fatslice Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Hi, I met this beautiful girl. I met her a couple of times through a friend at some parties. The last time I met her, she showed interest in me. I didn't notice that myself, but some of my friends wondered if she had contacted me afterwards. I said why would she do that, and no, she havent contacted me yet. They said that it was obvious that she liked you. Then she added me on facebook. Then a week passed and she started contacting me through the chat. She wanted to know when I got of work, and If I was interested in a date. We ended up spending a date at my place and really hit it off. We had a couple of glasses of wine. She was very open, mentioned that she had a psyko ex boyfriend. She also wondered why a guy like me is single. Then she asked my age, and it turned out im 9 years older than her. We ended up making out and a couple of hours past and she asks if I could walk her home. Then we kissed some more and she spent the night making it clear that she didnt want to have sex on the first date. She didnt have a hurry leaving in the morning either, almost was late for work. After that things started very slow, but she was constantly contacting me through facebook and we had a few more dates, always kissing in the end. She said that she wanted to take things slow. Always saying that "normally I would come home with you and spend the night" but she said that se was afraid that after we had sex I would get bored and call it quits. Im not that type of guy so I tried to make her sure that I didnt have any motivs like that and that I respected her for wanting to take it slow. She would always mirror my interests. For example she would say that she is listening to some music she knew I had mention as a favourite. She would write on her blog that she will fall asleep to a song ...which I played for her on the ukulele:) I mentioned this to her and she said she knew I would like it. She was away for a week and I didnt contact her and she would send me a message in the morning letting me know that there where no internetconnection and that her phone didnt work where she was. But still things was going slow, really hard to get to meet her. She starts work when I end mine, so there is a bit hard to find the time. I wanted to give her something nice, but doing it in a bit of an unformal way. I bought a dress which she knew I was buying for her. I then went to a store and bought some designbooks that I thought she would like ...trying to picture what she would buy if she was me. I then placed all in a plastic bag with no wraping and wrote her a note telling her something along the lines of "you forgot your shoppingbag, thank god I was her to pick it up. I then gave the bag to a customer where she work and told her to give it to this person letting her know she forgot it. Later that night I got a textmessage from her telling me that she got unbelievably happy, that it was incredibly romantic. Big hugs to you good looking!! She even wrote about it in her blog telling everyone that a person did something that made her very happy. That she didnt know how to say thank you. That she will tell at a later point what it was, She also added a picture with a heart that also had something to do with the book I gave her. She also hoped that that person red this blog. I didnt respond to her that thay but waited til late next day. I didnt hear something that day. We talked on facebook the day after. She was a bit distant, and said that its nothing but that she has never been treathed like that from another man before. She then disappeared from facebook, I tried calling her and sent her a message on facebook telling her that I also wanted to know what she wanted from me since she was the one contacting me first. She didnt pick up but wrote me later that day that she was at work and it was difficult to respond. I asked her what she wanted from me and she said she didnt know. She then contacted me on facebook over the weekend. She told me that she would never have contacted me if she didnt find me interesting. I had to hear this because a friend of mine have told me that she could be some of a tease. I told her that and she said that a lot of people tries to pick me up and Im normally a kind person so people misinterpret. With you its different. After she contacted me I sent her a txtmessage the next day during her working hours wondering if she would grab a bite to eat or something. Now one week has passed and I have yet to hear from her. So now its more of stand off between the two of us on facebook. Really dont know how to go from here. Terribly sorry for the long and somewhat messy explanation, just trying to recap the event. There could also be more to the story but I guess this draws a pretty good picture of the progression. Thanks for reading. Hoping to hear your thoughts:)
Ody Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Thanks for reading. Hoping to hear your thoughts:) She is a player and you got played. "Normally I'd come home with you" is a complete line. She might also be a cool person or thought you were a neat guy, but certainly she was deliberately playing it slow, enjoying the attention and gifts, and she decided to bail when she realized how into her you were. Learn from the experience. Also try to ease up on the facebook surveillance. Good luck.
Author fatslice Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 ...and people tend to think that Im the player type. Oh the irony
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