MissGoLightly Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I've met my bf's parents several times. He hasn't met mine yet, because they live out of state. He's never seemed particularly interested in meeting my parents. Over the weekend, when we were driving back to his house after having a dinner party for his mom's birthday, we were joking about inappropriate things to say/do in front of an SO's parents. That topic of conversation was kind of winding down, then he says, "If I ever do meet your parents it'll be because we're serious, and then they'll have to like me." Well, I thought we were serious. What do you make of this? And how do you know when you're "serious"? Edit: At the dinner party, while we were making dinner, he and his sister both said I was family. Maybe they were joking?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 "If I ever do meet your parents it'll be because we're serious, and then they'll have to like me." What do you make of this? You are letting your mind believe things that were neither stated nor implied by your b/f. Nothing about what he said suggests that you are not, NOW, serious. People whose relationships reach the mythical black and white line of "serious" are not in the habit of immediately turning left and flying across country for one to meet the other's parents at that mythical moment. Don't give this another thought. Now if next week, your parents are 20 miles away eating burgers at the White Castle, and your boyfriend refuses the opportunity to meet them when they're so convenient, then come back here and make another post on the subject. Until then, take a deep breath and cease to be concerned about this issue. Wouldn't he have said: "... it will be because we GET serious..." if your fears were well-founded?
Author MissGoLightly Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 That never even occurred to me! I see the distinction you're making. That makes me feel much better about this situation.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Awwwwwww, I'm glad you got this (to think about) so quickly.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I was taking the serious comment to mean that he's on the verge of proposing (meaning, he'd BE on the verge of proposing = "serious"). Sounds like you two are having a lot of fun. Just roll with it. And I totally agree with S.O.G. about not dropping everything to go meet your out-of-state parents when you haven't reached the proposal point yet. Nothing really alarming, here.
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