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I've grown very cynical about the world. I think modern women are partially the blame for my problems, they crave "alpha" materialistic type badboys who will provide them with endless drama and issues. Women claim to be innocent angels, when in reality they want some drug dealer bad boy to F*&$ the daylights out of them. A woman could have 30 one night stands but would take extreme insult if someone even insinuated she was a slut.

 

im not touching that one

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99% of sexually active women would not date a virgin because they expect men to be experienced. Another one of life's double standards.

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Virgin, even if medication wont solve your underlying problem (which is debatable), surely not feeling anxious and depressed anymore is a hell of a lot better than nothing?

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I've grown very cynical about the world. I think modern women are partially the blame for my problems, they crave "alpha" materialistic type badboys who will provide them with endless drama and issues. Women claim to be innocent angels, when in reality they want some drug dealer bad boy to F*&$ the daylights out of them. A woman could have 30 one night stands but would take extreme insult if someone even insinuated she was a slut.

 

Im shocked that youre a Professor and youre spouting stuff that you have no idea about..

 

If you actually did your research, you would find out that not all women go for bad boys. You would also understand what qualities the women like in the bad boys, and how you dont have to be a bad boy mentally abusing women to be successful in a relationship.

 

Are you ever going to get help, and do your research to fix your lonliness, or are you going to continue to wallow in self pity - and keep starting threads about it? What the hell is going though your head while youre sitting at that computer?

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Are you ever going to get help, and do your research to fix your lonliness, or are you going to continue to wallow in self pity - and keep starting threads about it? What the hell is going though your head while youre sitting at that computer?

 

Maybe being deprived of sex and human touch to this point has distorted my perception of reality?

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Im shocked that youre a Professor and youre spouting stuff that you have no idea about..

 

If you actually did your research, you would find out that not all women go for bad boys. You would also understand what qualities the women like in the bad boys, and how you dont have to be a bad boy mentally abusing women to be successful in a relationship.

 

Are you ever going to get help, and do your research to fix your lonliness, or are you going to continue to wallow in self pity - and keep starting threads about it? What the hell is going though your head while youre sitting at that computer?

 

 

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,151271,00.html

 

Maybe he realizes that if he were on death row he'd be more desirable to women and he's upset and jaded about it?

 

Did you know that one of the jurors who convicted him fell in love with him? DID YOU?

 

So what does taht say about a society and people where murderers are more desirable than male virgins? is the ENTIRE problem him?

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Maybe being deprived of sex and human touch to this point has distorted my perception of reality?

 

Maybe so. Its an avenue to explore.

 

You are probably a better looking and taller man than myself. I met the tallest, hotest woman a few nights ago and we ended up hanging out afterwards. It all boils down to loving yourself and treating others as you'd want to be treated.

 

Not all people respond in kind, but sometimes they do :)

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Maybe so. Its an avenue to explore.

 

You are probably a better looking and taller man than myself. I met the tallest, hotest woman a few nights ago and we ended up hanging out afterwards. It all boils down to loving yourself and treating others as you'd want to be treated.

 

Not all people respond in kind, but sometimes they do :)

 

Not exactly accurate, especially with women. You don't treat a woman the way you want to be treated, you treat her the ways SHE wants to be treated, hence this is why nice guys always fail with women because they treat women how they would want to be treated, and not how women actually want to be treated.

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Not exactly accurate, especially with women. You don't treat a woman the way you want to be treated, you treat her the ways SHE wants to be treated, hence this is why nice guys always fail with women because they treat women how they would want to be treated, and not how women actually want to be treated.

 

Beta is right here, the same way a woman who sleeps around with guys would take offense if you called her something sexually derogatory like a slut. She is just exploring her womanhood options.

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Not exactly accurate, especially with women. You don't treat a woman the way you want to be treated, you treat her the ways SHE wants to be treated, hence this is why nice guys always fail with women because they treat women how they would want to be treated, and not how women actually want to be treated.

 

Excellent point.

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http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,151271,00.html

 

Maybe he realizes that if he were on death row he'd be more desirable to women and he's upset and jaded about it?

 

Did you know that one of the jurors who convicted him fell in love with him? DID YOU?

 

So what does taht say about a society and people where murderers are more desirable than male virgins? is the ENTIRE problem him?

 

Both you and Virgin are social misfits, so you can feed each other yoru self fullfilling crap about women, but that doesnt make it true. And stop reading the news, one women whos sick in the head marrying a prisoner is not a common think among women. You need to learn how to talk to people beta. Then you would find this out.

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Both you and Virgin are social misfits, so you can feed each other yoru self fullfilling crap about women, but that doesnt make it true. And stop reading the news, one women whos sick in the head marrying a prisoner is not a common think among women. You need to learn how to talk to people beta. Then you would find this out.

 

 

So being a social misfit is apparently worse than being a murderer in this society. Fascinating.

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Beta is right here, the same way a woman who sleeps around with guys would take offense if you called her something sexually derogatory like a slut. She is just exploring her womanhood options.

