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Maybe I had screwed something up.

 

In any case, Customer Service was emailing me, demanding to know why it had taken 8 weeks for me to respond to a quote.

 

"I only see one rush request for this policy," I answered, copying Jack, "dated 11/9, to which I responded that afternoon. While the original request was made 8 weeks ago, it was likely contained in one of the paper batches, getting lost along the way (if it made it to my desk, at all.)"

 

Today, we were chatting in his cube about something else, when he brought up my email. "Nice response," he said. "And thanks for copying me on it."

 

"No problem."

 

He paused a moment.

 

"Want to see what I sent them? Even though I probably shouldn't show you..."

 

"Sure," I said.

 

He opened up an email, and I scooted closer, to read.

 

First, it reiterated what I had told CS about the policy, stressing that, with our current system in place, things were bound to get lost.

 

Then, he told them not to come to me with their complaints. He wrote, "When Spookie receives emails like this, it makes her feel like she is failing to do her job properly. She is doing her job, and doing it well. From now on, if you have questions, please come to me."

 

As I read this, Jack watched me eagerly. "You're doing a great job," he repeated. "I don't want them stressing you out."

 

He seemed so proud of himself.

 

I was just grinning. I love when he is being protective. (Although, given the professional context, I realize he is treating like a child.:love:)

 

"And don't worry, I won't throw you under a bus," he said. I laughed and mumbled, "Thank you."

 

As I got up to leave, he leaned back in his chair and looked at me. "I've got your back," he said.

 

My mouth was hurt from all the smiling.

 

"Thanks," I said again.

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Gawd... Jack sure is a mind fvcuk.

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And she goes from strong business-like independent articulate Amazon to simpering, wilting-lettuce-leaf delicate little wall-flower.....

 

What a patronising $h1*t.

 

Now if I worked in Customer Service I would think:

ONE: he's shagging her

TWO: She's obviously gone whining to him and complaining about being persecuted.

THREE: She obviously can't hack the pressure.

 

Not only should he not have shown her - he should never have sent it.

 

Prick.

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Gawd... Jack sure is a mind fvcuk.

 

Right? I'm not completely nuts?

 

Does your boss act this way?

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When Spookie receives emails like this, it makes her feel like she is failing to do her job properly.

 

Unless you told him you felt that way, it was a little presumptuous of him to say that on your behalf. I think his choice of wording makes you seem less professional. It would have been better if he'd have made it more general like "I don't want members of my team thinking they're failing to do their job properly."

 

I'd like to say that at least his heart was in the right place, but I'm not entirely sure that it was. It could be just the way you describe, but there's something about it that seems over the line. It seems like it's beyond just reassuring and employee they're doing a good job.

 

I know you really like him, so you find it thrilling, but something about a boss talking to an employee like that creeps me out a bit. I can maybe understand why you're being driven crazy. I feel a little crazier just from having read that... ;)

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Right? I'm not completely nuts?

 

Does your boss act this way?

 

Well, to be honest yes, my boss is also extremely protective of me. But I have very weird relationship with my boss. Very similar to this, and also shows me e-mails and says "I probably shouldn't be showing you this.."

 

But there was definite mutual attraction between me and him for about 2 years. Nobody made any moves and he ended up losing interest in me and is now interested in someone else.

 

Does your boss have any other employees that work under him in a similar role to yours or are you the only one? If he does, how does he act with them?

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I still do not understand why some women think Jack is some sort of ********* who is treating Spookie poorly. He seems like a nice guy to me.

 

And I think he acted in a friendly way. FYI when one department has an issue/question about a member of another is IS the norm to speak to the supervisor not directly blame/confront the employee.

 

And I have totally acted in a similar way to a co-worker who was stressed about being accused of making an error. Telling an employee "Don't worry I got your back" is NICE, especially in a situation that can get stressful, it's good to know people are behind you.

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

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Well, to be honest yes, my boss is also extremely protective of me. But I have very weird relationship with my boss. Very similar to this, and also shows me e-mails and says "I probably shouldn't be showing you this.."

 

But there was definite mutual attraction between me and him for about 2 years. Nobody made any moves and he ended up losing interest in me and is now interested in someone else.

 

Does your boss have any other employees that work under him in a similar role to yours or are you the only one? If he does, how does he act with them?

 

Heh I am afraid of this. I am certain the mutual attraction is there but I know he will not make a move as long as I work for him.

 

 

I am the only employee. We have a codependent 1:1 relationship.

 

I am going to look for a job this weekend. I can feel I have reached some kind of point with this.

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I still do not understand why some women think Jack is some sort of ********* who is treating Spookie poorly. He seems like a nice guy to me.

 

And I think he acted in a friendly way. FYI when one department has an issue/question about a member of another is IS the norm to speak to the supervisor not directly blame/confront the employee.

 

And I have totally acted in a similar way to a co-worker who was stressed about being accused of making an error. Telling an employee "Don't worry I got your back" is NICE, especially in a situation that can get stressful, it's good to know people are behind you.

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

He is not a d-bag. He's a great guy, and he has the best intentions, as a boss.

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This guy's next step is to convince you that prostituting and bringing him the money is the logical thing to do :lmao:, (Harvey Keitel style from taxi driver :love:). At least that would make these updates actually interesting :D

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I still do not understand why some women think Jack is some sort of ********* who is treating Spookie poorly. He seems like a nice guy to me.

 

And I think he acted in a friendly way. FYI when one department has an issue/question about a member of another is IS the norm to speak to the supervisor not directly blame/confront the employee.

 

And I have totally acted in a similar way to a co-worker who was stressed about being accused of making an error. Telling an employee "Don't worry I got your back" is NICE, especially in a situation that can get stressful, it's good to know people are behind you.

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

 

To be clear, in case my post read like that because of the words "creepy" and "over the line", I don't think this Jack is a total a-hole. I think he likes you, Spookie, or is at least attracted to you, and he isn't doing anything maliciously or deliberatly trying to mess with your head. And I don't think he was being overprotective of you only because you're his employee. I think it's because he's attracted to you. (though again, I can't be 100% sure his actions crossed the employee/boss line since your telling of the situation is only from your perspective).

 

The creepy factor comes when I think of my bosses and them acting that way, not this guy specifically.

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erm....I'm male and have ppl reporting to me. I work in a large and respectable bank.

 

Thing is, I do protect my employees as well (just not as unprofessional as Jack) and I wouldn't show them the emails.

 

My take is there must be a reason for him doing this. Are you an attractive woman? Does he do the same thing for the unattractive obese colleague of yours who is equally doing the job as well as you?

 

Either he is really attracted to you or he just wanna get into your pants. Let's hope it's the former and you might have found the one.

 

Oh ya, I should mention. My ex-fiancee's co-worker is very protective of her and made every attempt to show her that. She cheated and left me for him. Let's hope both you and her got the former reason. :)

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