famke Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 hello everyone, so last summer something really special happened to me. I met my boyfriend. And ever since I met him, I love him. We are together for 3,5 months now, and I love to be with him. here's the story: In july his mother died. His mother had cancer for more then ten years, and my boyfriend is only 21, so he grew up taking care of is mother and worrying about her. After being really really sick, his mother died this summer. Anyway, two weeks after this happened I first met my boyfriend at a short vacation he took. It was love at first.. we had a great connection. It was magical. We both felt like we had known eachother for years. We sat on the beach at night, looking at the stars, and talking about life, love and the death of his mother. It was soo real, so pure. After that week we started dating, and things only got better. I was really surprised about his positive attitude about life, while his mother died so shortly. He is really open, he cries about her when he wants and talks alot about her. He is just such a great guy!I feel like he is the love of my life.. until.. two weeks ago.. suddenly he has changed. He doesn't call me as much as he did before.. he used to tell me he missed me, he threated me like a princess, told me how proud he was that I was his girl. Now he is a lot colder, he is always tired, and sometimes just ignores me. I haven't talked with him about this, because I really don't want to be a bitch about it. I don't want to come around as needy or something. So I just wait around.. being patienced and just let him do his thing. I give him the same uncondicional love I gave him from the beginning. I do want to talk about this with him, but I just want to think about this myself first, and just give him some space, also because I think that maybe his behavior is temperary, and he might be the old him again soon. But my questions are: why has he changed so much? Does this have something to do with me or is it just him grieving about his mother? If it is the last one, then why was he so sweet to me in the beginning? what do you guys think about this? thanks alot! ps: sorry for my bad english! I'm from the netherlands.
dreamergrl Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 So he took some time away after the passing of his mom right? Perhaps to deal with things and what not? A lot of times when we lose someone we love, we want to fill a void. It can be a part of the healing process. I think it would be best to talk to him about what you are feeling. If he was filling a hole, it's not fair to either of you to continue on. If maybe he's unsure, the two of you need to talk about it and figure it out.
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