thegreatmoose Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Youre either attractive or not to me,as i said i just enjoy being around hot guys they make me feel amazing inside just beign around them,most women feel the same way but wont admit it Most people would not consider me hot, but I'm not missing any teeth. I would think many younger women and men do feel the same way as you. Again, I have observed though the years that they usually look at inner beauty an increasing amount as they get older. I'll just say this to you. Watch out for the hot guy who treats women poorly.
Author MeganDoll Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 I'm probably an average looking guy. Many women and mens eyes do light up when they see an attractive person of the opposite sex. There's no doubt that mine do. After that initial moment, their personality comes out. One time some years ago a very attractive woman said something cruel to me. She was very ugly to me from that moment forward, even though she was very attractive physically. Other very attractive women have treated me very well. What did she say?? I dont tell unattratcive guys theyre unattractive thats mean i just try to get out of a conversation
thegreatmoose Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 (edited) What did she say?? I dont tell unattratcive guys theyre unattractive thats mean i just try to get out of a conversation Part of it was saying negative things about my appearance. It was more the way she said it and the environment it was said in than what she said. It was some years ago, so I don't remember every word. I remember thinking wow that was cruel at the time. I guard against that type of person these days. Edited November 10, 2009 by thegreatmoose
Author MeganDoll Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 Part of it was saying negative things about my appearance. It was more the way she said it and the environment it was said in than what she said. It was some years ago, so I don't remember every word. I remember thinking wow that was cruel at the time. I guard against that type of person these days. Was it an argument or a normal conversation where out of nowhere she said this?? And did she say your ugly?
thegreatmoose Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Was it an argument or a normal conversation where out of nowhere she said this?? And did she say your ugly? normal conversation and yes The point I'm making is physically attractive women can be beautiful or ugly on the inside. I gave you one example of ugly on the inside. Other physically attractive women have been very nice to me.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I don't blame schoolgirls for anything - I spank them. Reowwrr. :bunny:
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 i just enjoy being around hot guys they make me feel amazing inside just beign around them Sounds like insecurity to me. Like you don't feel like an amazing person unless you're being graced by the glow of some "hot guy." Find some self-esteem. The fact that you keep trying to convince yourself (or us) that you're not a bad person (you keep saying it) tells me you have self-worth issues.
betamanlet Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Not really unless therye attractive,i really dont even like to be around non attractive men Tee hee! Like OMG? What would my friends think if they saw me around non hot guys?
Taramere Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 If a very unattractive man is heading my way, I know I'll tend to be more on guard because I think there's a higher likelihood that he might become weird and aggressive. The association of an unpleasant physical appearance with anti-social behaviour/criminality isn't an uncommon assumption, though in many cases it's unfair. Anecdotally, I've tended to find that physically unattractive men are sometimes hostile, compared to the easy and confident friendliness of more physically appealing men, in the way they try to engage with women....but I think that may often be related to them expecting/picking up on female reluctance to have any dealings with them. Bit of a chicken and egg situation, really. For reasonably compassionate women, it's a tough one to deal with. You can recognise that an unfortunate looking man is being hostile/aggressive most probably because he's had a lifetime of feeling rejected by women, and you can feel some empathy for that. Trying to apply a bit of compassion in your response, in a social situation, can quickly backfire though. They might regard you as the woman who will save them, or as a pushover. Worse still, if they've construed some bad boy/pick-up theory they've read as meaning that women are attracted to obnoxious men, they might mistake any empathic tolerance as a sign of sexual attraction. All said, it's the ugly attitude rather than the ugly face you have to be wary of. A conventionally unattractive face, if coupled with a strong (and psychologically stable) personality can sometimes overshadow a more blandly appealing face - to the point where you see it as beautiful. When the ugly face and the ugly attitude travel in tandem, though, it's a nightmare for all who encounter them on their travels.
carhill Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Yeah, feeling amazing inside is kind of a self-actualizing kind of thing. Share it with someone you love In another decade the OP will look back upon this and be so happy about the learning experience she embarked upon.
