lofi_tokyo Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 (edited) So a little more than a month ago I was posting about a guy, and the story basically went like this: I had a one night stand with an long-time acquaintance. I took the ONS for what it was (sex) and moved on. Admittedly, I was pretty blown away that something happened between us, and he WAS awfully cute about the whole thing, but yeah, got over it. We don't talk or see each other (no reason to), but then two months later, he FB messages me and admits he is very shy around women because he is super inexperienced, he tells me he thinks I'm very pretty and that he really enjoyed himself, and then he asks me out. Except we don't pin down a date. We go back and fourth for weeks attempting to set a date, and I get frustrated and tell him its not worth it. He says hes sorry he just feels so unsure how to act around me. I tell him I like him, so he doesn't need to worry, he just needs to be himself. He's out of town at this point, but tells me when he gets back, he will have an actual day planned for us, and he will call me. He didn't call. I was a bit crushed, but got over it (after posting here lots!). We both are part of the same sporting community though, and today I saw him for the first time since him telling me he would call me. The first thing he does is runs right up to me (I hadn't even seen him yet) and he asks me to come play on his team. He was being super friendly and totally trying to make conversation. I kind of gave him the brush off - while still being nice. He tells me how he's been unemployed for the last little while and has basically been sitting at home all month (was that supposed to impress me... or was he trying to make himself look bad so I wouldn't be sad he never got back to me?). What is UP with this guy? He seems so... hot and cold? Is this typical shy-guy behavior? Edited November 10, 2009 by tokyovogue
aerogurl87 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I don't get it. He's too shy to ask you out on a date and set a date, but he's not too shy to strip your clothes off and have sex with you? Wow... just wow
torranceshipman Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 He is using the shy thing as an excuse...he's not shy, he's a player! V.good move to give him the brush off...
Author lofi_tokyo Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 He is using the shy thing as an excuse...he's not shy, he's a player! V.good move to give him the brush off... No... I've met the player-acting-shy type. This guy is definately not him. He lost his v-card at 21 to a friend (hes 23 now), he's also dated a girl for 3 months and slept with her... and then I'm his #3. Our ONS was an extremely drunken hookup. We (him and his roomate and one friend) randomly got together for drinks and played strip poker and I passed out in his bed and snuggled up to him... then one thing led to another. Still, this doesn't mean he's off the hook for not getting back to me... its just that I am trying to figure out whats up with him, and him being a player is not it. ;p
phineas Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 The blow-off then later acting like they didn't blow you off annoys me greatly. When a woman does it to me it usually means she's not interested for one reason or the other. Don't mean to offend, but from my perspective you sound like a sure thing. I can't imagine why a guy wouldn't be all over that.
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