Bananna3 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I met a guy pretty randomly online about 3 months ago. He IMed me, and we just sort of introduced ourselves and we started talking. We kept talking acouple times a week, we would get on webcam and talk, but the sound on mine does not always work, so we exchanged numbers, so we would be on the phone sometimes too and we just talked and, well got to know eachother. We text eachother all the time, we talk online and on the phone. We are both 19, in college, so we kind of are going through the same kind of things in life. He lives in NY and I live in FL. I used to live in NY and have lots of family there, so that was just another thing we had in common. The issue now is, we are always joking about "whenever someday, we meet up...blah, blah.." but the truth is, I really do like him and dont know if I should find a way to make a meeting possible. He said he wanted to try to come down to see me over spring break this year, and then would joke that I have to buy HIM the ticket...and I was like NO. "You want to see me, you can find a way to get here". The truth is though, now that more time has passed, I really do want to meet him too. I know its usually frowned upon, but you think I should go and see him, maybe over the holiday break or something. I was thinking maybe surprising him for our B-days, because Iam the 15th of February and he is the 16th...so I thought maybe I could do that. I dont know, I just was wondering, would u guys try to really make it happen and meet someone like this, or would you say, b/c of how we met, so randomly and on a chat online, that I should just never meet him???
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I say, "Why not?" With a few qualifiers. First of all - can you stay with your family that you have in that area? That would cut down on the cost a lot and if things don't turn out, you didn't waste a trip. Second - I would make sure you have his full name and do a check on the guy. I'm not kidding. In this day and age, you need to be careful. Age does not matter when it comes to homicidal tendencies. Third - if you do end up going, make sure somebody you know and trust has his full name, address, phone number, and knows exactly when you'll be with this guy and when they can expect you to be DONE meeting with this guy and that you'll check in to say you're alive. Be reckless in love (sometimes that's how the best love stories begin), but never reckless with your life/body.
Author Bananna3 Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 Well, That was actually what I was planning on doing. I was planning on going to see some family that I have not seen in a long time, and while I am there, meet him for lunch or dinner. I was kind of surprised but he actually asked me if I was going to allow him to meet my family. He always tells me, "how are you going to explain me to your family?" and I always ask him, "well, how are you going to explain ME to your family??", I mean my parents know about me talking to him, we are a very open family. I take it that I am his little secret at the moment. Part of me is ok with that and the other part of me is not ok with that. I dont know.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I would say, in general, talk with him as if you are intent upon meeting him in February as mentioned, and then don't make any final commitments in terms of paying for the trip until January. IF you are still talking excitedly in January, then by all means, make plans and have fun looking forward to the trip. Most central to any online-to-real-life meeting is the time invested on both sides prior to the meeting. The mainstream bad guys don't tend to have the required attention span for that. They don't have to, as there is always a line-up of women perfectly willing to be their next victims. You don't have to be in such a line.
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