cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Ok, once again. My friend that introduce me to this guy, she has a boyfriend. She is trying to hook me up with this guy. Ok, my female friend and this guy came over my house and helped me fix my TV. Anyways, we were talking about cars and how I need new brakes on my car. The guy that was over said that he doesn't work on everyones car. Then my friend said that if he could fix her car and he said yeah he would take a look at it. I guess he doesnt like me. I don't understand it.
NopeNah Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Maybe he doesn't want to be at your disposal. Your not even dating this guy yet and you expect him to do your brakes?
boogieboy Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 He probably doesnt like you. But.... I know if a girl asks me to fix something of hers, before we actually go out, Im cautious shes one of those girls who will use me for free labor while leading me on. Try asking him out for coffee, or something like that. That way he knows you arent trying to use him. Do something like that, that doesnt ask him for a favor, and if you cant, for GOD SAKES stop posting about him.
Author cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 No I was just asking him a question about my brakes. And he said that he doesnt know about everybodys car cause he doesnt work on everyones car. But my friend came just straight out and asked would you look at my car and he said yeah. She has a freaking man already. I mean the way he looks at her and smiles. He doesnt look at me like that. When I opened the door to let him in my apartment he was looking mean. I said Hi to him he didnt say anything.
NopeNah Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 No I was just asking him a question about my brakes. And he said that he doesnt know about everybodys car cause he doesnt work on everyones car. But my friend came just straight out and asked would you look at my car and he said yeah. She has a freaking man already. I mean the way he looks at her and smiles. He doesnt look at me like that. When I opened the door to let him in my apartment he was looking mean. I said Hi to him he didnt say anything. Sounds like he's not into you. Let it go!
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 No I was just asking him a question about my brakes. And he said that he doesnt know about everybodys car cause he doesnt work on everyones car. But my friend came just straight out and asked would you look at my car and he said yeah. She has a freaking man already. I mean the way he looks at her and smiles. He doesnt look at me like that. When I opened the door to let him in my apartment he was looking mean. I said Hi to him he didnt say anything. no offense, but you sound nutz
boogieboy Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 No I was just asking him a question about my brakes. And he said that he doesnt know about everybodys car cause he doesnt work on everyones car. But my friend came just straight out and asked would you look at my car and he said yeah. She has a freaking man already. I mean the way he looks at her and smiles. He doesnt look at me like that. When I opened the door to let him in my apartment he was looking mean. I said Hi to him he didnt say anything. So whats the physical differences between you and your girl? Are you 5'0" and 150lbs? Do you have a cleft lip? Do you have 50 piercings and tattooes all over your neck? I see youre not mentioning your physical stature at all. And from the threads youve started on here, you sound extremely clingy, which that guy probably picked up on for the hour you were talking to him...since he left skidmarks getting out of your place.
Author cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 I am not nutz! I just don't get it. She said that he said I was cute and asked if I had a man. So I don't understand it. What's the problem? I'm not trying to rush things. But it would be nice to have some kind of interest shown to my face and not just behind my back. I mean I need help too. And she gets all the help. From her boyfriend and him. He knows he has a man, why is he acting this way with her?
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I am not nutz! I just don't get it. She said that he said I was cute and asked if I had a man. So I don't understand it. What's the problem? I'm not trying to rush things. But it would be nice to have some kind of interest shown to my face and not just behind my back. I mean I need help too. And she gets all the help. From her boyfriend and him. He knows he has a man, why is he acting this way with her? Cuz he knows her better and is more comfortable. I doubt you made an impression.
boogieboy Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I am not nutz! I just don't get it. She said that he said I was cute and asked if I had a man. So I don't understand it. What's the problem? I'm not trying to rush things. But it would be nice to have some kind of interest shown to my face and not just behind my back. I mean I need help too. And she gets all the help. From her boyfriend and him. He knows he has a man, why is he acting this way with her? I know why, shes flirting with him, probably leading him on, and youre not. Better step up your game.
Kamille Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 No, the question is: Why are you torturing yourself over a guy you've never ever been on a date with? Get over it. Stop over-analyzing their every move. Think about something else. Why all the focus on this guy? Are you into him or something? If so, why? What has he done to deserve so much of your attention?
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 so obsessed over the first meeting, not even a date. Just watch your fixed tv, who needs men
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Your friend is not trying to fix you up with him regardless of what she is telling you. That much is clear. It is also clear that he is interested in her. Call me a cynic, but it sounds to me like you are a cover for them. Honestly, I'd ditch them both off. No one needs people like that around.