DanielMadr Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 If a very unattractive man is heading my way, I know I'll tend to be more on guard because I think there's a higher likelihood that he might become weird and aggressive. The association of an unpleasant physical appearance with anti-social behaviour/criminality isn't an uncommon assumption, though in many cases it's unfair. Anecdotally, I've tended to find that physically unattractive men are sometimes hostile, compared to the easy and confident friendliness of more physically appealing men, in the way they try to engage with women....but I think that may often be related to them expecting/picking up on female reluctance to have any dealings with them. Bit of a chicken and egg situation, really. For reasonably compassionate women, it's a tough one to deal with. You can recognise that an unfortunate looking man is being hostile/aggressive most probably because he's had a lifetime of feeling rejected by women, and you can feel some empathy for that. Trying to apply a bit of compassion in your response, in a social situation, can quickly backfire though. They might regard you as the woman who will save them, or as a pushover. Worse still, if they've construed some bad boy/pick-up theory they've read as meaning that women are attracted to obnoxious men, they might mistake any empathic tolerance as a sign of sexual attraction. All said, it's the ugly attitude rather than the ugly face you have to be wary of. A conventionally unattractive face, if coupled with a strong (and psychologically stable) personality can sometimes overshadow a more blandly appealing face - to the point where you see it as beautiful. When the ugly face and the ugly attitude travel in tandem, though, it's a nightmare for all who encounter them on their travels. Wow almost poetic post. A bit harsh but still poetic. And lots of truth in it I guess. Lucky me...I only confront women wearing a ski mask to not scare them by my facial features.
Sam Spade Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Wow almost poetic post. A bit harsh but still poetic. And lots of truth in it I guess. Lucky me...I only confront women wearing a ski mask to not scare them by my facial features. One would think that you've been around long enough to encounter Taramere. I have wet dreams about her consisting of nothing more than me laying on the bed and her telling me about her day from the other room.
dreamergrl Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Why are you being so mean and harsh? I said its beyond my control i dont want people to think im some bad person im far from it You do have control over it. You can act how you chose to act. Thank you Johhny.Good looking people just make you feel good being around them,it just makes you all mushy inside How many times has an ugly person try to talk to you and you just pray they stop talking to you? I wish it wasnt that way but unattractive people annoy me i know it sounds harsh i cant help it The funny thing is that a crappy attitude kills any outside physical traits. Besides, what is hot to you isn't hot to everyone else. Personally, with your attitude, I'd pray you'd stop talking to me, as I don't want anyone to associate me with this perception. What did she say?? I dont tell unattratcive guys theyre unattractive thats mean i just try to get out of a conversation And you don't think people pick up on this?
Malenfant Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 What did she say?? I dont tell unattratcive guys theyre unattractive thats mean i just try to get out of a conversation If attraction is your only motivation to talk to someone then i'm sure you're a great conversationalist. shame really cos you're missing out on alot if you only talk to 'hotties'
DanielMadr Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 If attraction is your only motivation to talk to someone then i'm sure you're a great conversationalist. shame really cos you're missing out on alot if you only talk to 'hotties' She wants to converse with them for the same reason you want to converse with hotties....not because they have something interesting to say;) When I want to hear something interesting I turn to National Geographic channel not some lousy looking girl who will try to steal my sperm. And vice versa
D-Jam Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I don't think there is anything wrong with MeganDoll's post. I also agree we men do this as much as women do. Lord knows if I get introduced to a fat woman and an aspiring model, I'll be polite and respectful to both, but I'll be yacking with the fat woman in a friendly tone while tossing a little more flirtation at the model. I think if MeganDoll's topic was more like: "My male friends think I'm shallow because I only talk to hot guys and snub average and ugly guys. Why waste my time on someone I'll never date?" OR "Why do only ugly guys hit on me? Why can't I date the hot guys? They never want me! They only want skinny little sluts." OR "Why do all the hot guys act like jerks? Why can't I get a hot guy who treats me right? Seems like my only choices are flings with hot guys or marry a boring average joe loser." THEN...I'd have an issue. Standards are find to have...as long as you get attain them. If not, then they are unrealistic.
