b52s Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Recently, there was a woman that, I guess, shamelessly admits to leaving the state to another one due to mostly lack of romantic prospects (also financial prospects as well) but later she emphasized more on the romantic than the financial. She's a school teacher. I know of some guys that had tried to date her at one time (some of them on her Facebook list might have seen what she said) But, I dunno, would you be ashamed to admit such a thing in a public forum? Esp. I heard she kinda was a game player with some of the people I knew?
boogieboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Recently, there was a woman that, I guess, shamelessly admits to leaving the state to another one due to mostly lack of romantic prospects (also financial prospects as well) but later she emphasized more on the romantic than the financial. She's a school teacher. I know of some guys that had tried to date her at one time (some of them on her Facebook list might have seen what she said) But, I dunno, would you be ashamed to admit such a thing in a public forum? Esp. I heard she kinda was a game player with some of the people I knew? I wouldnt admit that in public. She was a game player? I would think that she moved to get away from a war zone she created.
phineas Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Perhaps she burned too many bridges & nobody wants to date her? I don't know you'd have to live in a small town before you ran out of prospects.
Sam Spade Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 I'd be ashamed to do that (or admit it). While it is true that the 5 decent cities in the US have MUCH better dating pool than anywhere else, I'd be ashamed to move for the sole purpose of dating cooler folk . I'd love to move back to Chicago, for example, but that would be motivated by the overall quality of life (oh, man....) and professional opportunities (not much at the moment). Also, greater choice does not necessarily mean greater romantic success - there is much more of a disposable culture in the big cities than in the small ones. So part of the infinite choices is somewhat illusionary - a lot of singles chasing bigger better deal and nobody taking nobody else seriously. So it's a tradeoff either way.
Author b52s Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Here's an update.....she said that she never gets asked out. She's not bad looking physically....so that can't be it. So that being said, I find that hard to buy.
littlewhiterose Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Yeah, that's tricky. A really good friend of mine once said "everywhere you go, you take yourself with you"...so that woman may end up finding the very same thing (in the new city) she thought she was leaving behind (in the old)...plus relocation costs...
V.Vixen Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 I find that my old small town had little dating opportunities, mainly for the fact that there just weren't many single men there. It was a very family oriented town, not a great place for singles to meet. I have had a lot more dates since I moved.
Author b52s Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Here's another update....apparently she said that "It's hard to date, when no one asks you out!" And I said, "No one has asked you out the entire time you lived here?" (I'm sure she was asked out, but I thought I'd embellish on the question) Then she dodges the question with "Are you serious?? What so my standards are too hight??!! And she says, "Honsetly, I'm over it, and I prefer to be alone anyway." (So, if she prefers to be alone anyway, why is she moving? LOL) Basically, I called her on it, and she backpeddled. Too funny
Broseph Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Here's another update....apparently she said that "It's hard to date, when no one asks you out!" And I said, "No one has asked you out the entire time you lived here?" (I'm sure she was asked out, but I thought I'd embellish on the question) Then she dodges the question with "Are you serious?? What so my standards are too hight??!! And she says, "Honsetly, I'm over it, and I prefer to be alone anyway." (So, if she prefers to be alone anyway, why is she moving? LOL) Basically, I called her on it, and she backpeddled. Too funny How did she apparently say something to you? Either you say something or you dont
BlueHarvest Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 How did she apparently say something to you? Either you say something or you dont Yea, I'm confused as well. It sounds as if your recounting something that wasn't told directly to you (i.e. friend of a friend told you) but your posting it as though YOU were the one there. Not to mention, but what's the point of posting *her* problem of dating here? If she is picky, that's her caveat to deal with, not yours. Sounds like she rejected you and now your jaded and looking for any straw that makes her look "bad" so you can feed your ego and justify not being able to go out with her. But that's just my take on the situation...what do I know?
