wierdmunky Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I was having a conversation with a girlfriend, and she mentioned that when and if a particular 'ex' of mine comes back around - to say "no"!. She then kept going and saying, guys like the chase! Is this true? or is the chase one of those 'it depends on the situation, who are involved, and whatever happened between them' thing. If it is, then generally speaking, do guys like this? I was thinking if they do, it might stop at a certain age or something because eventually they'll get sick of it, or I would at least. She also says that this ex of mine from what she hears likes to play games and that I should play it back and better.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I was having a conversation with a girlfriend, and she mentioned that when and if a particular 'ex' of mine comes back around - to say "no"!. She then kept going and saying, guys like the chase! Is this true? or is the chase one of those 'it depends on the situation, who are involved, and whatever happened between them' thing. If it is, then generally speaking, do guys like this? I was thinking if they do, it might stop at a certain age or something because eventually they'll get sick of it, or I would at least. She also says that this ex of mine from what she hears likes to play games and that I should play it back and better. We only like to chase if we sense that there's still a possibility of getting the girl. The feeling of the chase is exciting.
Krytie TV Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 More important to consider is what you want. If you want a guy who does like to chase, then it's likely you can make that happen and he will dump you in two months after he has eaten his prey. If you want a guy who is confident enough to not chase, then they may be more able to know what they want and don't want on a serious level.
carhill Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I was having a conversation with a girlfriend, and she mentioned that when and if a particular 'ex' of mine comes back around - to say "no"!. She then kept going and saying, guys like the chase! I'd be more curious why she'd be mentioning an ex and conditioning your prospective response than I would be about the subject of 'chasing'
CaliGuy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I was having a conversation with a girlfriend, and she mentioned that when and if a particular 'ex' of mine comes back around - to say "no"!. She then kept going and saying, guys like the chase! Is this true? or is the chase one of those 'it depends on the situation, who are involved, and whatever happened between them' thing. If it is, then generally speaking, do guys like this? I was thinking if they do, it might stop at a certain age or something because eventually they'll get sick of it, or I would at least. She also says that this ex of mine from what she hears likes to play games and that I should play it back and better. Can't speak for all men, but personally no I do not like to "chase" anyone. There has to be interest on both sides. If I have to chase someone, I will quickly lose interest. What your friend is trying to tell you is to be confident. That is what men like. Confidence, not "un-attainable". Making men chase is a false basis for confidence. In addition, if you make a man chase hard that may be the only thing that he really wanted. Once he gets you, the chase is over and he gets bored and leaves. Don't make it a game. Just be confident in who you are and you'll attract the right S/O.
Yukikazi Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 A little "chase" to get you is fine.. but playing hard to get and/or purposely extending the chase will get you nowhere fast. I'll make an effort at the chase but if you are making me chase just for chases sake.. you're gonna find yourself running from nothing since I'll look for someone less apt to flee. You know the saying.. When you are being chased by a lion.. you don't have to be the fastest runner.. just faster then 1 other person. Seems sorta true here.. if you make the chase too long and annoying.. we may decide to catch the slightly slower person behind you instead if they catch out eye. Being a chase challenge dosen't make you worth the effort.. not yet.
threebyfate Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 A lot of men like to hunt but aren't crazy about the chase. The hunt gives them the inaccurate view of having control.
JolliX Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I only enjoy the chase if I know the girl is interested. If I have no idea if she is, or she has shown nothing that seems like interest, then chasing seems like a waste of time. However, there is no way I'd chase an ex, it would just feel like they were messing with me, and they are an ex for a reason. But yes, the chase is fun if there has been some interest shown from her. I have no issues in showing my interests by pursuing, but to have no show at all for it makes it pointless.
frustr8ed Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I hate chasing. The way I see it, if we get along let's give it a go. If you make me chase I figure you're not interested and I move on. I don't like getting envolved with nonsense and games. There is too many beautiful women out there to get myself envolved with B.S. games. Which is why I'm probably still single.
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