justforfun Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love that we can ignore messages from guys we have no interest in. How many times in real life have you just wanted to flat out ignore some guy who has come up to you angling for a date/your number..whatever. Now you CAN!!! :lmao:
USMCHokie Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Absolutely nothing...yet I still do it...or at least try...
Author justforfun Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Gotta keep going. Don't lose the momentum. Soon as I get home from the last one I'm online looking for my next victim. Absolutely nothing...yet I still do it...or at least try...
Bejita463 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love that we can ignore messages from guys we have no interest in. Which is pretty much why I stopped taking it seriously a long time ago. Spending time sending a thoughtful introductory message only to be ignored is obnoxious. Last message I sent to someone was someone who had their occupation listed as 'working girl' to ask if they knew what exactly they were saying. Then I linked a picture from Princess Bride subtitled with "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."
aerogurl87 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love that we can ignore messages from guys we have no interest in. How many times in real life have you just wanted to flat out ignore some guy who has come up to you angling for a date/your number..whatever. Now you CAN!!! :lmao: I love the fact that I can ignore messages from guys who come off as creepy, stalkerish, or who I have no chemistry with. I also love the fact that people are more open for the most part and so you can get to know more about them quicker and thus cut down on time wasted on dating the wrong people.
b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I love that we can ignore messages from guys we have no interest in. How many times in real life have you just wanted to flat out ignore some guy who has come up to you angling for a date/your number..whatever. Now you CAN!!! :lmao: What a crappy attitude to have as woman, but unfortuantely it's true. I actually had really stopped internet dating pretty much because of the OP's attitude, and just approach women in person. I stand a better chance, because this allows them to get to know me, and probably actually get to know me by my personality as opposed to just looking at a picture, clicking delete, and moving on. That way, I probably have a better chance. Any coward can sit behind the saftey of a computer screen and hit "delete" or "block". Thus passing up opportunities of meeting someone that could have been a great mate for them. As a guy, that's the one thing that I despise about internet dating. Personally, it's an attitude like this is what makes a woman socially inept. She just runs home like a little coward, locks the door, and behind the saftey of the computer she logs into her Match.com web acct and rejects and ignores men there. She can't do it in person, because GOSH FORBID she actually has to TALK to someone. It's women like this that wind up chronically single throughout their lives with unrealistic expectations. Online dating has really made a joke out of dating actually. It's women like the OP that men should stand clear of anyhow.
looking4 green grass Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I'll let you all know next week. So far it seems uh.....interesting, that's for sure.
Bejita463 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I actually had really stopped internet dating pretty much because of the OP's attitude, and just approach women in person. I stand a better chance, because this allows them to get to know me, and probably actually get to know me by my personality as opposed to just looking at a picture, clicking delete, and moving on. That way, I probably have a better chance. Any coward can sit behind the saftey of a computer screen and hit "delete" or "block". Thus passing up opportunities of meeting someone that could have been a great mate for them. Pretty much this.
b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Pretty much this. Yeah....funny how this post came about. The OP is PART of the problem when it comes to dating. Her: "Why should I go OUT and meet men, when I can spend my time DATELESS on a Saturday night ignoring men online I meet on Match.com from the comfort of my own computer chair?" The internet has made ignoring men a WHOLE lot easier! Quite pathetic if you think about it.
Bejita463 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Yeah....funny how this post came about. The OP is PART of the problem when it comes to dating. Her: "Why should I go OUT and meet men, when I can spend my time DATELESS on a Saturday night ignoring men online I meet on Match.com from the comfort of my own computer chair?" The internet has made ignoring men a WHOLE lot easier! Quite pathetic if you think about it. I don't know if I'd consider it quite so bad. Male users massively outnumber the female ones, supposedly. That basically means that through numbers alone they are forced to be aggressive. As a direct result of this, the amount of email they likely receive is what enables them to have that attitude. They can probably ignore dozens of guys each day and still have a date Friday night, and a separate date on Saturday. All from the comfort of their computer chair. I'd probably do it too, if I could.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 .... I mean, I'll probably be the spinster with 10 cats, but I just can NOT use the internet for dating. omg. Can't do it. The only think I like about social internet sites is meeting new people. I can't stand the whole cruising the internet for a date thing. lol I'm sorry, is this a like/love internet thread only??? My apologies.
