Author sedgwick Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 I'm just over here dancing. Join me, Ruby! I'm playing Prince!
boldjack Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Well Ruby, I'm neither an optimist nor a pessimist, I'm a realist. Sedg, By all means go out, have FUN!! Enjoy being a girl, etc. BUT, make sure the DB is informed about your fun-loving plans. No two people are always on the same page (dating -wise) all of the time. If he wants more than you are willing to give , communicate this to him , in a non-judgemental way. Most of the time, men want sex way before the woman is comfortable with the idea. This doesn't mean that the guy is scum, it means he's a guy. Be kind to him, he will be kind to you. Just sayin.
Lishy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I could get certain posters heads and bang them together!!!!! Cant we all just be hapy for Sedge and let her live her life without all the doom and gloom? So what if it does not turn out like a fairytale? Sedge has had the last 2 years from HELL and the last thing she needs is posters battling on her threads and trying to burst her bubble! Sedge is a kind and caring woman who has battled a horrible illness and the feelings that come with that illness and right now she is moving on from all her hurt and that is DAMN GOOD! Her getting even a little bit excited about a guy is even more of an achievment then most of you realise. This is more then what it says on the tin and Sedge needs encouragement to be happy, not naysayers telling her how terrible it will all turn out and how ALL drummers are ladies men! Jeeze some people just know everyone in the world and can analyse them from behind a pc! "Ooo well he plays the drums so he MUST be a ladies man as I have known a couple of drummers and they were" blanket statements full of hot air! Well I for one, am extremely happy that Sedge is happy and I also know I will help her if she ever needs it again ... If you all read Sedges's posts over the last 2 years then you will know what I am talking about so cut with the negativity, it has no place here ... Go be negative about your own lives and drop her out!
hopesndreams Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 You are developing an attachment too quickly and easily. No good will come of this unless he's the same way. Just have fun with it, no expectations, no dreams, no hopes and be prepared for the worst. If nothing else, your mind got a break from the other guy.
Author sedgwick Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 (edited) Lishy, that really is one of the sweetest things anyone has ever written about me. I appreciate it more than you could possibly know. Also, "more than it says on the tin" is my new favorite saying. Brit slang rocks! Now come to America and we'll teach you how to call everybody a douchebag. You are developing an attachment too quickly and easily. I would seriously be interested to know where those of you who are saying this are getting it. I'm talking about having a crush on someone and enjoying hanging out with him. Nowhere in this thread have I said I was in love with him, or that I wanted to marry him and/or have his babies. It seems to me that what I've said through this whole thread is that a) I have a crush, b) I'm having fun getting to know him, and c) I want to take things slowly. To me, this all seems entirely within the realm of "sane people" behavior. We had fun hanging out today. He invited me to his party Saturday night and I'm going, with friends. I'm looking forward to seeing him then, but that's it. I'm not calling, texting, or chat-stalking him. Please, seriously, tell me how it is that this is "developing an attachment too quickly and easily," because I truly don't get it. I especially don't get the "easily" part -- I've spent the past two and a half years traumatized over the betrayal of trust that was my last relationship, and to allow myself to flirt with another guy is not easy at ALL! It takes a lot of courage, so much so that I made an excuse for why I couldn't hang out with him last week even though I really wanted to. And today I was still so scared I considered blowing him off, but I FORCED myself to get on the subway and go to his house. After everything that happened with my ex, I don't think emotional attachments will ever come easily for me again. Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to go boil some bunnies on his stove. Apparently, I've got a rep around here to uphold! Edited November 17, 2009 by sedgwick
melodymatters Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 "What do you cal a guy who likes to hang out with musicians ?" " A drummer" :lmao: Anyway, I don't even get the naysayers here !?! So NO ONE can meet someone, get that tingly feeling and enjoy it ? Your theories would basically end human kind ! No dates, no relationships, no marriages, no babies. We wouldn't go ON that first date if their were no " butterflies" inherent. And boogie, my first thought when I read your post about making moves on the first hang out meeting was " Oh, he must be very young". Most grown up men have a bit of patience and don't want to act like a horny teenager on their first car date. My husband just died May 20th, and right now I feel like I will NEVER have that crushy, butterfly feeling again. It's ok, it's still too soon, but damn I HOPE I get to feel it again before I die ! It's better than any drug, and it's free ! Enjoy Sedge, you sound like you've done a lot of work and have your head well settled on your shoulders !
Yukikazi Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 To those saying that the drummer is a ladykiller.. Seriously guys?? I mean really.. the guy is a white christian guy playing some funky mid-eastern instrument.. somehow I don't see him dealing with groupies and chicks wanting to blow him backstage for an autograph. I'm picturing more like community outreach gigs and nursing homes. Not every band is popular enough for women to throw themselves at the members. Just the words christian and middle eastern instrument in the same sentence should be more indicative of a church goin momma's boy then a heavy metal drummer going through chicks like M&M's.
northstar1 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Christ, leave the poor woman alone. It's the first time in a few years she's been interested/excited about someone other than "He who shall not be named".......why try and squash it? He might be interested in dating her, he might not, but she's enjoying the ride so far and that's one of the small joys in life.......the anticipation of something happening. too many Debbie Downers on this thread.....
Author sedgwick Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Seriously guys?? I mean really.. the guy is a white christian guy playing some funky mid-eastern instrument.. somehow I don't see him dealing with groupies and chicks wanting to blow him backstage for an autograph. Just the words christian and middle eastern instrument in the same sentence should be more indicative of a church goin momma's boy then a heavy metal drummer going through chicks like M&M's. HA!!! Let it be said, however, that he's not actively Christian. He was raised Catholic but it's not like he goes to church or talks about Jesus or anything. I was just negating the statements about him being Muslim. I mean, I was raised Baptist but I'm sure as hell not Baptist now!!! And Melody, I am SO sorry to hear about your husband. My heart goes out to you.
Lishy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Sedge, one more thing (oh and by the way I meant every word I said in my last post) I have noticed that on this thread you are holding on to the good things said and not the bad and that is a MAJOR improvement for you! I dont even know if you have noticed it yourself but to me you seem so much more positive and upbeat and more chilled out ... It is good to see my dear! I think you have crossed a big hurdle and that is fandabbidosi! It's great that you are getting over that twatty 'douchebag' fiddling thin fekker! lol He was never good enough for you anyway! Go go drummer boy! lol x
Author sedgwick Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 ((((LISHY))))) In an alternate universe, we are watching Withnail and I and eating Hula Hoops and drinking Apple Tango.
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