Stung Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I don't know. To me, the female friend's motives are not clear. It's possible that she's being shady, but seeing as we're being introduced to her through the OP's layers of obsessiveness and paranoia (as evidenced by her collection of threads), I think this woman could really simply be friends with the guy, end of story. They hang out, he helps her fix some things, she makes dinner, she introduces him to her female friends as possible prospects, sounds friendly enough to me...how do we know her boyfriend isn't around at the same time, and they're not all watching TV and having a couple beers together? On a few different occasions she has gotten the OP together with this guy, relayed a few flattering messages, done her bit to play yenta. Maybe she was doing it with one hand while poising the knife to stab in the back with the other, but I for one can't really know that from these posts. OP, whatever your friend's motives, it IS pretty clear to everybody posting that the man in question would rather hang out with your friend than with you. Maybe he is a friend of hers, maybe he'd like to be more, maybe maybe maybe...maybe he saw you and thought you were cute but then he met you and didn't click with your personality, maybe he doesn't like that your friend is trying to foist him off on you, maybe he has noticed that you only seem to want him to fix your shyt, maybe maybe maybe. You'll probably never know. So what? The fact is that not everybody is going to like you in this life and you are not always going to know why. Even someone who thinks your ass is hot might think you're too clingy, and someone who digs your sense of humor might prefer someone with different color hair, or different politics. All you can do is keep working on being the best person you can be inside and out, learn to let these little things go (and yes, this is a little thing, and you are overreacting) and keep moving, and at some point you'll meet someone who's the right fit for you and you won't have to obsess over the small stuff. Move on.
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I don't know. To me, the female friend's motives are not clear. It's possible that she's being shady, but seeing as we're being introduced to her through the OP's layers of obsessiveness and paranoia (as evidenced by her collection of threads), I think this woman could really simply be friends with the guy, end of story. They hang out, he helps her fix some things, she makes dinner, she introduces him to her female friends as possible prospects, sounds friendly enough to me...how do we know her boyfriend isn't around at the same time, and they're not all watching TV and having a couple beers together? On a few different occasions she has gotten the OP together with this guy, relayed a few flattering messages, done her bit to play yenta. Maybe she was doing it with one hand while poising the knife to stab in the back with the other, but I for one can't really know that from these posts. OP, whatever your friend's motives, it IS pretty clear to everybody posting that the man in question would rather hang out with your friend than with you. Maybe he is a friend of hers, maybe he'd like to be more, maybe maybe maybe...maybe he saw you and thought you were cute but then he met you and didn't click with your personality, maybe he doesn't like that your friend is trying to foist him off on you, maybe he has noticed that you only seem to want him to fix your shyt, maybe maybe maybe. You'll probably never know. So what? The fact is that not everybody is going to like you in this life and you are not always going to know why. Even someone who thinks your ass is hot might think you're too clingy, and someone who digs your sense of humor might prefer someone with different color hair, or different politics. All you can do is keep working on being the best person you can be inside and out, learn to let these little things go (and yes, this is a little thing, and you are overreacting) and keep moving, and at some point you'll meet someone who's the right fit for you and you won't have to obsess over the small stuff. Move on. what's creepy is it sounds like its a different man in each post
Johnny M Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Ok, once again. My friend that introduce me to this guy, she has a boyfriend. She is trying to hook me up with this guy. Ok, my female friend and this guy came over my house and helped me fix my TV. Anyways, we were talking about cars and how I need new brakes on my car. The guy that was over said that he doesn't work on everyones car. Then my friend said that if he could fix her car and he said yeah he would take a look at it. I guess he doesnt like me. I don't understand it. Who knows what she did to curry that favor? Maybe he would change your brakes if you changed his oil, if you know what I mean
Enema Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Maybe he doesn't know anything about brakes, but he can fix whatever her problem is. Either way, it doesn't matter. He hasn't shown any interest in you since your friend introduced you. When he met you in person he saw what we see - You're nuts! So, now he's not interested.
Author cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 So whats the physical differences between you and your girl? Are you 5'0" and 150lbs? Do you have a cleft lip? Do you have 50 piercings and tattooes all over your neck? I see youre not mentioning your physical stature at all. And from the threads youve started on here, you sound extremely clingy, which that guy probably picked up on for the hour you were talking to him...since he left skidmarks getting out of your place. actually its the other way around. I'm 5'4 119 pounds. She's 5'2 150 pounds.
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 actually its the other way around. I'm 5'4 119 pounds. She's 5'2 150 pounds. Maybe he likes the chubby ones.
Author cutieh Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Maybe he doesn't know anything about brakes, but he can fix whatever her problem is. Either way, it doesn't matter. He hasn't shown any interest in you since your friend introduced you. When he met you in person he saw what we see - You're nuts! So, now he's not interested. Hey I'm not nuts. This website is to post you situations. That's what it is for. How am i nuts?
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 OP, I commented in your other thread about changing your aura. Try that. Meet men on your own and interact with those *you* choose. As a guy who has been doing 'brake jobs' for nearly 40 years, I can give you some advice about men like myself. We hate working for people (for free) who make it obvious they want our help. We love helping people who are friendly and generous and call us when they *don't* need our help. Just a little carhill tidbit for future use. When I encounter the former these days, I merely deadpan 'my shop rate is 80 per hour. Let's make an appointment'. The silence is almost as satisfying as a beer.
dreamergrl Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 It's early, and I'm not awake yet, so forgive this dumb question.. This is the guy who went to the meeting? Frankly, all three of you seem a bit strange. But get over it. He doesn't like you. Go find a new person to obsess over. You'll feel better for it.
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