cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 If a guy is good at working on a car and he says you need to find a macanic and go on a date with him. Does that mean that he is talking about himself or another person?
NopeNah Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 he means pay to have your car fixed because he isn't doing it
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 For that guy's sake, I'm just going to say, he absolutely meant another person My god ANOTHER THREAD ABOUT THIS?
NopeNah Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 For that guy's sake, I'm just going to say, he absolutely meant another person My god ANOTHER THREAD ABOUT THIS?coo-koo
crazy_grl Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 cutie, in brutal honesty, you seem INCREDIBLY desperate on here. He's probably picking up the same thing, and it turned him off. You need to chill out. He said you were cute and your friend wanted to set you up. You had that going, but it's like you assumed there was some kind relationship with him already. That scares guys away. Write this one off and consider it a lesson learned. Next time, just focus on getting to know a guy. Don't read into every little detail like what he said about your car and what he did when he brought you chicken.
Author cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 No, I dont even call him. My friend has his number and she is calling him. How am I seeming desperate to the guy when I dont even approach him romantically? My friend is the one asking for him to do all this kind of stuff for her not me. So it seems like he would feel she was being needy and desperate. I just sitting back chilling, but in my head I am going crazy. You guys know that, but he doesnt. How could he know what I'm thinking?
Krytie TV Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Personally, based on the frequency of your threads here, the best advice I could give you is to step away from the computer for a while. There is much to learn in life and unfortunately some of it has to be done in the real world. By talking to real people and not strangers on the internet.
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 So it seems like he would feel she was being needy and desperate. Not if he likes her and wants to go out with her.
BCCA Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 No, I dont even call him. My friend has his number and she is calling him. How am I seeming desperate to the guy when I dont even approach him romantically? My friend is the one asking for him to do all this kind of stuff for her not me. So it seems like he would feel she was being needy and desperate. I just sitting back chilling, but in my head I am going crazy. You guys know that, but he doesnt. How could he know what I'm thinking? You dont think he might get the impression she is calling on your behalf? Thats what I would think, youre too affraid of rejection yourself, so youre having your friend call, thinking that at least you wont get turned down directly.
Author cutieh Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 How old are you? Why are you asking how old I am? Well, I'll tell you one thing I'm old enough to drink.
crazy_grl Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 (edited) I dont even call him. My friend has his number and she is calling him. How am I seeming desperate to the guy when I dont even approach him romantically? My friend is the one asking for him to do all this kind of stuff for her not me. So it seems like he would feel she was being needy and desperate. I just sitting back chilling, but in my head I am going crazy. You guys know that, but he doesnt. How could he know what I'm thinking? Whether or not it's you or your friend calling him for you, someone is still calling him on your behalf. I'm not sure the fact that it's your friend is any better. I've lost count of the number of threads you've posted about this same guy whom you barely know. That seems pretty desperate. It doesn't matter how often you call or don't call. People can pick up on desperation. He probably picked up on it during the conversations you had with him. I've seen it with other women and heard the same thing "I don't seem desperate. I only called him once." Yeah, well he didn't want to answer that call, because the things you said and the way you said it to him in person seemed desperate and turned him off. Granted, I can't say for certain that's why he's not interested in you. I can only guess based on what you've said here. There may be any number of reasons why he's not. But the fact remains that his actions clearly indicate he's not interested in you. Sorry. I know it sucks, but time to move on and stop analyzing everything he does. Edited November 13, 2009 by crazy_grl
Author cutieh Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 Whether or not it's you or your friend calling him for you, someone is still calling him on your behalf. I'm not sure the fact that it's your friend is any better. I've lost count of the number of threads you've posted about this same guy whom you barely know. That seems pretty desperate. It doesn't matter how often you call or don't call. People can pick up on desperation. He probably picked up on it during the conversations you had with him. I've seen it with other women and heard the same thing "I don't seem desperate. I only called him once." Yeah, well he didn't want to answer that call, because the things you said and the way you said it to him in person seemed desperate and turned him off. Granted, I can't say for certain that's why he's not interested in you. I can only guess based on what you've said here. There may be any number of reasons why he's not. But the fact remains that his actions clearly indicate he's not interested in you. Sorry. I know it sucks, but time to move on and stop analyzing everything he does. How do I seem desperate? I don't flirt with him. My friend is doing the calling. She calls him to fix her stuff not for me. I'm just wondering why he would say such a rude thing when how the conversation came up was that he asked my what I did today and I said I went to get my car looked at and thats how the conversation began. I thought he was rude for saying that you need to find a machanic and date him. I dont know what point he was trying to make.
