amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love internet dating, I am casually dating several different girls right now (very PG) because of internet dating. I probably would never have this situation happen to me otherwise. Best part is I'm developing a serious relationship with one of them and I'm incredibly attracted to her! It would not have been possible for us to meet otherwise, our paths would simply not cross. I feel empowered, rather than playing games with fickle bar flys I'm engaging respectable mature women in a very honest fashion. I would be hard pressed to think of a more ideal dating situation, for me, personally. It probably helps that I'm also looking for something serious.
amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I use it as a means to meet people, so after a week, 2 weeks MAX, I want to meet and see if we click. I am not looking for a penpal! Wow, 2 weeks? Thats a really long time. I set up coffee or lunch dates very quickly, 3/4 e-mails back and forth and a single phone call is about par for the course.
Thornton Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 They look at a picture, ignore the nicely well-thought out email, and then hit "Delete". On POF I saw quite a few "UNREAD/Delete" emails that I had sent to women.....yeah that makes ya feel good, they dont' even read the email. Depends what you look like I guess. If you're hot, they probably look at the pictures and can't wait to reply to your email asap. You could probably have written just "Hi" in your email and they'd still respond if you were hot. But if you're not so good looking, no amount of well thought out emails will make a difference to her not fancying you when she looks at your pics, and she probably won't even bother to read the email as you said. Looks seem to count for an awful lot more online when there's less other info to go on, so the beautiful people probably have a lot more success with online dating.
torranceshipman Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 .... I mean, I'll probably be the spinster with 10 cats, but I just can NOT use the internet for dating. omg. Can't do it. The only think I like about social internet sites is meeting new people. I can't stand the whole cruising the internet for a date thing. lol I'm sorry, is this a like/love internet thread only??? My apologies. Why not? The idea that internet dating is something to be ashamed of is getting pretty out of date. If you are a busy, successful person and have little time to get out there and meet people (especially if your social group is all coupled up), then some of us aren't up for cruising bars or clubs - no thanks. Meeting compatible partners through friends or social clubs is pretty rare (though it's a great way to make new friends), so online is a great option. I had so many fabulous dinner dates when I was single, via online dating, even made a great couple of new friends that way, and now have met the love of my life that way too (who just asked me to move in with him) - so what can I say...I think it's great! It anyone teases me for using it, I'm like, whatever - I ate out at lovely restaurants, had cocktails in great bars, lovely museum and movie visits, never paid because the men were gents for the most part....lots of them were clever, diverting guys who I might not have felt chemistry with but had a great enjoyable evening with - and now met this amazing guy (very clever, very handsome, a real gent - can't complain!). So it's been very good to me!!
amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Why not? The idea that internet dating is something to be ashamed of is getting pretty out of date. If you are a busy, successful person and have little time to get out there and meet people (especially if your social group is all coupled up), then some of us aren't up for cruising bars or clubs - no thanks. Meeting compatible partners through friends or social clubs is pretty rare (though it's a great way to make new friends), so online is a great option. I agree with this very much. I've noticed the "stigma" going away rapidly. It seems only 2 years ago people were very hush hush about it, but now everyone knows at least a few people who've met their partner via internet dating. I've also noticed that when I'm actually on dates the girl is much less likely to be ashamed or mildly embarrassed by the fact that you met online. It used to be "so what would we tell our friends?," now it never even seems to come up.
Cora Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love the fact too that you can just ignore those you aren't interested in. Of course now I at least try to send them an email saying I'm not interested ever since my last experience. This one guy kept emailing me who I knew I wasn't interested in. Things he put in his intro completely turned me off along with the emails he was sending me. I did a google search on him just for the heck of it and found that he was on multiple dating sites with the exact same intro trying to lure women in. It was pretty obvious what he was after and yet he thought he was covering it up so well. After I kept ignoring him he sent me one last email saying if you aren't serious about dating you stupid b**** then you need to get off of this f****** dating site. I'm pretty sure somewhere in there he called me a whore as well. So after that I sent him an email saying to leave me alone. He did for awhile, but then a few months later I suppose he had forgotten who I was and sent me another email asking if I would be interested? Other than things like that, internet dating isn't so bad.
amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Words Yeah I'm fairly sure that is um...abnormal. It sucks that crazies like that are out there making it more difficult for the actually good men to meet women.
