385 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Granted every relationship is different, but generally, about how long do people date before they start using the 'L' word?
Boundary Problem Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I don't play games with that stuff. I just say it when I feel it. If I don't feel it, I don't say it. Their response is their business.
JoJola Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 There is not a timeframe for "I love you"...wish there was more to say..ive been with the same man for five months and we still have not said it.
Art_Critic Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I always wait til the 2nd date Honestly.. I have always said it if I felt it.. no time frame.. I can say though that I haven't loved every woman I dated some I dated for over a year + and never fell in love.. I have only said it to a woman if I felt it and never used it just because they wanted to hear it..
Ophelia Rue Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 How should I know...11 months going here and still no I love you. -_-
Art_Critic Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 How should I know... Do you feel loved ? sometimes in the early stages till the ILU's are exchanged just feeling loved is enough. It would be for me...
tami-chan Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I agree with people who say just say it when you feel it.... To guys, do you feel creeped out when you hear this from a girl BEFORE you have said it?
Citizen Erased Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 It usually takes me a long time to feel that comfortable with someone to reveal something like that. Even if I feel it, I'm never going to say it before I am sure it's returned. And that I'm not just saying it because of the usual lustful attraction that some confuse for love.
boldjack Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I almost never say it, unless it is going to get me sex, then I will say it but not mean it. I have said it to CE, and meant it, but she hasn't said it back.
Pyro Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Whenever I want sex. In all seriousness, after I get past the initial lust stage and generally start caring for her on a personal level. Its something that can't really be put into words but I just know in my heart and mind when the time is right.
Citizen Erased Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I almost never say it, unless it is going to get me sex, then I will say it but not mean it. I have said it to CE, and meant it, but she hasn't said it back. Aww. Read what I wrote before. It's not past lustful attraction yet.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Granted every relationship is different, but generally, about how long do people date before they start using the 'L' word? Only after the first waning crescent of the 4th month of the second decade of 2000. Just whenever you feel like it and you MEAN it.
Citizen Erased Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Only after the first waning crescent of the 4th month of the second decade of 2000. Just whenever you feel like it and you MEAN it. Yep. People say it far too easily. It has more meaning when you're not throwing it at every person you date after a designated time.
harmfulsweetz Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 There's no time limit really. Whenever you feel it, and are sure you feel it. This can be after 3 months, or a year. It just depends. For me, it's not saying it that makes a difference, it's showing it. My bf, took a while to say it, but I knew he felt it. The way he refused to go out on a friend's birthday when I was sick, and stayed in to look after me, told me so. You know they love you when they put themselves out to be with you. Or do little things to show they care. You know you love them when you do the same. But generally, there's no time limit.
Template Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Why put a time line on it? It happens when it happens. When you feel it in your heart, and you want to express it for no other reason than to truly celebrate what you feel, then it's the time to do it.
carhill Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 OP, tell me, do you tell your close friends you love them? Why? What prompts that disclosure (or not)? How often do you tell your family members you love them? Or, are we not talking about you here but rather whom your dating?
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