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From what I understand of American notions of beauty, they seem to be strongly influenced by porn rather than an underlying appreciation of beauty for its own sake.

 

There should be a fairly pair of silicon breasts, and an overall glossy, plastic sheen about the body. The face must be pretty in either a slightly bitchy or a child-like way - but not interesting, striking or soulful

 

 

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A kind of karaoke singer's approach towards beauty.

 

 

Wow.

 

Well, I guess I'm not a typical American. Or you're just dead wrong.

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I actually like chubby chicks.

 

LOL, if I were a guy, or a lesbian, I would like "chubby" chicks too...as long as the "chub" is in all the right places. ;)

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If my GF was only attracted to me because of my personality.

 

Really? Even if it is not that she is repelled by your looks, but that your looks just don't factor into her attraction?

 

I have to say, as far as men are concerned, I really don't have a physical standard except they can't be so over-weight and out of shape that they wouldn't be able to do a good job in the sack. :eek:;)

 

If I were going for a woman, as I've said, she would have to be curvy. I wouldn't want a stick--nothing to grab on to. Other than that, I have no real physical requirements, and even that is more of a "strong preference" as opposed to a "requirement."

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Really? Even if it is not that she is repelled by your looks, but that your looks just don't factor into her attraction?

 

I have to say, as far as men are concerned, I really don't have a physical standard except they can't be so over-weight and out of shape that they wouldn't be able to do a good job in the sack. :eek:;)

 

If I were going for a woman, as I've said, she would have to be curvy. I wouldn't want a stick--nothing to grab on to. Other than that, I have no real physical requirements, and even that is more of a "strong preference" as opposed to a "requirement."

 

I'd want a thin girl with some small curves.

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Wow.

 

Well, I guess I'm not a typical American. Or you're just dead wrong.

 

I'm pretty sure you're not typical.

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It does seem to me that European (and possibly, Jewish) men tend to favor complex personality traits more than your typical American guy does. But I have no proof of this other than the anecdotal.

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It does seem to me that European (and possibly, Jewish) men tend to favor complex personality traits more than your typical American guy does. But I have no proof of this other than the anecdotal.

 

Well, I' don't put up with a lot of dramatic horsesh*t, but I don't think that's a bad thing.

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Well, I' don't put up with a lot of dramatic horsesh*t, but I don't think that's a bad thing.

 

Everyone has their own preferences. There's nothing wrong with having a simple style (it doesn't mean you're not smart or uninteresting per se), but having a more multilayered personality doesn't necessarily make you a drama queen, either. I do think on average, European guys are less likely to seek out the "simple" style and more intrigued by the latter type, without labelling it as "drama."

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Everyone has their own preferences. There's nothing wrong with having a simple style (it doesn't mean you're not smart or uninteresting per se), but having a more multilayered personality doesn't necessarily make you a drama queen, either. I do think on average, European guys are less likely to seek out the "simple" style and more intrigued by the latter type, without labelling it as "drama."

 

Fair enough, I enjoy reading and talking about things I know, and things I'm being taught about, but if by multi-layered we're meaning confusing and game playing, then I'm out.

 

I want someone interesting but also someone I can count on and have a fun and relaxing time with. I'm certainly not looking to adopt a new sport, the "try to figure out which layer is showing this hour", sport.

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Usually attractiveness is required, but not always. I once had a thing for a girl who I realized was not that attractive (not ugly - just maybe a little below average) just because she had such a great personality. As I got to know her I became VERY physically attracted to her as well. Its amazing what personality can do sometimes.

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I wouldn't put the UK in the same category as the rest of Europe. From my experience, the Brits are culturally more similar to Americans than Europeans (makes sense, since America is an ex-colony of Britain).

 

What experience is that? Do you think being born here and living here for over 30 years would put a different perspective on things?

 

No we're definitely not similar apart from perhaps on the surface. I'm proud to be British, I wouldn't feel the same about being American. Besides which Britain is generally more "European now than British, at least in the capital.

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I'd want him to be attracted to me physically and emotionally. If he isn't attracted to me physically, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close emotionally. And if he isn't attracted to me emotionally, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close physically. Both are important.

 

I think some men worry to much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them about women instead of taking the time to really learn about women. Everyone today is trying to look like everyone else. People get plastic surgery not to look more different but to look more conformed to some media standard. It's too bad we don't celebrate more individual beauty.

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I think some men worry to (sic) much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them...

 

Same can be said about women, if anything, more so.

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I can be superficial.

 

I shy away from women that wear too much make-up, spend too much time in front of a mirror or are fashion mavens.

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I'd want him to be attracted to me physically and emotionally. If he isn't attracted to me physically, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close emotionally. And if he isn't attracted to me emotionally, he is going to be looking for it else where while he keeps me close physically. Both are important.

 

I think some men worry to much about standards they let others define for them. Or buy into the stereotypes the media tells them about women instead of taking the time to really learn about women. Everyone today is trying to look like everyone else. People get plastic surgery not to look more different but to look more conformed to some media standard. It's too bad we don't celebrate more individual beauty.

 

The way I look at it, if she pops my rod & the sex is good why do I care if someone else thinks she does or doesn't fit their definition of attractive?

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