Ody Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Wow, 2 weeks? Thats a really long time. I set up coffee or lunch dates very quickly, 3/4 e-mails back and forth and a single phone call is about par for the course. I don't measure by time really because sometimes schedules stretch things out but I agree, if four emails go by without a phone number or brief meetup date plan then it's a no go.
thegreatmoose Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love that we can ignore messages from guys we have no interest in. How many times in real life have you just wanted to flat out ignore some guy who has come up to you angling for a date/your number..whatever. Now you CAN!!! :lmao: I like that I can actually get dates. I like that I know the basics about her. I like that I can choose who I email and get an idea of who likes me, such as when they look at my profile or especially wink at me. I don't like when we talk back and forth for a few emails they often stop responding. I don't like how they reject you online after the first date.
amirpc Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I don't measure by time really because sometimes schedules stretch things out but I agree, if four emails go by without a phone number or brief meetup date plan then it's a no go. Yeah I think you're right actually, thinking back I have gone 2 weeks before setting up a date - but it was just that the e-mail replies were slow from one end or the other. I guess number of communications is a better metric than time.
USMCHokie Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love how they stop talking to you when you ask for their number or give them yours. But seriously though, looks seem to matter a lot more, as it's a tangible way for people weed out the population/emails to a more managable number...and who wouldn't go for the hot people over the not-so-hot ones...? Personality is really rather difficult to convey through text...fake it til you make it, right? Also, I wish the overwhelmingly popular free site had a race preference indicator...it would save me a ton of time...because it matters...it could probably cut down my outgoing emails to about one every 17.9 days...gotta love efficiency!
thegreatmoose Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I love how they stop talking to you when you ask for their number or give them yours. Ugh, thats the worst. Several times, I've sent a few emails back and forth. I'm always thinkinng when is the perfect time to send the email asking for their number. Sometimes I send it and no response, after putting a lot of time into well thought out emails. I send somewhat shorter emails than I used to partly becuase of this.
b52s Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Ugh, thats the worst. Several times, I've sent a few emails back and forth. I'm always thinkinng when is the perfect time to send the email asking for their number. Sometimes I send it and no response, after putting a lot of time into well thought out emails. I send somewhat shorter emails than I used to partly becuase of this. Yeah, eventually you wind up just copying and pasting an introductory paragraph to you initial email and type a little more yourself from there. Gettired of getting handcramps for typing too much to a woman that will never go out with me in the end.
Ody Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Guys y'all need to grow thicker e-skin. Really.
USMCHokie Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Ugh, thats the worst. Several times, I've sent a few emails back and forth. I'm always thinkinng when is the perfect time to send the email asking for their number. Sometimes I send it and no response, after putting a lot of time into well thought out emails. I send somewhat shorter emails than I used to partly becuase of this. Yep...even after it seems like you're hitting it off...they've responded with well thought out emails and even asked questions about you to show "interest"...and when you think they'd be interesting in meeting, you ask for their number, and poof, they're gone...seriously girls, why do you do it...?!?!?
Holding-On Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 I'm surprised that noone has mentioned this... but I like that I can tailor my search (and to a degree profile also) to find compatible romantic partners. In my case I am in an open marriage. I could, I suppose, go up to men in bars and explain my situation. I could stand on the bar stool and ask the men in open marriages to get their wives to wave. On the internet this is easily done. My profile explains my situation and who I am looking for. My searches locate men in open marriages.
thegreatmoose Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Yeah, eventually you wind up just copying and pasting an introductory paragraph to you initial email and type a little more yourself from there. Gettired of getting handcramps for typing too much to a woman that will never go out with me in the end. I won't go nearly that far, but I'm not going to spend 30+ minutes typing and editing the perfect message.
thegreatmoose Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Yep...even after it seems like you're hitting it off...they've responded with well thought out emails and even asked questions about you to show "interest"...and when you think they'd be interesting in meeting, you ask for their number, and poof, they're gone...seriously girls, why do you do it...?!?!? It stinks. Sometimes they instead use the too busy to date email to get out of it. I'm sure many guys pull much of the same crap too. I just don't see it, being a guy.
BeautifulMan Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Multiple times the girl gives me her number and doesn't answer but sends a text saying she's not interested at this time lol. Women and technology...
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