singlelife Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 A new girl had been coming over to the house. She has been showing up at all times of day and nite. She has been picking me up at work and making sure i go to the store to shop. She initiates all of this. She talks to me about sex and we share gory details of past conquests. She is wanting to stay the nite in another city with me and party down. Now we have never ****ed yet. Tonite she wants to hang out after she spends time with her kid again. I have been over a lot the last week gettin drunk and talkin ****. Even when I want to leave she is like stay longer. So Tonite When she dropped me off I asked her for a kiss and she kissed me on the cheek and says she doesn't want to ruin our friendship and to all her later. So my question is this. BS or something else.
Author singlelife Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 A new girl had been coming over to the house. She has been showing up at all times of day and nite. She has been picking me up at work and making sure i go to the store to shop. She initiates all of this. She talks to me about sex and we share gory details of past conquests. She is wanting to stay the nite in another city with me and party down. Now we have never ****ed yet. Tonite she wants to hang out after she spends time with her kid again. I have been over a lot the last week gettin drunk and talkin ****. Even when I want to leave she is like stay longer. So Tonite When she dropped me off I asked her for a kiss and she kissed me on the cheek and says she doesn't want to ruin our friendship and to all her later. So my question is this. BS or something else. Any suggestions
Author singlelife Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 She's evil. Move on. Ok here's what's up. I told her that I party a lot and even though we are cool I got things goin on. I told her this because she keeps wanting to come over and me come there and drink and talk about nasty sex. I reminded her tht we can be cool but if she don't want to play then we just need to be cool and not talk about all that. She also keeps wanting to make plans to go party and i have other dates to go have fun. I tell her to just go and have fun by. She keeps insisting. We are really good friends but she keeps pushing the sex issue and is acting funny. I have told her again if you don't want to **** that's ok but quit asking about who i am ****ing and showing up. Oh yeah when I am not home and out ****ing she happens to always call me when i get home and ask what i been doin. she often says she drove by and my lights were off and she was gonna stop by but didn't know if i was home. So last nite when i got home from ****iing i saw her drive past and she called me and asked what i was doin. i told her i had just ****ed and was chillin. she was like well i may come see you tomorrow before she goes to work at noon. i told her ok. i feel like clarifying one more time. she is putting stress into the friendship. if you want to just be friends ok then lets be cool and thats that, but you keep pushing the issue of goin out and sex talk and all this. most girls would move on and go be bothered by someone else. people say she likes me more than she is telling. i am not sure. usually i would tell a chick to **** off and quit dippin in my business but she is a good friend. maybe i should tell her that. i need advice people.
jerseyboy Posted November 26, 2009 Posted November 26, 2009 Weird dynamic Definitely seemed like she was into you, maybe you took to long when she put it out there. Girls change their minds quickly. Or maybe she just gets off on head gaming you. Hard to say. I remember going out with a girl one time, had dinner/drinks. We had a great time, laughing to tears. touchy feely etc I walked her to her car, went in to kiss her, and she gave me some "I dont kiss on a first date " high school kind of response. So I thought ok, shes not that into me, move on. We still talked, I started going out on other dates, but I not in meanness did cool to her when we spoke. Just was a different dynamic, I was seeing her as "friend" after that night. She told me a while later she doesnt kiss because she doesnt trust herself to stop if she does, but I was over her long before that
Ody Posted November 27, 2009 Posted November 27, 2009 A new girl had been coming over to the house. She has been showing up at all times of day and nite. She has been picking me up at work and making sure i go to the store to shop. She initiates all of this. She talks to me about sex and we share gory details of past conquests. She is wanting to stay the nite in another city with me and party down. Now we have never ****ed yet. Tonite she wants to hang out after she spends time with her kid again. I have been over a lot the last week gettin drunk and talkin ****. Even when I want to leave she is like stay longer. So Tonite When she dropped me off I asked her for a kiss and she kissed me on the cheek and says she doesn't want to ruin our friendship and to all her later. So my question is this. BS or something else. My first guess is that she's just playing games. Likes having the attention from you, never going to progress further, likes getting favors, etc. Should probably bail in this case, cool things down. Another possibility is that she wants you to be really aggressive, make a stronger move than just asking her for a kiss. Some woman get turned on by faux-turning down a guy, trying to get him to be ultra aggressive,etc. That one is chancey because there's a fine line between aggressive and *******, especially if she's really just playing games. Also you may have already kind of blown it with the asking for a kiss thing if this really is the case. If I wasn't super into her I'd bail. Otherwise I'd probably make a move (not just ask for a kiss) one of these drinking together nights and play it by ear depending on what her response is.
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