joel Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 i'm dating a girl right now and i met her off the bus stop. shes japanese overseas student studying english. whats your take on a girl if i'm seeing her and we went out for 4 dates and i have never met any of her friends and she never invites me out with her group of friends. i see on her facebook shes quiete popular always going out-halloween party, friend last day party, travelling to toronto, winnipeg pics, friends drinking party,pretty social and goes out a lot . we still are barely knew each other, but what happens if we continue to date,and i never meet any of her friends or ever get invite out to her so called outings. . whats your take on this. do you think she has something to hide. like shes seeing a guy friend in her group of friends or going out and at sametime meeting other guys too. as the reason why she never invites me out or ask me to come out i just dont want to be played and stuff. i`m inexperience at my old age in dating and girls so i just want the most advice and stuff i can get.
Yukikazi Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 As you say.. 4 dates.. you barely know each other.. complain about this in a month or so if its still occuring. If it becomes obvious she is trying to keep you seperate.. then you gotta get to the bottom of why and decide where your relationship will go from there. Have you actually asked her when you get to meet her friends? Has she met any of yours? If she is "fresh off the boat" she may be more conservative and not willing to bring the white guy into the mix yet.. they are asian.. their upbringing and dating customs are a bit different then ours and in some cases.. slower and confusingly different timelines. Some asians are looked down upon or ridiculed for dating non asians.. so she may have that social hurdle to deal with. Give her some time..
Author joel Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 As you say.. 4 dates.. you barely know each other.. complain about this in a month or so if its still occuring. If it becomes obvious she is trying to keep you seperate.. then you gotta get to the bottom of why and decide where your relationship will go from there. Have you actually asked her when you get to meet her friends? Has she met any of yours? If she is "fresh off the boat" she may be more conservative and not willing to bring the white guy into the mix yet.. they are asian.. their upbringing and dating customs are a bit different then ours and in some cases.. slower and confusingly different timelines. Some asians are looked down upon or ridiculed for dating non asians.. so she may have that social hurdle to deal with. Give her some time.. we went out on 4 dates but in the time span is has been like 2 months since we didn`t see each other every week. like once every 2 wks and then once every 3 wks. she was busy and then another week went to east coast for travelling well i diont have a lot of friends to begin with and i`m not a social guy anyways.
thatguy85 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Um this could be a couple different things. 1. Maybe she is embarrassed to have you around for some reason. Age difference, ethnic difference, etc. 2. Maybe she is seeing other people and invites them out to party with her. 3. Maybe she is promiscuous and likes to hook up with guys who she meets out, and doesn't want to bring a conflicting interest to her social gatherings. 4. Maybe she just isn't that comfy with you yet. 5. Maybe it isn't that serious and she hasn't invited you because you haven't talked about it. I'd try to invite her out to some of the parties are social things YOU do and see where it goes from there. Or just ask her if she has any plans for the weekend, if she says "yeah I'm going out with some friends" ask her where/what they are doing because you are going out with some friends too, and you can possibly link up. Try a few of these things. In party/social settings... it's a lot easier to meet up with her and her friends if you show up with a group of your friends and not as her date.
boogieboy Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Be happy shes not introducing you to her friends. That leaves time for YOu to do what you want. Let her go party without you, you dont need ot meet her friends. Most parties that your girl will want to take you to will be boring anyways. Her friends might be all japanese women learning english, its not your scene. The parties she goes to might not be fun for you. Be happy she keeps you her dirty little secret, the less people you have to meet the better. You have your own social circle dont you? if you dont, make your own. Dont depend on her for friends. Dont worry about being played out. Its only been 4 dates. if you havent met any of her friends after 3 months, then you can start to worry.
Yukikazi Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 we went out on 4 dates but in the time span is has been like 2 months since we didn`t see each other every week. like once every 2 wks and then once every 3 wks. she was busy and then another week went to east coast for travelling well i diont have a lot of friends to begin with and i`m not a social guy anyways. Dude I was dating a fresh off the boat Korean girl for about 2 months and a total of like 6 dates due to schedules. She was too shy to meet any of my friends though I met her roomie and 1 of her other friends. However she didn't want any indication of it at work (I tended to go to the sushi place she worked) as she worked with older koreans and the social stigma of dating a white guy was in place. Lets not forget language barrier.. Mine was terrified of her English skills so didn't want to meet my friends yet.. regardless of me telling her they wouldn't care and had dealt with an Asian with a language barrier before.
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