inluv Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Ok so I've worked with this girl for a little over a year now. When we first started she had a boyfriend. We always would joke around at work and shes really cute and has a great sense of humor. Well a couple of months ago, she broke up with him cuz he cheated on her. I finally got the courage to ask her out and we had lunch together. It went good and we were joking and acting silly like we always do LOL. I was planning on paying but I was too nervous to offer amd she paid for her half before I could. Im gone this week to visit family for thanksgiving... And she's moving away really far (like a couple of big states over) within a week of when I come back I'm wanting to go out with her again when I get back before she leaves (and pay for it this time so she knows its a date) and tell her I love her or at least that I'll miss her and I wanna move up there with her (not necessarily move in with her just the same town though I'd be cool with that lol). Also I'm kinda fat (not too bad though) and I don't have a car and I never had a gf before. So i duno if im good enough for her. But I really love her cuz I'm kinda crazy and silly and so is she Most other girls I have to worry if I offend them with weird jokes but we both have a great sense of humor and shes the only one I really feel I can let my hair down. I'm just wanting tips on what to do. Should I give her a call this week that I'm gone or will that seem needy? I don't want her to move away and never have told her how I feel about her. I seriously can't get her out of my head!
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Whoa. Do NOT profess feelings. You guys haven't even truly dated yet. You profess your love or even desire to shadow her to a new town, you will surely lose her. That aside, sure - call her while you're gone and just let her know you'd like to have dinner with her one last time before she heads out of town. Try to be more romantic on that date and see how she responds. If it goes well, then you can consider trying on a LDR for awhile until SHE'S just as comfortable with the idea of you moving to her town.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Ok so I've worked with this girl for a little over a year now. When we first started she had a boyfriend. We always would joke around at work and shes really cute and has a great sense of humor. Well a couple of months ago, she broke up with him cuz he cheated on her. I finally got the courage to ask her out and we had lunch together. It went good and we were joking and acting silly like we always do LOL. I was planning on paying but I was too nervous to offer amd she paid for her half before I could. Im gone this week to visit family for thanksgiving... And she's moving away really far (like a couple of big states over) within a week of when I come back I'm wanting to go out with her again when I get back before she leaves (and pay for it this time so she knows its a date) and tell her I love her or at least that I'll miss her and I wanna move up there with her (not necessarily move in with her just the same town though I'd be cool with that lol). Also I'm kinda fat (not too bad though) and I don't have a car and I never had a gf before. So i duno if im good enough for her. But I really love her cuz I'm kinda crazy and silly and so is she Most other girls I have to worry if I offend them with weird jokes but we both have a great sense of humor and shes the only one I really feel I can let my hair down. I'm just wanting tips on what to do. Should I give her a call this week that I'm gone or will that seem needy? I don't want her to move away and never have told her how I feel about her. I seriously can't get her out of my head! How old are you? If you are young, you have a lot of time ahead of you You are willing to move that far away many many states away from I assume from proximity of your family to be with a girl who you went to lunch once? Take this one slow and easy trust me. Talk to her over the phone, I wouldn't relocate. Plus you'd be a pansy if you do, trust me, it shows you will bend over backwards to any demand. Be a man!
Author inluv Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Lol ok I probably won't ask to move up with her... I do want her to know my feelings though and I don't wanna never see her again. Any tips for getting her to be mine when we can only talk on the phone and never see each other? Would it be ok to come up and visit her or would that be weird? Also i really wanna to out with her again before she leaves... How can I leave a good impression? Would it be a good time to try and break the touch barrier? If so, how because I really have a hard time with that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Any tips for getting her to be mine when we can only talk on the phone and never see each other? Time and attention. Believe me, attraction can build through email. But also this is very important: Would it be ok to come up and visit her or would that be weird? Absolutely! As long as she's open to that, your date before she leaves goes well, and the communication lines are kept open. If things go well on the date, you can DEFINITELY keep that door open by saying you'd love to come see her sometime. Also i really wanna to out with her again before she leaves... How can I leave a good impression? Be yourself. Clearly she at least likes your personality. Has she ever flirted with you at all or do you get a friend vibe from her? Would it be a good time to try and break the touch barrier? If so, how because I really have a hard time with that. Yes - as long as the DATE (and you make it pretty clear that it is that) goes well. It's just something to gauge as the night goes forward. You can touch her lower back leading her into a room. You can perhaps touch her arm briefly while making some kind of a point during a story you tell. Don't overdo it like you're pawing all over her. But however you break the touch barrier, it has to be your own style. The guy I'm dating did it in "his" way which was we were sitting in his truck on our second date and he had a bbq to go to, so I knew he had to get going. He ever-so-subtly slides into the conversation, "OK, kiss me and then I gotta go." It was said with such bravado that I couldn't resist (even though I could tell he was shaking a little - he admitted later he was insanely nervous). Just be yourself. Don't try to put on a show acting like somebody else, because sooner or later, the truth comes out.
Sith Apprentice Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I hate to be the harbinger of bad news, but you need to let this one go:(
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