littlewhiterose Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I must be missing something??? I'm terrible about seeing things for myself objectively. There's this guy who friend requested me online last year. I don't know him and we've never hung out. We never speak, like small-talk or chit chat to get to know about each other. Well apparently, a few months ago he deleted himself from my list. I noticed that someone was missing but I couldn't place who. Anyway, A few months later, he comes back and friend requests me again. It's then that I realized it was him who was missing. I played it off and just casually asked how he'd been, and that I thought we'd already been friends and all he said was he had to "take time for himself" and nothing else really. Then he tells me about an upcoming concert in my area. (Was this an invitation?) His stats say he's in a different state but I guess he's nearby ? I've always been pretty cautious about meeting people from online --- but this is just bizarre to me...WTH?
Lucky_One Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 I'd remove him from my friend list. You aren't friends, you never talk, you didn't miss him when he was gone.
crazy_grl Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 I don't understand why there's any kind of dilemma here. You don't know him and never talked to him when he was on your friends list before, why bother adding him again? Why concern yourself with what his deal might be? What are you leaving out? Is he super hot or something?? My advice in general is to not add strangers to your social networking sites in the hopes of dating or making new friends. Myspace and such are not the place for that.
Author littlewhiterose Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 Thanks guys! I was curious. That's all. I'm not leaving anything out. No he's not hot or I should say I don't find him physically attractive. Frankly there's NO prospect of me ever dating him. I was just thinking about the whole interaction and I wanted to see if I was missing whatever my part of the equation is. It was a strange interaction. I abandoned Myspace aaages ago so it's not on there or anything like that. Since his actions are odd, at best, I'll probably just let it drift off. If he deleted himself before, he'll probably do it again & spare me.
Lucky_One Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 What is there to spare? What's the big deal about deleting a stranger who makes you say WTH about his intentions?
Author littlewhiterose Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 Well, what if his intentions were romantic? For me this'd be a problem. In the past, I've had problems with a few guys who couldn't accept "no" for an answer. I'm just being cautious. I'm pre-emptively looking out for red flags. We women have to always be aware!
Lucky_One Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 So you unfriend him. What is he going to do? Does he have your phone number or address?
Author littlewhiterose Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 (edited) Good God NO! But he has friend requested some people that I do chat with a lot. But I've had a couple of weirdos do some crazy stuff- H#ll! as soon as I signed up to facebook, I had my another weirdo encounter. Made a post about it here on LS.... 1. moved companies along with me, after he found out where I went to work (we did not do the same job) and asked "do you remember me?" and several yrs later, another asked me my shoe size and tried to buy me a pair of shoes (and came past my office 10-15 times a day til my supervisor put a stop to it). I had never spoken directly to either of them. I always have that running in the back of my mind when the weirdo buzzer goes off & Yes! I do know how ridiculous this seems. Edited November 13, 2009 by littlewhiterose
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