cognac Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 It's ok Megandoll, I doubt most people care and nobody is looking for a good judgement in your person (LOL!). However, while it's great to say "oh but I can't control and neither can they", don't become bitter and angry when you turn 40 and you get the short end of this "i luv hot ppl" stick. While it's true men in their 20's are somewhat bitter, it pales in comparison to how angry and hateful women in their late 30's and 40's are because they are seldom pretty or special any more. Just desserts
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Youre either attractive or not to me,as i said i just enjoy being around hot guys they make me feel amazing inside just beign around them,most women feel the same way but wont admit it Errr, wrong answer LOL! You are really jumping to conclusions Megan. I am a woman and I do not feel the same way. I have extremely high self-esteem and do not need to be around 'hot guys' to make me feel 'amazing inside'. I already am amazing and I already feel amazing. Of course we all enjoy being around someone who we find physically attractive more so to just look at, if and only if they don't have intelligence to match and/or any other qualities I do so desire in a man for myself. There is absolutely no reason to be mean, rude, or intolerant to someone just because you find them unnattractive unless of course they are hitting on you and getting waaay too pushy. Otherwise, just be a descent and kind human being all the way around. There is no reason to be so hateful. Hopefully one day something bad doesn't happen to you and the doctor is "UGLY" according to you.
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 There are some amazing people in this world that I do not find physically attractive yet they are attractive in other ways. For example I would've loved to have met Ghandi and spend a lot of time with him. Even Einstein. I could go on with the list of men I don't find physically attractive, yet these men have done so much to change the world, which I do find veeery sexy and appealing.
Taramere Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 One would think that you've been around long enough to encounter Taramere. I have wet dreams about her consisting of nothing more than me laying on the bed and her telling me about her day from the other room. I could show you a thesis-sized, utterly enraged, hyperbole-filled letter I received today which substantiates the notion that I can drive a man crazy with just a couple of words. It wouldn't give you a wet dream though....I'm pretty sure of that. That was my day, dear. How was yours? Wow almost poetic post. A bit harsh but still poetic. And lots of truth in it I guess. Lucky me...I only confront women wearing a ski mask to not scare them by my facial features. You could approach them wearing a ski mask and carrying a scythe. That way you offer both an enigmatic appearance and the clear ability to protect her from ugly predators. (to any lurkers itching for an excuse to hit the alert button, I'm only kidding). When I say ugly, I mean ugly in a really malevolent looking way. This has to be the classic "Look at the accused, m'lord. I rest my case...." face.
DanielMadr Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I could show you a thesis-sized, utterly enraged, hyperbole-filled letter I received today which substantiates the notion that I can drive a man crazy with just a couple of words. It wouldn't give you a wet dream though....I'm pretty sure of that. That was my day, dear. How was yours? You could approach them wearing a ski mask and carrying a scythe. That way you offer both an enigmatic appearance and the clear ability to protect her from ugly predators. (to any lurkers itching for an excuse to hit the alert button, I'm only kidding). When I say ugly, I mean ugly in a really malevolent looking way. This has to be the classic "Look at the accused, m'lord. I rest my case...." face. I don't need a scythe. My mean eyes are enough. Or I can pull down the ski mask and even hardcore predators suddenly need to excuse themselves to do number one, sometimes even number 2 in the corner.
AD1980 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 This is why as somebody whos not atractive i dont even approach women..I can see the look on theyre faces as i approach them like god get this ugly guy away..
DanielMadr Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 This is why as somebody whos not atractive i dont even approach women..I can see the look on theyre faces as i approach them like god get this ugly guy away.. Thats a ****ing sorry ass excuse man. You should charm their bad looks away by not caring about their attitude. Btw you might get lucky. Some of them treasure more balls than good looks. Reminder> dont exactly show them your testicles
AD1980 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Some of them treasure more balls than good looks. Judging by this site thats far from the truth
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