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dave22 Established Member

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I had this discussion with a couple of female friends of mine last night. They both mentioned how they really liked it when men open doors for them. I am wondering if there are any other similar things women like men to do and, on the other hand, if there are any things some people may think are courteous but you may feel are demeaning in some way or would just prefer men didn't do.

DanielMadr Established Member

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fetch a ball

carhill Established Member

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They both mentioned how they really liked it when men open doors for them.

 

Translation: They like banging guys who don't :)

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I had this discussion with a couple of female friends of mine last night. They both mentioned how they really liked it when men open doors for them. I am wondering if there are any other similar things women like men to do and, on the other hand, if there are any things some people may think are courteous but you may feel are demeaning in some way or would just prefer men didn't do.

 

Holding doors open is nice--it really does warm my heart when a man naturally does it i.e. not acting put-off and annoyed by it, or that it's required of him.

 

Honestly, my standards have lowered so much since being in college: I use to have an ideal man, but now I'd consider any man who occasionally dresses in something other than a sweatshirt and sandals, doesn't belch, fart, and/or pick their nose in public, and knows how to converse properly i.e. neither filibustering the whole conversation, nor sitting mute.

 

Haha, though, these requirements still seem pretty ideal in comparison to today's available young men...:laugh:

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Eh, if you're confident, handsome and successful, your bonability index will not suffer one whit for having a few social graces.

 

Seriously. Women don't go after "bad boys" because they're bad - they go after them because they have a sack of balls. Most girls would rather date non-sh*thead guys, but exciting + non-sh*thead is a combination that comes at a premium these days.

 

So grow thy balls, good sir. And of opening doors, ye need not fear.

 

The More You Know

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Translation: They like banging guys who don't :)

Aww. That's not true. My XH always opened doors for me. Most recent guy I dated always opened doors for me. I adored both of them. It totally added to my attraction. XBF from earlier this year was not a door-opener and it bothered me.

 

Chivalry is awesome. But it's not ALL there is. It's just - if the attraction is already there, chivalry is a HUGE plus. But it, in and of itself, will not get you into bed.

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LOL..... I'm just bitter :D

 

My stbx always bolted and I rarely got the chance to open car and building doors. She did like my foot massages though :)

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LOL..... I'm just bitter :D

 

My stbx always bolted and I rarely got the chance to open car and building doors. She did like my foot massages though :)

Understandable - a rough marriage can do that to a person. I totally hear you. ;)

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I am touched when men open doors, pull out a chair for you to sit, help you out with bags etc..

 

I was recently traveling alone and was seated next to a guy. When he saw that I was traveling alone, he got my bags and put them in the overhead locker for me, and got them out and put them back in when I needed them. He also gave me a small chocolate bar from one of his meals and his blanket. AND he wasn't trying to flirt with me in any way. That's just the way he naturally is :love: Totally made my flight.

 

Contrary to popular opinion, there is not a bigger turn on for me than niceness and kindness.

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Understandable - a rough marriage can do that to a person. I totally hear you. ;)

LOL, I'm eating fish and chips and drinking Sapporo and the Asian ladies are reigniting my confidence in the female gender. :)

 

I'm sure our M was no picnic for my stbx either. Personally, I don't think our love languages translated well. She thought all that door opening, gentlemanly stuff was kinda sappy. SadandConfused described me perfectly when I fly (and elsewhere). There's no 'agenda', just the result of socialization by some great parents :)

SoulSearch_CO Established Member

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pull out a chair for you to sit

:o That was SUCH a new concept to me with the most recent guy I dated. He'd pull out a chair and I'd walk to the next one and pull it out for myself and sit down. While he's standing there with this "wtf" look on his face. LOL But yes - that is yet another chivalrous move that melted me.

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I had this discussion with a couple of female friends of mine last night. They both mentioned how they really liked it when men open doors for them. I am wondering if there are any other similar things women like men to do and, on the other hand, if there are any things some people may think are courteous but you may feel are demeaning in some way or would just prefer men didn't do.

 

 

When most women say they "like" shy guys, they really mean they love guys who aren't shy.

 

You're most likely shooting yourself in the foot being "nice" to most women, hence why they are "friends" and they always complain about what jerks their bfs are, but never seem to want to date guys like you.

 

Don't worry about doing nice things for them. However if you're trying to be with a woman who likes being treated like, don't be upset if she doesn't want you. She's rather crazy and would make your life hell if she were involved with you.

