bac Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I have questions to men about sex talk but women are welcome to answer as well. I am curious if sex/dirty talk is acceptable with your BF. I understand that it is fine with a FWB or a NSA because they are OK with a girl to be promiscuous. I also believe that a girl wants her BF respect her and she does not want him to think that she is promiscuous or overexperienced. That is why I have doubts about using sex talk with a BF. Is it a good idea to use dirty words like 'f..ck', 'p...sy' or 'c...ck' with a BF? Is it a turn on or off to say smth like 'f...ck me', 'f...ck my p...sy', 'I want your c...ck badly'? Is there time limits in a relationship on using dirty talk? Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters?
phineas Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I love it. As long as she isn't phoneing it in.
BG1985 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I've never been in a relationship with a girl who talks like that and even when I've dabbled with some morally-loose girls, I've never heard a girl talk like that except in porn videos. I've heard of girls I know who have talked like that with guys though. I guess if you decide to talk like that, make it natural; don't make it look like you're trying too hard.
rod_in_gtown Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 As with anything related to sex it all depends on your comfort levels. You need to get past your perceptions as to what men and women should talk about as if relates to some "norm" or what is considered "normal" by society. The truth is that the only people who should be concerned with your relationship is *shocker* you and your BF. If using explicit language is something that turns him on, then maybe you could think about trying it as something that he enjoys in the process of enjoying your physical relationship. That doesn't mean you should use profane language to address each other in non-sexual circumstances. Using explicit language during sexual acts doesn't give or diminish the level of respect you should have for each other. It's part of sexual play and a normal part of sexual behavior. Some people find it exciting, and some don't, just like some people find neck kissing arousing and some don't. To address your final questions, no, there are no "general" limits on the relationship using dirty talk. It depends on what you're comfortable with. Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters? I have never heard of this, this sounds like something out of a high school cafeteria. During the first sexual encounters, both men and women are gauging each other and how they react to certain things, also talking about these desires is the only way to figure out what the other person likes. When you're going to approach a sexual conversation, make sure you frame your questions in a positive light, don't be judgmental or negative about sexual acts or preferences. It is ok to talk about sex with your partner. It is part of a healthy relationship to ask what's ok and what's not ok. How old are you?
Lizzie60 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I have questions to men about sex talk but women are welcome to answer as well. I am curious if sex/dirty talk is acceptable with your BF. I understand that it is fine with a FWB or a NSA because they are OK with a girl to be promiscuous. I also believe that a girl wants her BF respect her and she does not want him to think that she is promiscuous or overexperienced. That is why I have doubts about using sex talk with a BF. Is it a good idea to use dirty words like 'f..ck', 'p...sy' or 'c...ck' with a BF? Is it a turn on or off to say smth like 'f...ck me', 'f...ck my p...sy', 'I want your c...ck badly'? Is there time limits in a relationship on using dirty talk? Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters? In a serious relationship.. anything goes.. dirty talk, role playing... you name it.. as long as both partners are comfortable with it.. sky's the limit..
jw90063 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I have questions to men about sex talk but women are welcome to answer as well. I am curious if sex/dirty talk is acceptable with your BF. I understand that it is fine with a FWB or a NSA because they are OK with a girl to be promiscuous. I also believe that a girl wants her BF respect her and she does not want him to think that she is promiscuous or overexperienced. That is why I have doubts about using sex talk with a BF. Is it a good idea to use dirty words like 'f..ck', 'p...sy' or 'c...ck' with a BF? Is it a turn on or off to say smth like 'f...ck me', 'f...ck my p...sy', 'I want your c...ck badly'? Is there time limits in a relationship on using dirty talk? Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters? Um, doesn't it depend on the mood and as long as its not all the time. In general, no I would not want a guy talking to me like that, and its not respectful in my opinion.
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I understand that it is fine with a FWB or a NSA because they are OK with a girl to be promiscuous. I've never seen anyone correlate sexy speak to promiscuity before. Is it a good idea to use dirty words like 'f..ck', 'p...sy' or 'c...ck' with a BF? Is it a turn on or off to say smth like 'f...ck me', 'f...ck my p...sy', 'I want your c...ck badly'? [/qyote] Its fine, but like most things, ,if you do it all the time I'd soon tire of it. Don't overuse it in other words. Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters? If its a necessity for you to do, then you may as well get it out early for potential compatibility, lack of computability reasons. .
Author bac Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 I love it. As long as she isn't phoneing it in. It feels artificial to me when I say dirty talk but I guess practice can make it perfect. If it turns on my BF, I can practice saying dirty talk. But I am just not sure if it is turn on or off.
sumdude Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 It feels artificial to me when I say dirty talk but I guess practice can make it perfect. If it turns on my BF, I can practice saying dirty talk. But I am just not sure if it is turn on or off. Ask him.. otherwise if you're not comfortable with it don't do it. Try it on for size though, you never know.
anne1707 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 even when I've dabbled with some morally-loose girls, I've never heard a girl talk like that except in porn videos.. I hardly equate dirty talk with loose morals! As long as both are happy then anything goes
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I have questions to men about sex talk but women are welcome to answer as well. I am curious if sex/dirty talk is acceptable with your BF. I understand that it is fine with a FWB or a NSA because they are OK with a girl to be promiscuous. I also believe that a girl wants her BF respect her and she does not want him to think that she is promiscuous or overexperienced. That is why I have doubts about using sex talk with a BF. Is it a good idea to use dirty words like 'f..ck', 'p...sy' or 'c...ck' with a BF? Is it a turn on or off to say smth like 'f...ck me', 'f...ck my p...sy', 'I want your c...ck badly'? Is there time limits in a relationship on using dirty talk? Is it true that men like it unless it is on the first sexual encounters? I advise you to look at your "dirty talk" in the bedroom as acting, if you want to. Do not ever stoop to actually faking orgasm or feelings, but if you need to prepare your psychological self for the filthy terminology you are about to use, it is entirely fine to look upon that as acting. One of my earliest online experiences was a series of conversations with a *woman who was then married to a man named "B...". She spoke of his wanting her to "talk dirty in bed". She, in turn, being a PTA mom and all, just couldn't bring herself to do it. So eventually I began to insist, that she simply "type after me" phrases such as "B..., I want you to f*ck my hot, wet, p*ssy" ... and the woman took the challenge and was quite willing to recite my statements keystroke for keystroke. Finally, one day, as I tried to inspire her to do that again, she instead said: "OMG, I have done that. he was so turned-on!!!!" The part of your evolution toward becoming such a fun-seeming hussy in the bedroom that intrigues me the most is after that sex session when you boldly and willingly look your man right in the eyes. You engage his eyes directly and confidently as you discuss matters of the day right after you were so bold and so daring as to have spewed such sexy, filthy, desirous statements to express just where and how hard you wanted it. Good for you! (* Last I knew, that woman had left her marriage in California for a man she met online in the Chicago area <perhaps a decade ago now>)
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