clv0116 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 From what I understand of American notions of beauty, they seem to be strongly influenced by porn rather than an underlying appreciation of beauty for its own sake. There should be a fairly pair of silicon breasts, and an overall glossy, plastic sheen about the body. The face must be pretty in either a slightly bitchy or a child-like way - but not interesting, striking or soulful ..... A kind of karaoke singer's approach towards beauty. Wow. Well, I guess I'm not a typical American. Or you're just dead wrong.
always_searching Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I actually like chubby chicks. LOL, if I were a guy, or a lesbian, I would like "chubby" chicks too...as long as the "chub" is in all the right places.
always_searching Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 If my GF was only attracted to me because of my personality. Really? Even if it is not that she is repelled by your looks, but that your looks just don't factor into her attraction? I have to say, as far as men are concerned, I really don't have a physical standard except they can't be so over-weight and out of shape that they wouldn't be able to do a good job in the sack. If I were going for a woman, as I've said, she would have to be curvy. I wouldn't want a stick--nothing to grab on to. Other than that, I have no real physical requirements, and even that is more of a "strong preference" as opposed to a "requirement."
Author shadowplay Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 (edited) Really? Even if it is not that she is repelled by your looks, but that your looks just don't factor into her attraction? I have to say, as far as men are concerned, I really don't have a physical standard except they can't be so over-weight and out of shape that they wouldn't be able to do a good job in the sack. If I were going for a woman, as I've said, she would have to be curvy. I wouldn't want a stick--nothing to grab on to. Other than that, I have no real physical requirements, and even that is more of a "strong preference" as opposed to a "requirement." I'd want a thin girl with some small curves. Edited November 16, 2009 by shadowplay
johan Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Wow. Well, I guess I'm not a typical American. Or you're just dead wrong. I'm pretty sure you're not typical.
Isolde Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 It does seem to me that European (and possibly, Jewish) men tend to favor complex personality traits more than your typical American guy does. But I have no proof of this other than the anecdotal.
clv0116 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 It does seem to me that European (and possibly, Jewish) men tend to favor complex personality traits more than your typical American guy does. But I have no proof of this other than the anecdotal. Well, I' don't put up with a lot of dramatic horsesh*t, but I don't think that's a bad thing.
Isolde Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Well, I' don't put up with a lot of dramatic horsesh*t, but I don't think that's a bad thing. Everyone has their own preferences. There's nothing wrong with having a simple style (it doesn't mean you're not smart or uninteresting per se), but having a more multilayered personality doesn't necessarily make you a drama queen, either. I do think on average, European guys are less likely to seek out the "simple" style and more intrigued by the latter type, without labelling it as "drama."
clv0116 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Everyone has their own preferences. There's nothing wrong with having a simple style (it doesn't mean you're not smart or uninteresting per se), but having a more multilayered personality doesn't necessarily make you a drama queen, either. I do think on average, European guys are less likely to seek out the "simple" style and more intrigued by the latter type, without labelling it as "drama." Fair enough, I enjoy reading and talking about things I know, and things I'm being taught about, but if by multi-layered we're meaning confusing and game playing, then I'm out. I want someone interesting but also someone I can count on and have a fun and relaxing time with. I'm certainly not looking to adopt a new sport, the "try to figure out which layer is showing this hour", sport.
dave22 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Usually attractiveness is required, but not always. I once had a thing for a girl who I realized was not that attractive (not ugly - just maybe a little below average) just because she had such a great personality. As I got to know her I became VERY physically attracted to her as well. Its amazing what personality can do sometimes.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Oh, yeah. I agree. She's great isn't she. Wow. http://www.collider.com/wp-content/image-base/People/M/Megan_Fox/megan_fox_04.jpg
Rudderless Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I wouldn't put the UK in the same category as the rest of Europe. From my experience, the Brits are culturally more similar to Americans than Europeans (makes sense, since America is an ex-colony of Britain). What experience is that? Do you think being born here and living here for over 30 years would put a different perspective on things? No we're definitely not similar apart from perhaps on the surface. I'm proud to be British, I wouldn't feel the same about being American. Besides which Britain is generally more "European now than British, at least in the capital.
Jersey Shortie Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I'd want him to be attracted to me physically and emotionally. If he isn't attracted to me physically, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close emotionally. And if he isn't attracted to me emotionally, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close physically. Both are important. I think some men worry to much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them about women instead of taking the time to really learn about women. Everyone today is trying to look like everyone else. People get plastic surgery not to look more different but to look more conformed to some media standard. It's too bad we don't celebrate more individual beauty.
clv0116 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I think some men worry to (sic) much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them... Same can be said about women, if anything, more so.
phineas Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I can be superficial. I shy away from women that wear too much make-up, spend too much time in front of a mirror or are fashion mavens.
phineas Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'd want him to be attracted to me physically and emotionally. If he isn't attracted to me physically, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close emotionally. And if he isn't attracted to me emotionally, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close physically. Both are important. I think some men worry to much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them about women instead of taking the time to really learn about women. Everyone today is trying to look like everyone else. People get plastic surgery not to look more different but to look more conformed to some media standard. It's too bad we don't celebrate more individual beauty. The way I look at it, if she pops my rod & the sex is good why do I care if someone else thinks she does or doesn't fit their definition of attractive?
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