Ody Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I actually like the dynamic that women just don't reply. For the first few messages it bothered me too then I realized how much better this is. Compare to the real life parallel, which is talking to a woman at a bar or coffee shop or whatever. You might 5, 10, even 30 minutes chatting her up before you realize she has no/insufficient interest in you. Or you might ask for her number and get shot down in person, which certainly has way more sting than an online rejection or ignoring. Compare that to spending a few minutes writing a brief polite hello and then not getting a response. Is it really so bad? Every once in a while I will get the polite response, and it doesn't feel any better anyway. After a while I became about as "bad" as the women. I don't reply to most people who contact me - most of the messages are from women who just don't fit my preferences at all, so I kind of understand where these no-reply women are coming from. I just get way fewer of them, so it's way easier for me to sort through the murk. And hey, I'm happy if it bothers a lot of guys, that just narrows the competition down!
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 (edited) What a crappy attitude to have as woman, but unfortuantely it's true. Why is that a crappy attitude for a woman to have ? Have you ever tried online dating as a woman... if not.. you might want to try.. Create a fake profile and put up a nice but hot picture... I did that once just to see what woman have to deal with See if you don't get 100 emails a day looking to have some guy slide his dick between your legs and only 2-3 emails from Men that have something on their mind other than getting laid.. IMO.. She (the OP) has the right idea.. I did online dating for years and I faced the same thing that you have faced... In those years I went out with alot of women.. had many relationships and some lasted a year or more. I had to find a way for women to respond to MY email because of the 100's of emails from dick lay guys and guys showing pictures of their willy's to women or all the married guys out there cheating on their wives. It is the guy's who have ruined online dating .. not the women.. Do a survey.. find out how many women have been emailed a picture of a man's penis that they have never met.. Are you not surprised that women ignore men ? Back on Topic.. What I like about Online Dating... I love my wife.. I met her on match.. I love my almost 2 year old son.. Without online dating I would have never had my son and be would not be married to the most wonderful woman.. That is what I like about it... Edited November 23, 2009 by Art_Critic
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 The best thing about internet dating is that if you dont like something about how the other person looks, you can always photoshop the defects away
b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 The best thing about internet dating is that if you dont like something about how the other person looks, you can always photoshop the defects away I've done online dating for years, and pretty much had stopped doing it altogther, I sometimes browse the free sites...but that's about it. Now I go out with friends more and meet people that way. I can never really say anything nice about Online dating, except that I experienced something from it. That's another reason I quit onlined dating, I knew I was competing with 100 plus other emails....kind of like applying for a job, you're just a number and it winds up in the trash anyhow. They look at a picture, ignore the nicely well-thought out email, and then hit "Delete". On POF I saw quite a few "UNREAD/Delete" emails that I had sent to women.....yeah that makes ya feel good, they dont' even read the email. So I'im experiencing real life interaction and dating, and finding it to be a better option when out socializing at a bowling night or a movie event, or just a night on a town with some local singles...it's pretty fun. At least you get to SEE these women in person. Art Critic, that's great that the stars were in your favor and you're one of the cases where it went well....but, internet dating is not for me.
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I've done online dating for years, and pretty much had stopped doing it altogther, I sometimes browse the free sites...but that's about it. Now I go out with friends more and meet people that way. I can never really say anything nice about Online dating, except that I experienced something from it. That's another reason I quit onlined dating, I knew I was competing with 100 plus other emails....kind of like applying for a job, you're just a number and it winds up in the trash anyhow. They look at a picture, ignore the nicely well-thought out email, and then hit "Delete". On POF I saw quite a few "UNREAD/Delete" emails that I had sent to women.....yeah that makes ya feel good, they dont' even read the email. So I'im experiencing real life interaction and dating, and finding it to be a better option when out socializing at a bowling night or a movie event, or just a night on a town with some local singles...it's pretty fun. At least you get to SEE these women in person. Art Critic, that's great that the stars were in your favor and you're one of the cases where it went well....but, internet dating is not for me. I didint really have that experience. For me if anything it was more along the lines of lots of wasted effort. I see a girl in person, talk to her for a few minutes, and I know if Im going to like her. You amy learn things later that just dont make a relationship feasible or desirable, but you know if the basics are there. You date a girl online and your spending not only the time with the initial contact, but then a lot of wasted contact talking to them, then meeting. I find regardless of how many pics I saw, or how long I talked to someone prior, it cant replace actually being around that person for even just a littlw while. And if things arent "there", now its a lot more irritating getting rid of them after considerably more has been invested by them than and theyve built of expectations.
