DustySaltus Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 (edited) So I go out with this girl for the third time on Friday and we have a great dinner followed by drinks and dancing at a local lounge. She invites me back to her place. I get the tour of the apartment, she takes me to the bedroom where she says, "This is where the magic WON'T be happening tonight". I laugh and we head back to living room where we begin to kiss. Things get pretty heavy and we are now at the point of no return....... Her: wait, wait, wait...I don't want you to think i'm that kind of girl. Me: Why would I think that? We've gone out a few times. I think you're a great girl. Her: Well, I just don't normally do things like this. Me: I understand Her: <starts kissing> Me: <eye on the prize lol> Her: I want to be in a relationship before I do anything. *Awkward Silence, followed by her teasing again* Me: I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear just to sleep with you. I understand where you are coming from but I've been through a lot myself and the next relationship I look to be in, I want to last a long, long time. I can't say that I've come up with a conclusion after three dates. I respect you and I want to be completely honest with you. her: You're such a nice guy. I understand. Now, she has called me yesterday and today to hang out. I know I could've done something if I wanted to...not even an issue. But it does seem like she has been hurt as well and I don't want to do anything to upset her. At the same time, although i do like her it's still too early for me to say what I want. So my question is, do you think she would've slept with me if I said ok to her question? Do you think i handled it OK? Edited November 15, 2009 by DustySaltus
purplehouse Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I think you handled it quite well. I suppose if you had said you wanted a relationship too then she probably would have slept with you, but if you aren't sure yet then you made the right choice. I don't think it was fair what she did though. Getting to that point then saying something like that. She should have discussed her feelings about it before hand if it was that important to her.
CarrieT Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Boy, are there ever some mixed messages here. "Holding out for ransome" is in some way how you have framed it in your head, but holding out for a relationship is NOT ransome; it is an intelligent way for a young girl to go about deciding with whom she is going to have sex. What she did is perfectly fine and how you reacted is honorable and to be respected.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I think Ali G puts it best.. "Sex can lead to many bad things... AIDS, herpes, and the worst one of them all.. a relationship." - Ali G
Author DustySaltus Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 Do you mean "ransom?" I'm such a schmuck. I realized how off I was in the spelling after I posted it, not it's too late. Had a late night, my spelling wasn't on par lol.
Sith Apprentice Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 her: You're such a nice guy. I understand. The kiss of death. Time to up the jerk quotient if you're gonna get in this chicks pants, but it's probably too late.
boogieboy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Wanna make her go nuts? Next time you go back to her place, you make out really passionately for 5 mintues, then you get up and leave. "Had a great time tonight, Gimme a call!" And walk out. Leave her cold. Keep doing this and she will JUMP you.
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