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I do like it when my boyfriend opens doors for me, pulls out my chair, etc.

 

I also like it when he sends me an email just to tell me he loves me or is thinking about me.

 

Just anything I don't expect that's sweet is nice.

 

Of course, if he'd like to pay off my student loans, I'd also have no problem with that... :laugh:

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I like for him to:

 

  • open the door for me at least every once and awhile when we go out
  • send me random little texts saying he misses me
  • compliment me on how hot I look sometimes
  • stare me in the eyes with this "Wow, I am one lucky man" look
  • hold my hand when we are out together

That's all I can think of for now.

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I love flowers! Especially for no reason. Little romantic gestures like that every once in a while mean a lot to me. I had a bf once who said, when I told him I liked flowers, "I never get girls flowers. I had a gf once who worked at a florist's and she said most flower arrangements weren't very good, so she never wanted me to get them for her." RIDICULOUS!!

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I like when he comes home from a long day and gives me a kiss hello

 

opening a door is nice, but pulling out a chair too much, creepy even.

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Little inexpensive gifts that show you were thinking of me : You go home for the weekend and bring me a T-shirt from your home town. You go to the store, and pick me up my favorite Ben & Jerry's ice cream without me asking for it.

 

These small gestures show you care, and that you are thinking of me when I'm not with you !

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Little inexpensive gifts that show you were thinking of me : You go home for the weekend and bring me a T-shirt from your home town. You go to the store, and pick me up my favorite Ben & Jerry's ice cream without me asking for it.

 

These small gestures show you care, and that you are thinking of me when I'm not with you !

 

I love stuff like that. Once when my boyfriend was driving me back to campus from his house, we stopped at a rest area to get a snack. We spotted a little coffee shop/bakery and I got a really, really good M&M cookie. I kept raving about how delicious it was, and from then on whenever he drove to campus to visit me/pick me up for breaks he'd stop there and pick up a cookie for me. He'd get extra ones if it was a special occasion, like my birthday, major holiday or anniversary. :love::D

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Burn me a CD of songs HE thinks I would enjoy....or songs that mirror his feelings for me...:love:

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OK. I'm not sure who will think this is romantic, but I love when he does it:

After we're finished :love::bunny:, and he has worn me out:love:, he gets up , and rinses out a wash cloth with warm water,and gently wipes me off, then brings me a cold beer.:D

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The things I like men to do from times I've been in relationships:

 

- They take care of everything. I feel like the weight of the world off my shoulders.

 

- They only need your assistance as to send some check, call for quotes, or simple things like that.

 

- They drive the car.

 

- Whenever you go places you feel sheltered by the guy.

 

- They go out at night when you are sick to get you medicine and take you to the doctor, they actually care for you.

 

- Whenever you have to deal with something heavy or cumbersome they deal with it, like digging, lifting, moving, etc.

 

But I understand these are not little things.

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Holding doors, definitely. Anyone, male or female, who doesnt hold the door for the person behind them is just plain rude. I cant stand that.

 

I dont expect a guy to do anything for me but at least offering to do something is very sweet, like carrying shopping baqs.

Dropping the girl off at the front door of the mall, restaurant or whatever, in bad weather. I would NEVER let a guy do that for me but it is super cute when he offers.

 

Plain politeness is key.

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Dropping the girl off at the front door of the mall, restaurant or whatever, in bad weather.

 

I LOVE that. My boyfriend does that for me when we're spontaneously caught in bad weather and I'm unprepared. He'll drop me off at the front door and pick me up at the door if the weather is still bad by the time we're about to head out. He's a sweetie. :love:

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Holding doors, definitely. Anyone, male or female, who doesnt hold the door for the person behind them is just plain rude. I cant stand that.

Yes, I would agree.. but I *think* in these situations they mean when the guy is actually behind you/ slighty ahead of you and opens the door, steps out of the way, then lets you in. I do love that :love:

 

And the dropping off in bad weather is wonderful too. Just doing little things without me having to ask I adore, like getting me a (his :) ) sweatshirt when I'm cold and not having to ask for it.

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Things my new guy does that I love:

 

  • he not only holds doors open for me, but whenever we are getting in his car, he opens my car door (the passenger side) for me, and closes it behind me
  • he stashed my favorite candy (which he doesn't like) in his glove box
  • he remembers what I've told him, and checks in regularly ("Hey I remember you said you were doing X today - how'd that go?")
  • He left work early to drive me to the airport last week
  • He stashed a card for me in my suitcase when I wasn't looking

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