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 So I'im experiencing real life interaction and dating, and finding it to be a better option when out socializing at a bowling night or a movie event, or just a night on a town with some local singles...it's pretty fun. Nothing can replace the ole face to face.. and you are right.. online dating isn't for everyone.. In my younger days going to bars and concerts was part of my everyday make up so socializing was higher up on my priority list. Then life happens. You get wrapped up in your job.. buy a house.. responsibilities change and meeting people face to face all of a sudden isn't as easy as it once was.. That it why I liked online dating.. It fit my lifestyle.. I could be busy, work on my business and go home to do the yard work and then to the cabin in the mountains on the weekends and still meet people online.. One of my rules about online though is meeting the first week.. If a woman didn't want to meet the first week then she was out.. Even though I was doing Online Dating I wasn't keeping it online.. I wanted the face to face to happen, that way match was only used to meet someone.. Getting to know them happened face to face...
b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I had to find a way for women to respond to MY email because of the 100's of emails from dick lay guys and guys showing pictures of their willy's to women or all the married guys out there cheating on their wives. That's a no brainer, don't send pics of your unmentionables....then you are in the running with the other 100 guys that didn't send those pics. lol
b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Nothing can replace the ole face to face.. and you are right.. online dating isn't for everyone.. In my younger days going to bars and concerts was part of my everyday make up so socializing was higher up on my priority list. Then life happens. You get wrapped up in your job.. buy a house.. responsibilities change and meeting people face to face all of a sudden isn't as easy as it once was.. That it why I liked online dating.. It fit my lifestyle.. I could be busy, work on my business and go home to do the yard work and then to the cabin in the mountains on the weekends and still meet people online.. One of my rules about online though is meeting the first week.. If a woman didn't want to meet the first week then she was out.. Even though I was doing Online Dating I wasn't keeping it online.. I wanted the face to face to happen, that way match was only used to meet someone.. Getting to know them happened face to face... Good call about the first week...you'd be suprised how many female "pen-pals" I got tired of talking to after I asked them out ..they say "I'm not sure about meeting, lets get to know each other more" eventually the woman stops (probably thinks about it to much and just decides to stop emailing and fall off the planet) If you mention it one too many times, they call you "pushy" So many message boards threads I've seen started by women, that say, "Why do men want to meet so fast??" Apparently, they think that men that want to meet them in justa week...want to get laid...
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Apparently, they think that men that want to meet them in justa week...want to get laid... I suppose that it could be taken that way..I guess the guys looking for sex want to meet right away.. I had a girl want to meet 15 mins after meeting thru match once.. it spooked the crap outta me.. She literally wanted to meet right then too.. She said something along the lines of " hey.. what are you doing right now.. let's have lunch in 15 mins at such and such" I was floored and in reality she was only after sex When I tried to meet women in the first week it was only to not waste time on someone that there was no connection. There is nothing worse than to spend your hard to come by time investing in all this emailing and phone conversation only to not hear from them after you put weeks or months into it.. I wanted to know if they fit my possible list right away or it was NEXT...
Author justforfun Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Nothing can replace the ole face to face.. and you are right.. online dating isn't for everyone.. In my younger days going to bars and concerts was part of my everyday make up so socializing was higher up on my priority list. Then life happens. You get wrapped up in your job.. buy a house.. responsibilities change and meeting people face to face all of a sudden isn't as easy as it once was.. That it why I liked online dating.. It fit my lifestyle.. I could be busy, work on my business and go home to do the yard work and then to the cabin in the mountains on the weekends and still meet people online.. One of my rules about online though is meeting the first week.. If a woman didn't want to meet the first week then she was out.. Even though I was doing Online Dating I wasn't keeping it online.. I wanted the face to face to happen, that way match was only used to meet someone.. Getting to know them happened face to face... Absolutely agree with everything you've said. I use online dating to get exposure to men I would never have come across in my everyday life. For me it's the cyber equivalent of a guy approaching me in 'real life' having a brief chat, swapping numbers, calling and arranging to meet up. In between meeting I may exchange a few texts. But I am NOT looking for internet friends and I am clear about that. If a person doesn't live in my area that I won't respond. I'm clear about that too. Do you think they listen?
Author justforfun Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 I wanted to know if they fit my possible list right away or it was NEXT... You've stolen my line!
V.Vixen Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I like that I can screen through men before going on a date. I find out way more about them then I would in person before going on a date, and decide accordingly. I get WAY more dates online because of my schedule and lack of opportunity in daily life. I work a lot, so I like being able to line up dates easily. Also, I can't be in all of these other towns with my obligations. Its nice to have the opportunity to meet men I would never have come across otherwise!
V.Vixen Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 In regards to meeting vs. dragging things out online: I am done with online relationships, as I have been online dating for a while now. I use it as a means to meet people, so after a week, 2 weeks MAX, I want to meet and see if we click. I am not looking for a penpal!
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