for once, I asked something entirely different. Anyways, I'm done with this thread. It seems I'm being accused of making an ordeal over online matching, but someone else is making an ordeal about my post. Makes a lot of sense. Good day! :D

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As you noticed, she completely ignores my point regarding this thread. I wasn't trying to poke fun at this guy. Its not like I said"what do you all think of this guy?"..

 

Nope you didn't. You made your own ideas present about a guy who you didn't want to talk to anyways. Which then followed by more people giving their opinions on this guy. This guy who did not ask for anyone's opinions.

 

If some would go back and READ for once, I asked something entirely different. Anyways, I'm done with this thread. It seems I'm being accused of making an ordeal over online matching, but someone else is making an ordeal about my post. Makes a lot of sense. Good day! :D

 

So why not just ask your question instead of...

 

I saw this one particular in profile. You would not believe the way this guy looks. He must be insanely picky, because how in the heck is he single. He is so good looking, he almost looks FAKE. I admit he is hot as heck, but no way would I even converse with a person like this.

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So, I am told he is a match for me. What a joke is that. I'm not saying I'm not good enough or attractive, but my god. The worst part is just reading over some of what he has to say, you start thinking "what if he really is a sincerely nice guy?". Yeah, right. :lmao:

 

You spent more time on this guy and his profile then the question at hand.

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You spent more time on this guy and his profile then the question at hand.

 

You're spending the most time of all, DG. :o

 

For someone who's so against online dating (from what I've seen), you sure spend a lot of time online defending your points. :)

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You're spending the most time of all, DG. :o

 

For someone who's so against online dating (from what I've seen), you sure spend a lot of time online defending your points. :)

 

I'm not against online dating. Where did I say that? I've had some bad experiences, but good ones too. :)

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