Trust Issues

[Kristy19]

Back in late September early October I got pretty screwed over by a guy in the navy pretty bad. Recently I started talking to a guy who doesn't serve in the military and things are going good or thats what it seems like. He's older than me and knows what he wants. He's in Miami right now visiting his brother. He told that he wouldn't talk to anyone while he's down there and I want to believe him but in the back of my mind is everything that the navy guy did to me makes not want to trust the new guy because I know there's a ton of temptation in Miami and on top of that before he left the men that he works with kept on telling him that he should get all the sex he can while he's down there and not to worry about me because he's in Miami. In a way I'm kinda happy that he told me about what his co-workers said but then again I just wonder if he'll act out upon it. He texts me everyday and we talk on the phone but I'm just afraid that he'll screw me over like the navy guy did. He tells everyday that he will never pull the stuff navy guy pulled and he really likes me, and this is the happiest he's been in 2 years and that what his ex put him through he never do to someone else. What his ex put him through was 10x worst than mine. I don't know. I want to trust him but its just so hard to let my guard down after what navy guy did. Any way to overcome this?

[phineas]

How long have you been exclusive & why is he going out there?

 

It sounds to me like he's telling you "I have options" & that doesn't make sense if he's in commited relationship with someone.

[DustySaltus]

No two people are alike. My EX accused me of cheating on her all the time and it got real old, real fast. Stop talking about your EX's and start talking about each other. I agree with Phineas, if you are in a committed realtionship stuff like this shouldn't even be brought up. On the other hand if you met him a few weeks ago, it seems a little premature to have these conversations about EX's and options.