ex377 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 I'm a girl and I've got a guy friend that I'm not sure if I should keep as a friend. He seemed nice at first and I thought he wasn't like some guys that I knew who tried to chase after a girl if he was dating/seeing someone. He told me that he was going to break up with his girlfriend,but decided against it cause she got so upset. But while he was with her, he met another girl and was hanging out with her because he was interested in her. He didn't make a move though until he broke up with his girlfriend. Not sure if I'm overreacting because he already knew he wasn't so interested in his girlfriend anymore, but ever since then, I haven't respected him as much.
phineas Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I had a friend that was cheating on his girlfriend & tried to get me to cover for him. I lost all respect for the guy & really didn't want to be associated with him. So I stopped talking to him. You are judged by the company you keep they say.
mortensorchid Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Those situations have nothing to do with you, but they could. This guy doesn't sound like a good guy whether he's your friend or your potential boyfriend. Just let it stand and if he wants to be friends with you, let him make the first moves. Chances are eventually he'll just move onto something else, and you won't miss him.
jerseyboy Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 So alll your friends have to be perfect people? While not a paragon of virtuer perhaps in those actions, hes hardly the worst person in the world.
Author ex377 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 The thing is that I think he tried to make a move on me while he had his girlfriend (the one he wanted to dump). I might have gone for it if he didn't have a girlfriend, but decided against it because he had one, even though she was long distance. I'd figure they would eventually break up, but wanted to wait until they actually did before deciding if I'd go for it with him. Then he brings this other girl into the picture so I never got my chance. I've had bad judgement before and wowed this time to wait things out and get to know someone better before getting into a relationship. Maybe I'm too idealistic, but I'm waiting for a guy who is really into me and not one who just happens to be lonely and needs a girl.
aerogurl87 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I believe that some people make great friends and horrible significant others. Then, for some it's the other way around. I think your friend fits into this category of people. My ex was like that though, he was an awesome best friend but a horrible boyfriend when I look back on everything.
carhill Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 If you all are in high school, don't sweat it.... IMO, you learned something important about guys and about yourself. You learned/reinforced a boundary regarding interpersonal relationships. I hope, if/when the time comes and you 'lose interest' in a guy, you'll remember it
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