Author b52s Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Yea, I'm confused as well. It sounds as if your recounting something that wasn't told directly to you (i.e. friend of a friend told you) but your posting it as though YOU were the one there. Not to mention, but what's the point of posting *her* problem of dating here? If she is picky, that's her caveat to deal with, not yours. Sounds like she rejected you and now your jaded and looking for any straw that makes her look "bad" so you can feed your ego and justify not being able to go out with her. But that's just my take on the situation...what do I know? Oh okay, let me clarify....she was expressing her dating frustrations on her Facebook comments section, so everyone could see it. So...I was there. lol She never rejected me, because I never asked her out.
BlueHarvest Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Oh okay, let me clarify....she was expressing her dating frustrations on her Facebook comments section, so everyone could see it. So...I was there. lol She never rejected me, because I never asked her out. Again, I'll ask. What's the point of you posting this though? So what if she admitted to being shallow? So what if she moved because she dried up all her prospects around your area? I see no legit reason why this is even being discussed unless you have a personal reason to get involved. Even if she "used" some of your friends, at best you should be messaging your friends and just saying to them that "she isn't worth it, a better woman will come along" or something of that nature. Your post has no validation and I feel like we (LS community) are missing some context to the situation.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 The way your luck will run, this woman will randomly arrive in a new locale, and randomly just land in various, different social currents which will carry her to social heights, depths, and successes the likes of which she has not previously known. It won't be exactly because of the new locale, but it will happen because of her fresh, new attempt. She won't go to the same social spots with the same tired, old hang-ups about the lack of prospects there. Instead her eyes will be as wide as those of tourists in the new city, and her approachability and vulnerability will be what begins to let people in. Also, she'll now have the edge of NOT knowing how dull or bad these random people are, and that, too, will work in her favor. It's going to happen for her... but not for geographic reasons.
Author b52s Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 The way your luck will run, this woman will randomly arrive in a new locale, and randomly just land in various, different social currents which will carry her to social heights, depths, and successes the likes of which she has not previously known. It won't be exactly because of the new locale, but it will happen because of her fresh, new attempt. She won't go to the same social spots with the same tired, old hang-ups about the lack of prospects there. Instead her eyes will be as wide as those of tourists in the new city, and her approachability and vulnerability will be what begins to let people in. Also, she'll now have the edge of NOT knowing how dull or bad these random people are, and that, too, will work in her favor. It's going to happen for her... but not for geographic reasons. Or....maybe not, it'll be "new" to her when she gets there....then, just like the previous place, will get old.
BobSacamento Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 When you use a term like "prospects" it means you have been pursuing people. However, she says she never get asked out so she is leaving. I think this is significant because it's like she wants to get one last dig in before she leaves which in effect probably sheds light on why she never gets asked out.
Author b52s Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 When you use a term like "prospects" it means you have been pursuing people. However, she says she never get asked out so she is leaving. I think this is significant because it's like she wants to get one last dig in before she leaves which in effect probably sheds light on why she never gets asked out. Yeah, a male friend of mine was hangin' out with her at a public place with some other friends as well, and she was bananas over all the "hot guys" that were there. "Oh...look at that guy, he's HOT!", she must've done multiple times when she was hanging with him. And she's 35. lol
jerseyboy Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 Some women are just socially inept to the point that they cant establish relationships. Women can usually just get by with their body/looks when it comes to men. But some just have no idea how to interact around men. I have a friend who was similar. She wasnt gorgeous. She was cute. She was fit and above average intelligence. She had guy "friends" but couldnt turn any of them into a relationship. It was the vibes she sent out to guys with things like doing what your friiend does, being in a bar with some guys and pointing out all the other hot guys. She wasnt a slut by any stretch, just diarhea of the mouth syndrome.
Author b52s Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 Some women are just socially inept to the point that they cant establish relationships. Women can usually just get by with their body/looks when it comes to men. But some just have no idea how to interact around men. I have a friend who was similar. She wasnt gorgeous. She was cute. She was fit and above average intelligence. She had guy "friends" but couldnt turn any of them into a relationship. It was the vibes she sent out to guys with things like doing what your friiend does, being in a bar with some guys and pointing out all the other hot guys. She wasnt a slut by any stretch, just diarhea of the mouth syndrome. Yeah, when I was in the military where we lived in the barracks, this one woman tried being like "one of the boys" by lifting a leg and farting in our presence. Talk about a buzzkill.
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