Lost-n-confused Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 So I figured out how to get people to respond to a first contact. Saying "You seem interesting. Tell me about yourself. Lets get to know each other. I hope to hear back. Bla bla." Doesn't work. So I changed my approach and was a little witty. I captured a girls attention. Now I got to send a response back to her. Knowing she likes someone who is witty I'm completely lost as what to say as this is the first person who has ever responded with interest. On a side note on another dating site I messaged a girl and she checkout my profile and put me on her favorites but never responded. So I winked at her. Still waiting to see if she responds. Should I send her another message?
thegreatmoose Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 On a side note on another dating site I messaged a girl and she checkout my profile and put me on her favorites but never responded. So I winked at her. Still waiting to see if she responds. Should I send her another message? No way. I would not have winked at her either. You send one message and it's up to her to respond. If she's interested, she will. It may take her 1 hour or 10 days.
jerseyboy Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 LOL Seriously how far are you going to carry this game? Youre weirding me out
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Two questions I asked. One girl responded, one just Put me on her favorites. I don't see the harm in winking at her if she put me on her favorites. Her puting me on her favorites say something as I see it. I'm just not going to message her. What about the response to the girl that MSG me?
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 LOL Seriously how far are you going to carry this game? Youre weirding me out What game are you talking about?
Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Not sure on what you really mean but Ill try to answer. Ok when someone asks me "how my day was", I will say "it was good" and then explain why it was good. Another example, when someone asks "What sports you play", I might say "Ummm I really like football and golf'. Yep and you guessed it I might explain some background here too. The point is nobody here can tell you what to say because we have no f'n clue what the message is. Respond to whatever it is she has said to you. I am sure she has a profile with interests or things she does so comment on those. I am not an expert on "wittyness" but I think you either got it or you don't. If you asking us on how to be witty it doesnt appear that you have it so just be yourself. I mean she messaged me so take that as a positive, best of luck dude
phineas Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 going by what some of the women have posted here I think the guy is supposed to send them nude pics of himself right away.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Her profile said don't MSG me saying what's up or your sexy. I sent her a MSG titled Whats it take to get a responce. Basicly sent her this msg. After reading your profile about how you don't want someone to message you saying "Whats up" or "You're Sexy" I had to ask what are you looking for in a message? Seriously? LOL. Whats a guy got to say to get a response? she responed saying It worked. I'm just looking for enticing guys that can peak my interest and you did it =) now it's my turn.
VeveCakes Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Two questions I asked. One girl responded, one just Put me on her favorites. I don't see the harm in winking at her if she put me on her favorites. Her puting me on her favorites say something as I see it. I'm just not going to message her. What about the response to the girl that MSG me? Don't wink, send a message. No girl will send a message as a response to a wink.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Don't wink, send a message. No girl will send a message as a response to a wink. I sent her a msg. She looked at my profile and favorited me. So I figured after seeing she favorited me I figure let me wink at her to evoke a responce. Now I wait. What about the other girl??
Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 I have nowhere to go again here because your message didnt leave you any leverage. I am not an expert on online dating but my advice would be to send more than two lines. I mean you really didnt learn a thing about her did you except that she wants to be enticed. **** everyone wants to be enticed. It would seem online that there is a much greater need to stimulate meaningful conversation because your actually competing against other blokes. Just tell her your glad you enticed her and thanks for the response. Then maybe talk about any of her interests and connect them to yourself. I dunno, then talk about your weekend or something and what you have planned.
johngdating Posted November 24, 2009 Posted November 24, 2009 Your goal in online dating contacts, emails, instant messages, and phone calls should be to arrange a face-face meeting as soon as possible. That's when the fun really starts-everything before is just a preparation for the first real life meeting (date). So give your your phone number fast, ask her to call you, etc. with the single goal in mind-I want to meet this person in real life asap. John
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