 

Why would you want to call a woman a slut?

Arent you supposed to be learning how to talk to women?

Slut shouldnt even be in your vocabulary, youre consumed with calling women names.

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Virgin, you've shared a lot of information about why you think women aren't interested in you, and that no one wants to be with someone who is depressed or a social misfit or a virgin or whatever.

 

But in everything you've said, there is only one thing that would have me running the other way. You really don't seem to like women very much. And personally, I'd rather not spend time with someone who believes my entire gender is partly to blame for some pretty significant issues in his life. It's a turnoff.

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Virgin, you've shared a lot of information about why you think women aren't interested in you, and that no one wants to be with someone who is depressed or a social misfit or a virgin or whatever.

 

But in everything you've said, there is only one thing that would have me running the other way. You really don't seem to like women very much. And personally, I'd rather not spend time with someone who believes my entire gender is partly to blame for some pretty significant issues in his life. It's a turnoff.

 

I'm a product of my experiences. I'm almost 40, that almost 1/2 a lifetime. What percentage of the population experienced what I did? I'm extremely disillusioned, and the few experiences I had with women were very poor.

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So being a social misfit is apparently worse than being a murderer in this society. Fascinating.

 

Its not worse, just not as attractive.

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Its not worse, just not as attractive.

 

Ah, so.... The problem is entirely me then :rolleyes:

 

Social misfit less attractive than a serial killer. Makes perfect, logical sense. I have been such a fool to think otherwise.

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I'm a product of my experiences. I'm almost 40, that almost 1/2 a lifetime. What percentage of the population experienced what I did? I'm extremely disillusioned, and the few experiences I had with women were very poor.

 

You're a smart guy, you know the blanket statements you're making about women aren't true. So start there; change your attitude.

 

Yeah, we've all had crappy experiences with the opposite sex; sometimes more bad than good. But there's absolutely nothing to be gained in assuming that 'all men' or 'all women' are like that; unless you really do want to be alone forever. And I don't think you do.

 

Women like men who like them, and I'm guessing this is true for men as well. And one of the most attractive things in another person is not how well they speak, but how well they listen. The guy I'm going to gravitate toward at a party is the one who behaves as though I'm absolutely fascinating -- even though I know it isn't true -- not the one who seems to have a chip on his shoulder about how he expects to be treated.

 

Sometimes you just have to get out of your own head and focus on other people. Just try to change the focus for a little while. Pretend you like actually women, and they will respond differently.

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Ah, so.... The problem is entirely me then :rolleyes:

 

Social misfit less attractive than a serial killer. Makes perfect, logical sense. I have been such a fool to think otherwise.

 

You HAd a gf, you know what you did wrong, the fact that you refuse to accept it is pretty pathetic. Its an easy concept, its the way womens minds are, its not going to change, why are you fighting it?

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You HAd a gf, you know what you did wrong, the fact that you refuse to accept it is pretty pathetic. Its an easy concept, its the way womens minds are, its not going to change, why are you fighting it?

 

 

I told her I loved her. That was mistake.... That's so logical and makes sense..

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I told her I loved her. That was mistake.... That's so logical and makes sense..

 

So you read her wrong, you probably told her that even when you werent sure she felt the same... or she was a mixed up girl, or she was looking for a reason to break it off. You gonna beat up all women for it, or are you gonna learn from it and move on?

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So you read her wrong, you probably told her that even when you werent sure she felt the same... or she was a mixed up girl, or she was looking for a reason to break it off. You gonna beat up all women for it, or are you gonna learn from it and move on?

 

What I've learned from life, my experiences, and the experiences of others, is that the vast majority are emotional children, and since i"m not a pedophile, I don't want anything to do with them.

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What I've learned from life, my experiences, and the experiences of others, is that the vast majority are emotional children, and since i"m not a pedophile, I don't want anything to do with them.

 

And how many of your women that you had relationships with have been emotional children?

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And how many of your women that you had relationships with have been emotional children?

5 relationships, and what all my friends have experienced as well. Are you telling me that for some reason that I've just run into some incredibly bad luck and I've met the only 5 women on earth that are heavily into drama and don't know what they want and change their minds every five minutes? Please, every guy experiences this, I just cannot tolerate it.

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5 relationships, and what all my friends have experienced as well. Are you telling me that for some reason that I've just run into some incredibly bad luck and I've met the only 5 women on earth that are heavily into drama and don't know what they want and change their minds every five minutes? Please, every guy experiences this, I just cannot tolerate it.

 

If you had 5 relationships, youre not a social misfit.

YOU picked those women to be with

YOU stayed with those women even when they put you though the drama

YOU didnt figure out how to stop the drama

YOU need to do better in picking women.

 

Stop being a quitter and a crumudgen.

You havent dated in years, if you wanna really be alone and mad at women for the rest of your life, go ahead, but I know you dont. You just dont want to learn what youre doing wrong. Youre lazy too.

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