cognac Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 ^^^ For the guys who claim women don't care about looks. Personally if I met an adequate looking person whose personality was perfect, I would date her over a very attractive person whose personality was not perfect for me. Lust =/= Love.
Author weeble78 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Lucy9216 - thanks for your comments, and that's the reason I went out with him anyway as he is such a lovely guy. The thing is though is that it's not about attraction but chemistry - you don't have to be physically attracted to someone first to have chemistry, and we just didn't completely click. I didn't make my decision based on Guy#2 at all, and it would be wrong to do so, as Guy#2 could look cute but have the personality of a plastic cup. Cognac - it's completely not about looks, it's about the chemistry! The two guys I've been in love with in my life have not been models, (I've dated a model and found him extremely shallow), and feelings developed over time but I always had that thing, that chemistry, that undefinable thing that even if you don't fancy them, they're on your mind...
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Lucy9216 - thanks for your comments, and that's the reason I went out with him anyway as he is such a lovely guy. The thing is though is that it's not about attraction but chemistry - you don't have to be physically attracted to someone first to have chemistry, and we just didn't completely click. I didn't make my decision based on Guy#2 at all, and it would be wrong to do so, as Guy#2 could look cute but have the personality of a plastic cup. Cognac - it's completely not about looks, it's about the chemistry! The two guys I've been in love with in my life have not been models, (I've dated a model and found him extremely shallow), and feelings developed over time but I always had that thing, that chemistry, that undefinable thing that even if you don't fancy them, they're on your mind... Well you gave it a shot and it didn't work out thats just the way it goes and nothing wrong with that. I mean it though, good luck to ya and hope everything works out for you.... hey.... you can send guy#1 my way hehehehee.... j/k...... but seriously wish you the best with this situation.
cognac Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Save it for Guy #1, the guy who for some magical unexplainable reason despite doing his best, still loses out to his friend Guy #2 every time. So let me try to translate this from womanese. When people like Guy #2 get all the girls without even trying, even the one his best friend called first, it's not because they're physically attractive, it's because of some unexplainable "chemistry". Oh the lengths women will go to to prove they're not "shallow". I hope you realize he's going to hump n dump you, as he probably does to many women. Guy #1 will (hopefully) cheer him on as well, to punish your fickle heart. Bro's > Hoes.
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Save it for Guy #1, the guy who for some magical unexplainable reason despite doing his best, still loses out to his friend Guy #2 every time. So let me try to translate this from womanese. When people like Guy #2 get all the girls without even trying, even the one his best friend called first, it's not because they're physically attractive, it's because of some unexplainable "chemistry". Oh the lengths women will go to to prove they're not "shallow". I hope you realize he's going to hump n dump you, as he probably does to many women. Guy #1 will (hopefully) cheer him on as well, to punish your fickle heart. Bro's > Hoes. Ahhh... be nice if this is the situation than I am sure weeble will learn from this and be more careful moving forward with any other relationships, if not maybe her and guy#2 could be happy together. Weeble- any plans on how you might move forward with showing guy#2 that you are interested in him and not his friend? just curious?
Author weeble78 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 And who says I'm not going to hump and dump him? Life is for living and you make the best of every situation - if you can do so without hurting others then so much the better. Lucy9216 - I don't have any plans to contact Guy#2, I'll leave it up to him because it's a difficult situation for him, and I don't want to come between friends. If he thinks we might get on that well then he'll contact me himself. If I don't hear from him then I don't hear from him, there's a reason for everything. I'm more hoping to hear back from Guy#1 to catch up again although I'll understand if he's not interested.
cognac Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Ahhh... be nice if this is the situation than I am sure weeble will learn from this and be more careful moving forward with any other relationships, if not maybe her and guy#2 could be happy together. Weeble- any plans on how you might move forward with showing guy#2 that you are interested in him and not his friend? just curious? I don't know how old Weeble is but I hope she is a teenager, I hope 78 isn't a reference to her birthday. Yeah it happens, I think most guys can attest to it, meet a perfect girl who you get along with like true soulmates, then all of a sudden the "hot guy" who happens to be an amazing "chemist" enters the picture. Then girl comes crawling back after she realizes that the guy just wanted a one night stand and/or has a girlfriend already.
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I don't know how old Weeble is but I hope she is a teenager, I hope 78 isn't a reference to her birthday. Yeah it happens, I think most guys can attest to it, meet a perfect girl who you get along with like true soulmates, then all of a sudden the "hot guy" who happens to be an amazing "chemist" enters the picture. Then girl comes crawling back after she realizes that the guy just wanted a one night stand and/or has a girlfriend already. well.... lets hope for her sake that this is not the case and isn't this what dating is about? learning from any mistakes and moving forward? not saying that weeble is making a big mistake but who knows what will come of this.... in my sit. it did turn out the friend did want to "hump and dump" me and I am glad I stuck with the guy that treated me good and we got along really well... love can be surprising and hit you when you least expect it, but if you noticed my guy#1 is my ex.... every good guy can be an ******* too, he left me because after having our child together I went through some intimacy issues and instead of talking to me about it he just left me and had no intentions of working things out with me, so no matter how nice of a guy he can make himself out to be the truth is men are men no matter how nice, tentative, or mysterious they are.. there are no gauruntees in life.
Author weeble78 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 In answer to Cognac, no I'm not a teenager and yes 78 is a reference to my birthday. I've just got out of a 7 year relationship and I'm dating, not looking to get married. I want to explore different things and meet as many new people as possible, friends or otherwise. I'm happy to take up whatever opportunities present themselves and the only thing I want not to do along the way is hurt anyone so I have promised myself to always be honest. Lucy9216, I hope that Guy#1 wasn't somebody who could make me really happy but I didn't want to keep seeing him with him thinking that I was attracted to him, just in case it doesn't happen. If I've shot myself in the foot then so be it, but I think that's better than complicating my life and anyone elses really.
Author weeble78 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Oh and, my last guy was a Guy#1 - he cheated on me for three months, lied to me and stole £000's from me without ever meaning to pay it back. Life is what you make it and Lucy9216 is right - there are never any guarantees you just take the good, the bad and the ugly and use it to make yourself a better person.
lucy9216 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Good for you Weeble, stick with what makes you happy. I really hope everything works out for you and if anything this is just another dating experience along with other experiences you go through in life.
Author weeble78 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Hey Lucy9216 - thanks for your kind words, and I hope you get everything you ever wanted. Same to the rest of you who have posted - and I'm sure I'll be chatting with you again in the near future, all I have to do now is think of another thread title that sounds as good as this one ha ha!
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