bac Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 (edited) I am trying to get involved with guys in 20s through online dating. I am in 40s. They are sending me a lot of replies. My purpose is to meet a guy IRL. But it has turned out to be really difficult. They all enjoy collecting pics, writing about fantasies, dirty talking on the phone and stripping themselves on cam, but they always have a good exuse, which is typically severe swine flu:), when it comes to meeting IRL for NSA. Perhaps, they strictly prefer mas....ting to having sex IRL. But, I am not sure that it is the reason why they do not want to meet me. My present guy, 27, is into talking on the phone and texting daily. He has been talking about how much he wanted to meet me for many weeks every night. He sent me tons of texts. He was desperate to meet me. But when we set the meeting he had an exuse why he could not come. Then, the same situation repeated several times. Of course, I know that he is playing his game and he has no intention to meet me. But, the problem is that he calls/texts me all the time pretending that he is into me. It remainds me of the movies of high school's mean girls/boys' games. He is 27, but he does not probably have any other behavioral model except high school cruelty games. What is his problem? Why does not he want NSA IRL but he wants to spend all his nights playing useless games? Is it right that many young people believe that being evil/cruel to others is the best way to go to succeed in dating? Edited November 16, 2009 by bac
boogieboy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 We already told you that these young boys only want young girls. They are probably using you for an ego boost. You are probably more fun and uninhibited in text than the young prudes, but they see your picture and dont like what they see. You gonna keep letting them use you for and ego boost? You should suggest a meetup early on, and if they make an excuse, you shouldne be talking to them anymore after that. I dont know why you would continue to talk to them after the first excuse.
Ophelia Rue Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Why, in your 40s, are you limiting yourself to younger men? Isn't that a bit superficial? To be a "cougar" the criteria is quite prestigious...you need looks, money, you need a hot body... if you don't meet all of the above you're screwed. I say start going after guys your own age. Sorry to be blunt.
Author bac Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 Why, in your 40s, are you limiting yourself to younger men? Isn't that a bit superficial? To be a "cougar" the criteria is quite prestigious...you need looks, money, you need a hot body... if you don't meet all of the above you're screwed. I say start going after guys your own age. Sorry to be blunt. Younger guys before 30 are the only men who show interest in me. Men of my age are not interested in me at all.
boogieboy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Younger guys before 30 are the only men who show interest in me. Men of my age are not interested in me at all. Apparently not on the internet...what about in real life, who shows interest in you?
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