Roxanna Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I'm at bf's house right now, working from home today. He just texted me asking me to go into a specific drawer in his bedroom to get a set of keys to bring him when we meet for lunch later. In this drawer (I've never looked before), in plain view (there's not a lot of clutter in this drawer, just a few items) are two women's diamond rings, and a pair of diamond earrings. Obviously old(ish) because there isn't a jewelry box for any of them, they're just out lying in the bottom of the drawer next to the keys. The rings need to be cleaned; the metal is a little tarnished and the diamonds aren't very sparkly. The earrings look newer, are clean and in very good condition. But I'm guessing they belonged to the same woman and were put in the drawer at the same time, because they're right next to each other. I can't think of any explanation for them, except that they belonged to an ex-gf. No idea why she wouldn't want them back. Anyways, as my title says, this bothers me a little, but I have no idea why. Don't want to ask bf about it, because that seems nosy and like it's not really any of my business. Someone talk some sense into me?
betamanlet Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I'm at bf's house right now, working from home today. He just texted me asking me to go into a specific drawer in his bedroom to get a set of keys to bring him when we meet for lunch later. In this drawer (I've never looked before), in plain view (there's not a lot of clutter in this drawer, just a few items) are two women's diamond rings, and a pair of diamond earrings. Obviously old(ish) because there isn't a jewelry box for any of them, they're just out lying in the bottom of the drawer next to the keys. The rings need to be cleaned; the metal is a little tarnished and the diamonds aren't very sparkly. The earrings look newer, are clean and in very good condition. But I'm guessing they belonged to the same woman and were put in the drawer at the same time, because they're right next to each other. I can't think of any explanation for them, except that they belonged to an ex-gf. No idea why she wouldn't want them back. Anyways, as my title says, this bothers me a little, but I have no idea why. Don't want to ask bf about it, because that seems nosy and like it's not really any of my business. Someone talk some sense into me? were you a virgin before you met him? Maybe they were his mother's?
Confusedalways Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I was also thinking maybe they were a mother or grandmothers. My ex kept a ring of his deceased grandmother's in one of his drawers. Regardless of whose they were, he knew/knows they are in there and wouldn't have had you go into that drawer if he was uncomfortable with you going there. Its a drawer he uses a lot, he knows they are there and was okay with you seeing them.
Author Roxanna Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 were you a virgin before you met him? Maybe they were his mother's? Nope, and I suppose that's possible, but I doubt it. She's still alive, and I don't think the rings are her size. Plus he has a sister, so if the rings were a grandmother's (the earrings look way too new for that to be possible) I imagine they would go to his sister/mother. I realize that he has a past, yada yadda yadda...He doesn't really have mementos of past gfs though.
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 this bothers me a little, but I have no idea why. Don't want to ask bf about it, because that seems nosy and like it's not really any of my business. Someone talk some sense into me? Sure. Try communicating. 'I was getting your keys and saw some jewelry in the bottom of the drawer. Every piece of jewelry has a story and I'm fascinated by stories' We took all my mom's jewelry, including her wedding set, when I placed her in a dementia facility. It's in a drawer or box around here somewhere. I'm sure, someday, a woman will ask me about the story, which I'll be happy to share.
Author Roxanna Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 I was also thinking maybe they were a mother or grandmothers. My ex kept a ring of his deceased grandmother's in one of his drawers. Regardless of whose they were, he knew/knows they are in there and wouldn't have had you go into that drawer if he was uncomfortable with you going there. Its a drawer he uses a lot, he knows they are there and was okay with you seeing them. True. The bolded part is actually part of the reason it bothers me though Strange, I know! Ironically, it's not actually a drawer he uses very often. This particular set of keys he has always kept on his desk, and for whatever reason a few days ago he said, "If I ever ask you to get [X set of keys] they'll be in THIS drawer" and put them in there.
Author Roxanna Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Sure. Try communicating. 'I was getting your keys and saw some jewelry in the bottom of the drawer. Every piece of jewelry has a story and I'm fascinated by stories' We took all my mom's jewelry, including her wedding set, when I placed her in a dementia facility. It's in a drawer or box around here somewhere. I'm sure, someday, a woman will ask me about the story, which I'll be happy to share. That's sweet. I wear my grandfather's wedding ring as a necklace, and I get asked about it a lot. Mostly by women though. Also, the first thing I thought when I saw them was "I wonder what the story here is" and was imagining options for a short story (about me finding them though). I thought, what a great writing prompt! Definitely sparked my imagination.
TaraMaiden Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Hmmmm...Sounds suspiciously to me as if he wanted you to see them, and is trying to 'test' you to see what your reaction would be. is that what you're thinking....? I wouldn't mention them at all. let him bring them up.... "Did you see anything else in the drawer?" "Like what?" "Like a pair of earrings and a ring...." "Oh, yeah.... what about them....?" Well, aren't you even a little bit curious about them....? "Should I be?" ...and so on.....
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Leave it to a woman to add drama to a non-event
Author Roxanna Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Hmmmm...Sounds suspiciously to me as if he wanted you to see them, and is trying to 'test' you to see what your reaction would be. is that what you're thinking....? I wouldn't mention them at all. let him bring them up.... "Did you see anything else in the drawer?" "Like what?" "Like a pair of earrings and a ring...." "Oh, yeah.... what about them....?" Well, aren't you even a little bit curious about them....? "Should I be?" ...and so on..... That did occur to me. Don't know why he would be "testing" me (unless it's to see how nosy I am!), but that's part of why I didn't want to say anything to him about it. I didn't think anything of it when he moved the keys (other than a very fleeting "huh, I wonder why he's putting keys he uses frequently in a less accessible place"), but after I saw that I did wonder if something was up. Strange!
TaraMaiden Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Leave it to a woman to add drama to a non-event yes - This is why we're so good at romantic novels. we take something ordinary and banal and make it sound earth-shatteringly interesting.
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 In any case if he knows they are there and he knows you saw them and you don't say anything, that might make him wonder too why you are not mentioning this to him? and if he asked you to go in the drawer and knew they were there I don't think he has anything to hide, just ask him. But don't accuse him of anything. Obviously this is bothering you and it will until you say something to him about it.
betamanlet Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Leave it to a woman to add drama to a non-event LOL. I don't miss drama one bit. She should be thankful. Say if she found gay porn or a blow up doll or something in the drawer instead?
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 LOL. I don't miss drama one bit. She should be thankful. Say if she found gay porn or a blow up doll or something in the drawer instead? LMAO..... yes this would be really bad!!! I would really worry about finding something like that!!!
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 yes - This is why we're so good at romantic novels. we take something ordinary and banal and make it sound earth-shatteringly interesting. LOL, so that's why the floor in the bedroom is so empty of romance novels now that the stbx is gone. Who would have thunk?
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