Navsh Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 I've been dating this girl for about 4 months now, and lately she's been really distant. I understand though, because she has had a lot of stress lately, with school, family and especially because one of her best friend's mum died. I'm really worried about her, so I asked her if there was anything I could do to help, and she said "No, I have to think this through and work it out myself - I still care for you, but I'm just trying to sort out my head". Not being clingy or possessive, I said "Okay, no problem. I'll give you some space to work it out, just talk to me when it's all okay," That was about 2 weeks ago. For the last week, I've been greeting her regularly at school with a kiss, but not really going into an indepth conversation (she doesn't seem to want one anyway), hoping that it'll give her some room to think. In fact, I haven't really gotten into a conversation or called her in the past 2 weeks, focusing on my own thing and myself. Lately however, she has had on-and-off periods of either being really close to me, or hardly acknowledging that I'm there, and I'm really starting to lose track if she's really okay or not. One cannot be patient forever, and I want to know if she is ready to start up again, because I'm starting to miss her. I guess the question I'm asking is: Do I continue my pseudo-NC, or do I take a risk and check up on her?
JL911 Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 TAKE THIS ADVICE...Stay no contact man...If ya start checking up on her you come off as possessive and clingy...Let the girl breathe and stick to your guns. You said you would give her space, so do it. No you cannot be patient forever, nor can you put your life on hold simply because someone needs to figure things out. Be your own man, IF it ends, take it on the chin and move on without so much as a peep to her...You need to show her that you are ok with or without her...Thats the key point here... Realize one thing...**** happens...pressure of school and personal life is not a reason to throw your boyfriend away...Theres something else...
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