rickigal Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Ok so after my bf broke up with me about a month and a half ago I started seeing this other guy. He went to HS with me and we reconnected on Facebook. He was cute, had a good job etc. Mind you I am a recovering alcoholic and let him know that. He asked if it was ok for him to drink in front of me. I said sure not problem. The first couple of times we got together he had one or two glasses of wine. The third time we got together was an absolute nightmare. We put on a movie and he proceeded to pour himself red wine in a plastic cup several times (his attempt at being respectful). I suppose he was drinking before I got there because he got drunk really quickly. He went to light a cigarette and lit the wrong end, then went on and on about how he was getting feelings for me and how he'd like to start seeing more of me. (These feelings were not reciprocrated). At this point I want to hightail it out of there but I am always so worried about hurting someone else's feelings so I stayed. We talked a bit more, he kept hounding me about my ex-boyfriend and if I was over him and kept asking me how much I liked him. It was really awkward at this point for me because he was drunk and I was sober. We continued to watch the movie and I hear snoring to which I am jolted out of my seat from an entire cup of red wine being spilled all over me. (He passed out holding the cup). I was so annoyed at that point though I didn't make it clear to him. He apologized over and over and I kept saying it was ok. I made the excuse that I had to wake up early the next day to get out of there. I left and he has been stalking me with messages on Facebook, texts and phone calls ever since. Hopefully it will simmer down soon. Anyway that was crazy!
New Again Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Yes, horrible date, the guy and the "event." However, why wouldn't you just be straight up with him and tell him what the deal is?
lucy9216 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 That is a horrible date! I don't know about the worst date ever, well maybe for you it was and sorry you felt so awkward... but no offense, you did tell him it was ok to drink around you and yes he did get drunk and acted pretty stupid, but you being a recovering alcoholic would know that people do act pretty stupid when they get drunk. I am sure he feels awful about the whole thing, if you do decide to ever see him again just ask that he not get drunk around you because of how awkward it makes you feel being sober.... were the previous 2 dates good at all? did you feel that you liked him until this last date?
Author rickigal Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 I said it was ok to have a few drinks, not to get smashed! And he does feel horrible. I just told him it wasn't going to work out. My match just isn't someone who feels he HAS to drink on a date to have fun. That is fine for some I suppose, but it isn't healthy for me.
Clep Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I said it was ok to have a few drinks, not to get smashed! And he does feel horrible. I just told him it wasn't going to work out. My match just isn't someone who feels he HAS to drink on a date to have fun. That is fine for some I suppose, but it isn't healthy for me. Wow crappy date. I have some experience with alcoholism and I couldn't imagine getting hammered with someone in recovery beside me. Kudos to you for knowing what you want and doing what is best for you. And congratulations on your sobriety!!!!!
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