pandagirl Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 By artist, that can mean a musician, writer, painter -- anyone who is trying to live their life solely through their creative talents. Doing these things as a hobby is something different. Unfortunately, I find this type of person very appealing and have dated my fair share of musicians (ack) and writers (ugh). They're interesting, intelligent and have a different view on life that I love. But in the end, they're all ego -- which you kind of have to be to be an artist. Is anyone here in a good relationship with an artist?
Ruby Slippers Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Successful? No. Dramariffic, fun, adventurous, with explosive sex? Yes. I think the problem is that to make a living with art, it has to come first. That means the SO will (almost) always be second fiddle. And that sucks.
betamanlet Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Successful? No. Dramariffic, fun, adventurous, with explosive sex? Yes. I think the problem is that to make a living with art, it has to come first. That means the SO will (almost) always be second fiddle. And that sucks. Ah, I'll add that as a red flag. Women who date artists.
CLC2008 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I find artists interesting but I have never dated or considered having a serious relationship with one. All the guys I've dated have been pretty blue collar, which I like. Not into high powered executive types either.
likestolaugh Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 well, I'm an artist... and I've been dating my gf for a year.... we're very happy together. so I guess it can be done!
TaraMaiden Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 They're not trying to live their lives solely through their dramatic talents. their talents are their lives, and their lives play out through their talents.... Look at Eric Clapton... sang a song about his son's death.... John lennon was another one who expressed his life experiences through song.... This is how they express themselves. And very often, such talents are crippled in other areas of communication and expression. Every 'famous artist' has a deeply insecure anxious side to them... reel them off....names at random..... Mario Lanza......Van gogh........Keats..........Judy Garland.......Jimmy Hendrix.....Wagner.......
espec10001 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 An artist living solely off his art is one broke muthaf***a.
JL911 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I am a very talented guitar player...I teach...Have a band...and for about 5 years of my life I attempted to rely only on my music for money. It was a good time when I was in my 20s but then I had to face reality that it wasnt going to happen and needed to become a way just to earn some extra cash playing from time to time. I had a long term relationship that was fairly healthy and lasted the last 2 years of my rock stardom, as well as a year into my life as a normal adult with a job.. Im not a very egotistical person I just enjoy playing music for people and having fun. It never really got to my head as much as it was just and addiction playing for people... How many bands really make it big and can rely on music alone...not many...
CLC2008 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 True, but that just shows how passionate he is towards what he does. Everyone has their own taste so there's no right or wrong here.
phineas Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 My sister's friend married an artist. Except he makes stuff people actually bought. Stained glass windows, coasters made of petrified wood, granite ect. he also photographs weddings on the side.
sedgwick Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Unfortunately, I find this type of person very appealing and have dated my fair share of musicians (ack) and writers (ugh). HA!!! I love it! I'm a writer, and I had a really abusive, awful relationship with another writer. Fell in love with a musician a few years later, all was well for a year and then he broke up with me for not being a musician. It would be a hard call as to whether writers or musicians suck more. (Except for me, of course. I'm nice!)
aerogurl87 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I'm a writer and I don't think I'm that bad to be dating, lol. Granted I'm a dreamer with the heart of a realist. I know that I probably won't be able to make a decent living off my writing unless I can magically make it big, and so that's why I'm going to school while I work at what I love. I think if the artist has a good head on their shoulders and isn't one of those crazies (who almost always seem to be the ones who end up making it big somehow) then you'll be fine.
Thornton Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I dated a full time musician once... he was constantly broke. I never successfully dated a full time artist or musician, although I dated a few who did it on the side. You still get the same artistic sensibilities, but with a lot less debt and starving in a garret
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