Woggle Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 This is why I think so many men are homophobic. It's pure jealousy that gay men don;t have to deal with this crap. If being gay were a choice I would have switched years ago.
aerogurl87 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Haha I'm guilty of having "back ups" when I date a guy usually for the first 2 months. It's just a little reminder to whoever I'm with that I can and will find better if they start to act like a jerk and/or don't treat me the way I deserve to be treated (with dignity and respect). I don't necessarily date those men usually, but it's more like having a little a list of potential replacements in case my current relationship goes awry. The sad thing is usually I don't do it on purpose, but guys start coming out of the woodwork when I get a boyfriend, want to date me, and then just kinda hang around and wait to see if I break up with whoever I'm with.
Author b52s Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Haha I'm guilty of having "back ups" when I date a guy usually for the first 2 months. It's just a little reminder to whoever I'm with that I can and will find better if they start to act like a jerk and/or don't treat me the way I deserve to be treated (with dignity and respect). I don't necessarily date those men usually, but it's more like having a little a list of potential replacements in case my current relationship goes awry. The sad thing is usually I don't do it on purpose, but guys start coming out of the woodwork when I get a boyfriend, want to date me, and then just kinda hang around and wait to see if I break up with whoever I'm with. Right, now some women might think it's "sleezy" trying to make a move on a supposedly "taken" woman, but in a sense it's reality.
carhill Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 If being gay were a choice I would have switched years ago. Ah, but the good woman who's your wife benefits from your lack of choice every day BTW, nice to see you around.... It's just a little reminder to whoever I'm with that I can and will find better if they start to act like a jerk and/or don't treat me the way I deserve to be treated (with dignity and respect). Yeah, even if it's a mutual friendship, they'll still play it up to make the BF/H feel the 'competition'. It was the worst when I was married. Not so much anymore. Getting divorced is like a penis deflating; you lose power
aerogurl87 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Right, now some women might think it's "sleezy" trying to make a move on a supposedly "taken" woman, but in a sense it's reality. I don't consider it to be sleazy as long as it's not an outright move. My boyfriend was a friend when I was dating my ex. We talked from time to time but he knew that it wasn't going beyond that at that time. He never said anything too blunt about how he was attracted to me other than telling me that I was pretty when I'd complain to him about how I was gaining a little weight. Other than that he played the friend card perfectly, so much that I completely let my guard down around him for the most part. Then when my ex and I broke up and my world fell apart, he was more than happy to be there for me as a "good friend". Now we're happily dating though, so hey it worked for him.
Woggle Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I won't feel the cometition at all. I will just let him or them have her. She will be their problem from then on. I never fight or compete with men over women. These types are simply not worth it. My comment was somewhat tongue in cheek. I know all women are not like the pieces of work some guys on here deal with
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