Thornton Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 Did he say you should date the mechanic, or you should get a mechanic for the car and date him (i.e. date the first guy, not the mechanic)? If he meant for you to date the mechanic, I guess it means he's sick of fixing your car and wants someone else to do it. If he meant for you to date himself, he means he'd rather be on a date with you than fixing your car (i.e. he likes you)
Author cutieh Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 Did he say you should date the mechanic, or you should get a mechanic for the car and date him (i.e. date the first guy, not the mechanic)? If he meant for you to date the mechanic, I guess it means he's sick of fixing your car and wants someone else to do it. If he meant for you to date himself, he means he'd rather be on a date with you than fixing your car (i.e. he likes you) He never fixed my car we were just talking about my car and he said that.
BCCA Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 He never fixed my car we were just talking about my car and he said that. Lets think about this realistically: what has he done or said that makes you think he is interested in dating you?
crazy_grl Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 How do I seem desperate? I don't flirt with him. You don't have to. Sorry, I'd like to help you, but I can't explain any better than I already have. I've just seen it in real life before. When the desperate try desperateLY to seem not desperate, but they still come off as such. My friend is doing the calling. Ask your friend to stop calling this guy for you. Tell her you're not interested. I'm just wondering why he would say such a rude thing when how the conversation came up was that he asked my what I did today and I said I went to get my car looked at and thats how the conversation began. I thought he was rude for saying that you need to find a machanic and date him. I dont know what point he was trying to make. If he included the words "go find a mechanic" like you said in the OP, he most likely meant you should have someone else fix your car. He probably got the impression you expected him to fix it for free, was annoyed by that (since he doesn't really know you), and was telling you to get somebody else to do it. He wasn't going to. It's possible that he meant you should date him since he fixes cars, but I highly doubt it. The combination of all the actions you've described indicate he doesn't want to date you.
Author cutieh Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 You don't have to. Sorry, I'd like to help you, but I can't explain any better than I already have. I've just seen it in real life before. When the desperate try desperateLY to seem not desperate, but they still come off as such. Ask your friend to stop calling this guy for you. Tell her you're not interested. If he included the words "go find a mechanic" like you said in the OP, he most likely meant you should have someone else fix your car. He probably got the impression you expected him to fix it for free, was annoyed by that (since he doesn't really know you), and was telling you to get somebody else to do it. He wasn't going to. It's possible that he meant you should date him since he fixes cars, but I highly doubt it. The combination of all the actions you've described indicate he doesn't want to date you. I was just making conversation when he asked me what I did today. That is it. I said that I went to get my car brakes flushed and he said flushed and I was asking him about how much it cost to get brakes fixed. He says he knows a lot about cars. Then that when he made the rude comment to me. Then my friend turns right around and ask for him to look at her car and he says ok I'll take a look at it.
BCCA Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 I was just making conversation when he asked me what I did today. That is it. I said that I went to get my car brakes flushed and he said flushed and I was asking him about how much it cost to get brakes fixed. He says he knows a lot about cars. Then that when he made the rude comment to me. Then my friend turns right around and ask for him to look at her car and he says ok I'll take a look at it. Ok, dumb question - but did it cross your mind that he might like your freind?
Author cutieh Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 Ok, dumb question - but did it cross your mind that he might like your freind? Yeah, that's what I think. But she is a lot older than me and him. I guess some men like older women.
crazy_grl Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 I really think he likes your friend. Not necessarily because he likes older women. He just might not care what her age is. Seriously, stop worrying about him.
McGrupp Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 why dont you just ask him? be like hey, do u want to go bowling or something? there you go. bam! im like a guru
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