rhea Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 i was thinking about this today in the morning when i woke up next to my boyfriend. we are together since a bit more than 6 months. he is usually very caring and loving but sometimes behaves like a real jerk. he picks up some insignificant details as reasons to start a long fight, for example me leaving his socks on the ground and not putting them on the chair!!! he did the same thing yesterday right after we had sex. i needed to put big effort not to lose my temper. the worst thing is that in these cases he insists so much, often making me feel awful as if i had made the greatest mistake ever. i know nobody is perfect, but until where should we push the boundaries of tolerating? i thought i was in love with him but when he starts these fights i really doubt about my feelings wondering how can i be in love with such a man, and considering the possibility of leaving him. i used to be a very lonely person and the idea of being so lonely again frightens me to death. he is sometimes so narrow minded, judgmental, stubborn and selfish that many times i was one step from dumping him, only that for some reason never did it. after all i know he loves me. we had many happy moments together when he behaves like a decent human being. is the reason why i am staying with him blind love or fear to be alone is a mystery to me. the idea that i am staying with him just because i don't want to be alone makes me feel like i am using him, but the idea of being unhappy again like i used to be scares me even more! after all we share many moments of happiness too. what do you guys think?is it better to be alone or in a relationship with somebody that can be a real jerk sometimes?
phineas Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Have you ever thought to tell him he acting like a jerk? And personally, I am alone right now going through a divorce. I guess i'm kinda lonely. But the way I was living before wasn't healthy.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 It sounds like your fed up with petty arguments. Is he the one always starting them then? And is it really over stuff like you leaving socks on the floor? (Why DO you leave socks on the floor? lol) So it could go both ways. Maybe you do too many little things that annoy him, maybe he starts to many petty arguments.
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