icemann12 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 a girl i started hanging out with last week made it pretty clear that she likes me, she has said it a few times, her friend has told me she likes me, and she has told my friend she likes me.. now where i work im not really allowed to talk to the girls, if i am caught hanging with them we can both get fired. when she worked at my job before she was thrownn into a bad situation with one of the girls, and she was treated like absolute ****, all of her clothes were cut up into pieces, and spit on and everything. she left for a while and now that shes back everyone is pretty cool with her, but the other night after work we were meeting at a gas station to go back to her place and one of the girls that used to hate her saw us.. now that night she was cool and fun to hang out with, but after i left on sunday she texted me and said lets slow down, i dont want any of the personal **** that happened before to happen again at work. now i know shes probably just scared but i dont see why it would happen. all of the people there like me and there is no reason for them to do anything to her but i know shes probably just nervous, i mean she was still textin me every once in a while last night, and i ended up sayin oh cool they gave me the day off tomorrow, and she said "im off tomorrow" so i replied sayin cool, then later on i said well if you want to hang out tomorrow let me know.. and i havent gotten an answer, i figure she just needs space? i mean she is very openly affectionate to me and i like her, shes a fun girl to hang out with, i would like to see her more but im guessing right now i should just let her text me and give her space and time to deal with just happened, but when should i try talking to her about this? and let her know like, if she wants to be more discrete then we will not meet after work anywhere near work anymore, and we will only do it when we know nobody can see us and what not.. its a weird situation just lookin for some help on how to deal with it..
Author icemann12 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 lol, yeah.. hey thanks for the input
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Sorry man Not judging I dated a lot of strippers. Most not intentionally They are all headcases. If you are trying to turn her into a gf, save yourself some time and just bang your head against concrete instead. Far less aggravation than seriously dating one.
Author icemann12 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 oh no worries, ive already dated one, my best friend is one, and my other ex gf's are as crazy as strippers too lol, so its something im actually ok with dealing with. know what i mean? i like them crazy girls
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 oh no worries, ive already dated one, my best friend is one, and my other ex gf's are as crazy as strippers too lol, so its something im actually ok with dealing with. know what i mean? i like them crazy girls LOL. I had the energy to put up with it in my 20's. Not any more:)
Author icemann12 Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 yeah, see i think it keeps things exciting, lol, never know whats gonna happen, as for something really long term? no idea, not exactly what im lookin for but ill cross that path when im coming to it.. at only 21, girls like this are the best, but still, me and you are having a great talk, yet NOBODY wants to give INPUT!
sedgwick Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Oh man, looks like you're a victim of the dreaded LS GENERALIZING SYNDROME!!! I will never get the point of statements like "ALL strippers are headcases," or "ALL musicians are ladies' men," or "ALL people with mental illness are ALWAYS to be avoided." That said, I honestly thought from the tone and content of this post that you were very young, like in junior high or high school. Waaaaayyy too much drama for grown adults there! I'd say this is something that should be pursued if and when you both have jobs away from the strip club.
boogieboy Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Oh man, looks like you're a victim of the dreaded LS GENERALIZING SYNDROME!!! I will never get the point of statements like "ALL strippers are headcases," or "ALL musicians are ladies' men," or "ALL people with mental illness are ALWAYS to be avoided." That said, I honestly thought from the tone and content of this post that you were very young, like in junior high or high school. Waaaaayyy too much drama for grown adults there! I'd say this is something that should be pursued if and when you both have jobs away from the strip club. Yeah, THAT really helped....NOT! Icemann, though shes a crazy stripper, you know what its like when a girl likes you, she doesnt ignore your texts. Just assume that whatever inner turmoil is going on in her head has to do with some tatted up dood thats playin with her head. When shes ready to hear from you, she'll text you. Dont think you have to chase her, you could try, but keep in mind it might not happen. You two can come to an understanding that when youre both at the club you dont talk to each other at all....to avoid the job drama.
Author icemann12 Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 Yeah, THAT really helped....NOT! Icemann, though shes a crazy stripper, you know what its like when a girl likes you, she doesnt ignore your texts. Just assume that whatever inner turmoil is going on in her head has to do with some tatted up dood thats playin with her head. When shes ready to hear from you, she'll text you. Dont think you have to chase her, you could try, but keep in mind it might not happen. You two can come to an understanding that when youre both at the club you dont talk to each other at all....to avoid the job drama. we dont talk when at the club, not at all, nobody except my best friend and her 2 friends she lives with knows we are hooking up..i wouldnt do anything to jeopardize her.my job, and exactly, i know she likes me by the way she acts, and how she has told me lol..so i should just leave her alone till she texts me? im not freaking about it, i just dont wanna make an early mistake know what i mean?
ADF Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I am scratching my head trying to figure out why this women would go back to a workplace full of psychos. Because cutting up another person clothes is savage, crazy behavior. Those people need to get locked up. I am sure this woman, if she's sensible, is pretty shaken up. Maybe if you conducted your courtship far away from this loony bin, she'd relax a little.
boogieboy Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 we dont talk when at the club, not at all, nobody except my best friend and her 2 friends she lives with knows we are hooking up..i wouldnt do anything to jeopardize her.my job, and exactly, i know she likes me by the way she acts, and how she has told me lol..so i should just leave her alone till she texts me? im not freaking about it, i just dont wanna make an early mistake know what i mean? You cant make a mistake when youre not in control of the situation. She's going to see you at work, if you keep bugging her now, it will be made worse when she sees you at the club. She will be reminded of you when she sees you, she knows youre there, she knows she will have to confront you at some point. If she avoids you, or doesnt make eye contact, then you know she isnt interested.
Author icemann12 Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 well then i guess ill have to let you know what happens tomorrow, wish me luck :x i like the girl!
Author icemann12 Posted November 24, 2009 Author Posted November 24, 2009 so i dont think this girl is going in to work tonight, is there anything like a text i should send just sayin like, how are your days off or whateveR? or is this really just a waiting game where i need to wait for her to talk to me...
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