Katie94 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I an reasonably good looking and spend a considerable amount on clothes and grooming but i am extremely shy. I cannot attract any guys while girls who can talk more seem to get all the right prizes. What can I do short of making a sign to say,"I am available"?
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 The other girls aren't attracting the guys because they can talk more, believe you me, haha. Make eye contact, long enough to catch a guys attention, then smile girlie smile. .
CaliGuy Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I an reasonably good looking and spend a considerable amount on clothes and grooming but i am extremely shy. I cannot attract any guys while girls who can talk more seem to get all the right prizes. What can I do short of making a sign to say,"I am available"? Make lots of eye contact at a guy you are interested in and smile. Heck, go talk to him. You need to face your fears to overcome them. The only way to do it is to just get off your butt and go for it. Don't worry about rejection. It comes with the territory and we all face it. No matter how hot or not you are.
MarieMarie Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I have the same problem. I actually used to feel pretty bad about it until one of my friends pointed out that I don't tend to make eye contact with strangers. That seems to be key...
Ms. Joolie Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 (edited) Haha... how interesting. I replied to some guy's thread in regards to being attractive. IMO, for a guy, confidence is attractive. So if he's loving the life he's living, he'll be confidant and attractive. Same for females, as long as you are loving the life you live, you will be confidant and attractive. A confidant woman is a beautiful thing. Talk alone is not impressive. You know men are especially visual, and especially attracted to looks, or shall I say, beauty? So you being the self-proclaimed shy person that you are... maybe you can consider this approach: become more visual. Let them see you. That DOESN'T mean wear revealing clothes. That means to let them see your smile, your eyes, or the way that blouse fits over your body. Remember, it's a woman's beauty that attracts. Edited November 9, 2009 by Ms. Joolie
rod_in_gtown Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 The secret is smiling. Doesn't matter so much what you wear (though it does matter a bit) or how hot you are. If you sport a nice sincere smile and make eye contact, you'll be good to go.
boogieboy Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Do like your girls do and talk to the guys...only way you will have the success that they do. Theres no easy painless way around it.
Lizzie60 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I an reasonably good looking and spend a considerable amount on clothes and grooming but i am extremely shy. I cannot attract any guys while girls who can talk more seem to get all the right prizes. What can I do short of making a sign to say,"I am available"? Save yourself the money... men don't care about clothes.. My advice: look confident.. just say (to yourself ): f*ck the world... I want YOU! look at him straight in the eyes.. and give him your nicest smile.. ear to ear..
stepka Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Good advice from all, but I have something more to add: if you catch yourself doing the kneejerk thing and looking away quickly when he looks at you, then just look at him again and then smile. Do it soon though, b/c if you wait too long, he'll assume you're not interested. You can use shyness to your advantage too, b/c you can do the shy little flirty thing and it won't be fake in your case. I always used to say that shyness was an advantage with my little girl scouts selling cookies, b/c who could say no to them? It would be like kicking a puppy!
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