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hi,

i'm 22 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for over a year now but i still have some feelings for my ex.

My boyfriend is really great and I see a future for the both of us. we do have problems and sometimes i find myself thinking about my ex.

when we were together, we had a lot of fun and he was very romantic.He has a way of saying things to me and making me feel really weak.

my current boyfriend is 22 and my ex is 28.

I cheated on my boyfriend once with my ex and told him about it. he forgave me and i have been trying not to talk to my ex.

For over a year, my ex has been calling me every other day or texting me to tell me he loves me and wants to be with me.

I dont believe him because I feel he lusts for me and knows he cant have me.

My relationship with my boyfriend gets boring very quickly. we are both in school and he doesnt have a lot of money so i try not to want to go out much just so we dont spend too much money(i have very expensive taste and my ex has a job and used to spend money on me) i live with my family and so does he so we have very little romantic time.

For the past couple of days, my ex has been on my mind more often than usual.

he called me and asked to see me and for some reason i said yes. we were hanging out in his car and everything was going fine until he opened up his mouth and started talking about how he loved me and all.

He was whispering it in my ears telling me that he was hurting and that he knows i still have some feelings for him. he told me not to deny myself from being happy and that he could make me happy and then HE KISSED ME.

I wanted to say no...i wanted to stop kissing him but it felt good....some part of me missed him. we did not have sex but I feel bad about it. i know it wont happen again and I told him that I didnt even want to talk to him again. I know that if i went back to him all we would have is great sex. i do not see myself in the future with him at all. I just love the way he kisses me( my boyfriend doesnt really kiss that well and Ive been teaching him_ my boyfriend is really conservative and I dont know what will happen if i told him. i did not have sex with my ex. i was weak. i did not know what to do. some part of me missed all the time my ex and i used to have fun.

 

can i get some advise please

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I think you should dump your current boyfriend. He deserves someone that will not cheat on him, find him boring, is happy with what he has to offer financially, doesn't compare him to exes, etc.

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i am happy with him if i wasnt i would have gone back to my ex, i know things are slow financially and all but i am willing to wait . i really do love him

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ive NEVER been a cheater except for when my ex started talking to me

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No, I'm sorry. You don't do that to someone that you "really love." You are looking for an out from your bf. You're bored with him. You don't want your ex. How about you just be single for awhile? Have you ever tried being single? It might serve you to get to know who you are and what you want out of life so that in the future you can be mature enough to have a committed relationship with someone.

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i dont think i ever got to get over my ex. i do love my boyfriend and it hurts that i did what i did.

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Youre not "In love" with your current bf, and you never will be. Let him go to find a girl that is into him fully, and you need to be alone for a while...without talking to your ex. You are totally being unfair to your BF and you SHOULD feel bad about it. Do the right thing, and tell him youre letting him go because you cant get your ex off your mind.

 

All you want to hear is that its ok that you made a mistake and you can live with it, but your bf is involved. Since youre not telling him, youre totally wrong. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.

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Accept the fact that he will probably dump you when you tell him you cheated on him a second time.

Accept the fact that you are considering settling for your bf.

Accept the fact that he deserves someone better.

Stop lying to yourself that you love him.. people in love don't cheat.. I don't give a **** how you wanna excuse it.

You should have told the ex to stop calling you. Changed your # etc. You obviously want to keep that hope alive otherwise you wouldn't still be talking to them.

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