ladyblondie Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I met this guy 3 months ago at the waterfront and he seen me I seen him and there was an instant attraction. Im attracted to him, he's attracted to me but there is alot of confussion and I don't know where I stand. He works, taking care of his brothers business temporarily, and has another job. We don't see eachother as much as Id like because he's busy. At first, we didnt see eachother much, but it was once or twice a week. We had sex once after 2 months. He invited me prior to a wedding of his cousins on Halloween out of town and I went with him. I haven't seen him since. I can't tell you how much Im attracted to this guy, and want more from him. When we do see eachother we do alot of flirting, holding hands, cuddling. But I just don't get it. We keep intouch through email, and he says we gotta see eachother, and I told him I don't know where I stand if I should talking with him, or not bother him at all due to him being so busy. That is when he said we need to get together. I don't know though. I wanna have more, and he knows where I stand, and he mentions he wants more, but its like I need to know what he wants without comming across so straightforward.
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 No offense,but you already know the answer. The only problem is you wish to continue deluding yourself and having those delusions validated here.
Author ladyblondie Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Then why does he flirt, so seem interested when I am around? What's the problem and why can't he just be upfront with me?
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Then why does he flirt, so seem interested when I am around? What's the problem and why can't he just be upfront with me? Because in that very moment, you are easily accessible for a nice little ego boost. He sounds like a waste of time - I'd start dating other guys.
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Hes an *******.... You feed his ego. Youre there in a pinch. It doesnt cost him anything and its fun. Trust me, when I guy is into you, you know it. You arent sitting around guessing waiting for phone calls, even another booty call.
Author ladyblondie Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 well there is no sex, just had sex once. I asked him if Im wasting his time or bothering him and he said no, and asked me if he was wasting my time, and I told him no. I care about him. But I agree, gotta move on I guess.
jerseyboy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Sorry hon, but you really do. The best case scenario with this guy isnt that great. And not to be a dick, but you may want to work on valuing yourself a little more. Hes treating you fairly shabbily, and maybe you should think on why you allow yourself to be treated that way.
Author ladyblondie Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 it is what it is. Thanks for the replies.
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