mmk1 Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 (edited) I had a first date last Sunday and we went to a pro football game. Everything was great and she actually reached to kiss me goodnight. We had met thru work and actually arranged the date via email rather than phone about a month in advance. I called her on Tuesday evening intending to ask her out for this weekend (friday). She was not there so I left a VM telling her I was calling to say hi and asking her to call back. She has a lot of night meetings for her job. She did not call back until Thursday at lunch time, saying she had been busy at work with night meetings every night, including Thursday. She said to call back but also said she would be out that night with work. I thought she should have called back sooner and backed off a little. I knew she would be working and not able to talk Thursday night so I just sent an email telling her I had a blast on Sunday asking her to go to another game next month, rather than a date this weekend. She did not reply to the email yet. 1) Is it too late to call her today to see if we can get together tonite? 2) Does her waiting two days to call back show a lack of interest? 3) Is it ok to ask someone out by text or email rather than phone? Thanks for the help! Edited November 13, 2009 by mmk1
DustySaltus Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 1) Is it too late to call her today to see if we can get together tonite? 2) Does her waiting two days to call back show a lack of interest? 3) Is it ok to ask someone out by text or email rather than phone? 1) I don't understand. First you want to ask her out for a date "next month" and now you want to ask her out tonight? When she called back on Thursday to tell YOU to "call back" there was your opportunity to ask again. She didn't even bring it up, which isn't a good sign. At this point you need to let her come to you. When someone wants to see you they WILL find a way to do it regardless of what else is going on in their life. 2) Not at all. I think that's a pretty standard play. I can't see why she would be upset about that. Did she send you a text after the game to let you know she had a good time? 3) I always feel that a phone call is better. Texts are so easy to avoid. No one wants to talk to anyone anymore. But when I really like someone I try to show it through my actions, not through texts (unless i'm at work) but either in person or via phone. One other thing: When you say she "reached over to kiss you" how did you react? Usually it's the other way around. Did you give her a kiss or a kiss on the cheek.
Ody Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 1) Is it too late to call her today to see if we can get together tonite? 2) Does her waiting two days to call back show a lack of interest? 3) Is it ok to ask someone out by text or email rather than phone? Thanks for the help! You guys are playing the game, and it sounds like she is better at it than you. Sometimes it is distasteful and you need to decide if you want to play. If you don't want to play then move on and hope you find someone with enough sparks that you guys bypass this stage. If you do want to play, improve your game: 1 - Yes it is too late. Relax, and take a step back. You will appear desperate if you try to rush in a date. I hope you didn't do this. The key to playing this game is not being bothered by things like this. You already probably appear a little erratic with the whole this friday - next month switcheroo thing. 2 - She's probably gaming you, but maybe she really was busy. At least you got the call the day before the suggested date. Had she called you today, well that would have definitely been her gaming you and rude. 3 - Always try phone first. People can't blow you off on the phone as easily, and they can't get nervous or distracted and go play minesweeper or read online community forums instead of replying to you. Some people really don't like talking on the phone, in which case text is still probably preferable to email. If someone ignores a text, you know they are blowing you off, whereas it's more ambiguous with email.
VeveCakes Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 Oh jeeze just muster up some testicles and call the girl!!! What's the worst that can happen? She'll say no and you can quit wasting your time worrying and move onto the next girl. She says yes - and hey! You got yourself another date. Don't screw it up lol CALL HER - don't text or e-mail. A call means so much more this day and age.
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