poppy13 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Dated a guy for a few months. Things were great but we never progressed to the next level. After a very long (breakup) conversation, both of us acknowledged that our relationship was 'stuck'. I admit I was more emotionally invested and he was just 'confused', so I ended it and said that it was better he not contact me. He was upset about it but at the same time he couldn't commit, so he finally agreed that he wouldn't call. He didn't reach out after that. I'm not really surprised because he is a methodical guy and he knows it doesn't make sense to do so unless he was sure about being in a relationship. Still, part of me was hurt but I managed not to contact him either. 4 months of nothing and he is now reaching out. Could have he realized how amazing I am (which is true ) or is it a call for attention? I would think the latter with most guys, but this one isn't really that type to call out for attention for no reason. Anyway. I just dont know what to do.
quankanne Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 were you comfortable with the relationship in other aspects? You mention things were great ... so much that if you could leave out the "committed relationship" part, you'd easily date him again? other question is to ask him point blank what his intentions are: Does he just want to date/hang out with you, and that's it, or does he have a deeper relationship in mind? If this were me, and I wanted something more than just casual dating, I'd base my response on these last two questions; if I were just interested in the casual dating thing with him, I'd definitely look him up again if he was a truly decent guy to be around. of course this last part sounds like a friend-zone kind of thing!
Author poppy13 Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 It's weird because now that it's been awhile (and I was even seeing someone else) I wouldn't want to jump into a committed relationship. However, things being casual was the problem in the first place. Yeah and then there is the friend zone thing. I am actually considering just being friends, and letting him know that I'll come around when I'm ready (if he is interested again...which I think he is). But right now, I'm just not ready
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