sdiaz Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 I'm a guy in my early 20s that developed a crush on a girl I met through mutual friends. She just drives me crazy (in a good way). In a recent conversation, I told her about the gift I bought for my baby cousin (a large stuffed bear). I showed her a picture and she responded with "I still sleep with a teddy bear. I like having something to hold. Sssh! Don't tell anyone." I haven't responded yet, but isn't this awfully suggestive? Let me know if i'm being an idiot and reading too much into it. I don't want my wishful thinking to make me misinterpret something that would be innocuous. Obviously, my natural response would be "you can hold me anytime you want!"
boogieboy Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 You are reading too much into it. Youre not suppose to develop crushes on women because you lose your perspective, like youre doing now. Youre hanging onto every word. Youre reading what you want in ambiguous statements. Dont worry about her words, worry about her actions. If she hasnt flirted with you physically yet, you arent going anywhere with her. You need to back off and get your head together so you can see her actions more objectively.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 I'm kind of a shy flirt, so that would definitely be a way of me flirting with you. Your "you can hold me any time you want" response would be perfect too! I'm a waitress, and I get quick, witty, replies like that all the time, and even if I'm not interested, they make me smile - so I can't see the harm in saying it. EXCEPT you've known her for a while. If you're naturally kind of a flirt anyways, I'd just go for it. Whats the worst that can happen? Rejection? Really? Well if she rejects you, that IS okay, even if it hurts... because then you have a concrete reason to move on and find a girl that wants to be with you. With regards to Boogie's answer... not all girls are "physical" flirts. The ones that are though seem to get asked out more often (and that makes sense). Even the shyest flirts though have a few signs they tend to give off no matter what. Does she give off a big goofy smile when she sees you? That's usually a pretty good sign. If she's been talking to you about the guys she has crushes on, its a bad one. ;p
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