Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 (edited) Ok I have posted about this girl a couple of weeks back but am so unsure whether I should just cut her loose because I am not to big of a fan of chasing someone. Anyways met a few weeks back in town got her number, then we went out on a date a few days later and didnt talk to the weekend. She had a wedding so i didnt expect to meet her but she called and wanted me to meet here cousins, i went out and she commented lots on how cute I look and we kissed awhile in the bar and then drove her home and she asked to pull over ( we kissed awhile yada yada yada). Well she started a new job an hour away the next week so we knew we could only see eachother on the weekends which is fine. Sent a few texts and she sent one that said hope to see you soon which was nice. The weekend after I went out of state so we couldnt meet up but have made plans for this weekend. Now this weekend comes and she mentioned about coming up last night which she didnt so that was fine but on saturday we talked about me going there or vise versa. She said she would call me and let me know her plans but she really hasnt. Anyways i text last night asking what her plans were and awhile later she responds sorry for the late reply, went out with friends then asks if I still coming up? Anyways i didnt get the text for abit then sent one back saying i would like to but wasnt sure if we went out if i had a place to stay and what do you think i should do (which i think is very logical). Then I get no reply and it wasnt too late. I tried calling just to try to suss it out but no answer. Not sure if I have done anything wrong or if maybe she just not really interested. We havent seen eachother that much but if she wasnt interested shouldnt she just tell me. Never found it this hard to read a girl. I mean when we talk she sounds fully interested but when push comes to shove it feels like I am doing most the work. Any advice on what to do would be great? Should I call again around miday tommorrow? Not sure if i want to, and i know it sounds childish, but i dont want to have sent a text with no reply, then a call with no call back and then call again. Edited November 20, 2009 by Broseph
Yukikazi Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 You texted... no response You called... no response Now you wait for her to contact you and make her come to you. When she suggests you coming up to her.. you're busy.. but you can squeeze her in say next weekend if she wants to come down. This will answer how much she wants you and how far she is willing to go to get you. From there you can determine if its worth your time and effort or if she is just a flake.
Author Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 You texted... no response You called... no response Now you wait for her to contact you and make her come to you. When she suggests you coming up to her.. you're busy.. but you can squeeze her in say next weekend if she wants to come down. This will answer how much she wants you and how far she is willing to go to get you. From there you can determine if its worth your time and effort or if she is just a flake. Thanks for the reply and I totally agree with most of what you are saying but not all. I mean if she calls me today and asks me to hang out, saying Im busy is just playing games. Anyways, yah I am sure I will get a good read soon on if she is a flake or not. She seems super shy to me and who knows maybe she fell asleep early (10:30pm) or didnt get the message till late and didnt want to wake me... or just maybe I have one of those girls whose effort isnt worth the reward.
Yukikazi Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 When I mean to say you are busy I mean the next time she wants you to come up on a weekend or something.. you tell her you are busy/got plans or whatever. If you drop everything or don't seem to have a life the moment she calls this will be a turn off. You must show you have a life outside her and you don't need her in the slightest. Women want what they can't have.. tis why the nice guys that shower them with gifts and affection and puppy dog eyes get walked on and some prick gets lucky.. (obviously not yours ) You've made your attempts and gotten nothing.. its her turn to prove her worth to you. You are a busy guy.. if she can't respond timely then you got other things you can do. If she expects you to drop everything to come to hang out.. your simply driving into the friend zone. If you don't wanna raincheck her when she asks you to hang out.. give her an alternative. Tell her to meet you *insert location here* on whatever day cause you plan to be there. Don't just simply roll over when she requests something.. she has to work on it to.. unless your self worth is so low that you would honestly give it up to anyone for some affection. You've shown your interest.. its her turn. Just say "Are you busy on friday?" No: Great I'm going out with a few friends if you would like to meet up with us and we can get to know each other better (along those lines) Yes: Ok have fun.. ttyl and for (insert your gods name here) sake.. don't leave any long ass voicemails.. keep it short and simple "Hey its yadda yadda.. talk to ya later" Then she has the choice of calling you or waiting for you to call her back. If she calls you.. congrats.. she is interested cause she can't wait to find out what you wanted to talk about. If she dosen't then no harm done.. you just wanted to talk to her. I refuse to talk to a machine.. and keeping it short keeps then wondering what you're gonna say. Remember.. chicks don't dig needy clingy guys.. don't be like that. They can smell you a mile away and up goes the B-shield
Author Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 and for (insert your gods name here) sake Well if women want what the cant have then she will realize that she cant have me soon enough. Yeah and as for leaving voice messages is not my cup of tea, the whole entire world has caller I.D as I know she has, so yeah technology is my voicemail. Finally regarding the above quote, what do insert if Im a atheist?
Yukikazi Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Well if women want what the cant have then she will realize that she cant have me soon enough. Yeah and as for leaving voice messages is not my cup of tea, the whole entire world has caller I.D as I know she has, so yeah technology is my voicemail. Finally regarding the above quote, what do insert if Im a atheist? You don't want her to realize she can't have you.. just to realize she has to make an effort to get you as there are plenty of other women out there. As we are athiest.. we have no god hence the wording in () so in our cases.. its for ****s sake
Edward10 Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Some of us have no idea how to text or what it is. Some of us don't have call display. Some of us don't have blackberries. Some of us use our cell phone for outgoing business calls only and it is off at all other times. Don't assume everyone is playing by the same technology rules. Not everyone is always "plugged in".
Author Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Yes yes I understand this but based on past conversations I realize that she can text and has call display. The last we spoke on Wednesday I called he no answer then she called me back about 20 minutes later and she told she was sorry she missed my call and was talking to someone else. We talked about half an hour (which is ages for me) trying to dice plans but the thing that gets me is that she kept saying she wanted to see me and she would call later when she knew definite plans. Well she didnt call but she did text her plans in a repsonse, so kinda mixed signals.
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