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Sexual performance....Am I a mean girl?


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Well would you want to talk about it if some guy asked if you ran a church in your house because it smelled like the day after a fish fry, then laughed about it?

 

This isn't the same, she didn't laugh at him, or throw insults at him, she questioned what was going on. It's a perfectuly normal reaction to someone just stopping during sex without any indication of ejaculating because they turned around.

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Actually, the OP doesn't know exactly what she said to him.

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He "finished" unexpectedly, between positions and was really embarassed about it.

 

Can sensitive guys get over something like this?

 

 

If you invite them over again and share a bottle of wine.

 

I think you mentioned both coming out of marriages. Create the enviroment and let nature take its course.

 

Just proceed as if it is no big deal and he'll just follow your lead (hopefully). Is there something manly you need done around the house? Invite him over to move something heavy, and then break out the wine.

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Actually, the OP doesn't know exactly what she said to him.

 

 

I said

"Did you pull out BECAUSE you were ejaculating or were we going to change positions and THEN you (unfortunately) ejaculated"

 

Doesn't sound mean to me.... Honest question.

 

Anyways.... we are going to see each other again. I won't bring it up unless he does. Which he won't!

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I said

"Did you pull out BECAUSE you were ejaculating or were we going to change positions and THEN you (unfortunately) ejaculated"

no one says the word "ejaculate" during hot sex. i believe the word "come" is used much more widely.

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During the first or second sexual encounter with a new woman...I have found that even the most experienced and confident men can have a "too soon" issue. For the most part, they are as surprised as we are and able to comment on it, apologize, laugh , and move on ...knowing they will do better next time. no big deal.

 

I would lay odds that your guy....has this problem all the time and knows that the next time will be no different.

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OMG... the little 'sensitive' 'put-your-white-gloves' type.. when you talk about sex... :laugh:

 

He came in the 'air' and blame you for being mean... come on.. he's the 'drama queen' type.. I wouldn't bother.. I don't have patience with people who can't be opened about sex.. especially when you've both been married before.. :rolleyes:

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I said

"Did you pull out BECAUSE you were ejaculating or were we going to change positions and THEN you (unfortunately) ejaculated"

 

I was quite open about it and asked him a few questions, which, I guess, humiliated him even more.

 

 

 

Safe then to say that it was the rest of the questions which did you in.

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no one says the word "ejaculate" during hot sex. i believe the word "come" is used much more widely.

 

Yeah I said come. Geez!

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laugh , and move on ...knowing they will do better next time. no big deal.

 

You'd think.

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Safe then to say that it was the rest of the questions which did you in.

 

That's all I asked.

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You havent wrote what you exactly said to him but I get it wasnt exactly comforting. So,

 

Id say he is too sensitive emotionally (and physically)

And you should watch what you are saying so you dont have to regret it later. Being tactful in bed is always a plus. Less words is better.

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